Husband constantly texts his sister.

Re: Husband constantly texts his sister.

• puppylove2014 member

  

  January 2015

  If it is interfering with what you are doing (i.e. eating dinner) make ground rules for when texting is not ok.

  
  

  I'm not sure why you would care that it's his sister. I'm getting from your post that you'd be ok with it if it was a brother? 

  
  

  Are you annoyed that he is constantly on his phone, or annoyed that he is close with his sister again? Is there a reason you don't like her? Why were they not close after you got married?

  
  

  To answer your question, no. I do not think it is strange for a guy to text with his sister all the time. I think it is strange for his wife of eight years to seem to feel somehow threatened by it.

  
  

  Seems there is more to the story here.

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• jtmh2012 mod

  

  January 2015

  puppylove2014 said:

  To answer your question, no. I do not think it is strange for a guy to text with his sister all the time. I think it is strange for his wife of eight years to seem to feel somehow threatened by it.

  This.  I think it also comes off as very "I'm not doing it, so he shouldn't do it either".

  
  

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• VOR member

  

  January 2015

  Eh, I find it odd to be texting someone, ANYone, that much. I knew a guy who was like this w/ his best friend. they called/ texted each other ALL the time. I found it odd. But - I agree, how does this affect you? Focus on that. If he's focused on his phone when you all are eating, or hanging out and talking yourselves, or... whatever. If his "need" to text his sister really is interfering w/ his time with YOU- then address that issue. Do NOT make it " you text your sister too much". That won't get you anywhere. But saying "Texting (anyone) while we're eating is rude to me", or "texting while I was trying to tell you a story is rude to me" will get you a lot further. Make it about the TEXTING, not the WHO.

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• TarponMonoxide member

  

  January 2015

  lillyphoebe1 said:

  Over the last 6 months, my husband and his sister have been texting each other a lot. It's often a running back and forth daily commentary...topics like, 'How's your day going?...I'm getting my car washed...We watched such and such movie...What are you getting Dad for Christmas?....I'm getting him this....We're at the store doing returns...I love you..(Lots of 'I love yous'). etc. etc. 

  
  

  It's starting to get on my nerves a little...you know, always seeing his head bent over the phone texting with her. Is it me, or is it a little much for a guy to be texting with his sister all the time? They were very close before he and I married over 8 years ago and then they were not as close and have recently become close again. She's been married 4 years. I don't have siblings, so I can't relate. 

  
  

  Not sure if I should say something, or let it go...

  He may simply have "turned into" one of those zombies that texts texts and texts all day long.
  
  I am not crazy about that --- how much can you have to say to anybody, all day long???   In ever got these people who are constantly texting or checking a phone.
  
  Communication is key.
  
  Talk to him maybe after dinner and tell him you and he need to do more things together --- even a walk after dinner will do, on a daily baisis.
  

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• Erikan73 member

  

  January 2015

  I have to agree with PP, setting ground rules that apply to both of you (and any kids if you have any) about when phones have to be put down is a way to go. This way it's not just his sister, but any relatives & friends so you aren't ruffling anybodies feathers by singling out his sister. There should be quiet time set aside where you have each other's undivided attention. After reading some of the posts on this board about the bad relationships some sibilings have, it's great that he talks to his sister regularly.

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