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Really long vent

It's one I've had before. It drives me crazy how little P will help around the house. It's like a roller coaster. I comment/argue with him about it, he does better for awhile, then when he has time off or a long weekend it starts to go downhill from there. I'm just so tired of doing everything: taking care of Lily, cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, budgeting, cleaning the cat box, ugh I could keep going.

I'm just in a bad mood since Saturday I guess. We were talking about trying for the second kid or waiting. I suggested waiting (even though I am so envious of everyone getting pregnant and really want another one myself) because I feel like we should have a few more months getting used to our new budget. We are spending more on our mortgage than rent. The house was in our monthly budget but since moving we have struggled each month. Moving ended up costing us more than we thought. Add in Christmas, paying our insurance deductible for P's fender bender and we have yet to catch up/balance out.

Throw in a teething toddler with a crazy sleep schedule lately and I feel like I'm > < this close to a breakdown. I was actually going to go visit my mom for a week or two this month just to get away for a bit. And for beef to restock our freezer. But now I'm waiting on payday Friday to get an oil change and then I need to stay next week if we are going to try for a kiddo.

Ok that was crazy long. I had to get it all out there. I'm sure most of my frustration is from my lack of sleep lately. And I am looking for ways to bring in more money. I have a profile on Care.com and I posted in my local mom group for babysitting jobs. So far nothing. If we end up really needing money I will go back to work and lily can go to daycare. I've been able to stay home this long which has been great. Just so you guys know I am try to solve the problems I complain about.
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  • That has gotta be frustrating! = (. I understand the hubby not helping around the house...and it's just us! I think he forgets that I also work full time and go to school full time. It wouldn't kill you to do dishes or at least pick up after yourself.

    I hope things get better and you get some rest soon!

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  • I know! Just do the dishes or vacuum!!! Lol. And thanks! They will get better. I tend to be a worrier and I think it has been keeping me up. P isn't worried. So I just need some sleep and a vacation. Lol
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  • Aww. I'm sorry you are struggling. I will hire you as a babysitter once we need one again. I am always envious of the activities you do with lily on a regular basis.
  • I'm sorry. I hope you get it figured out.
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  • I am sorry you are going through a rough time. Hopefully P will start helping more. You shouldn't be expected to do it all. It's not fair.

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  • Awww thanks you guys. It really helped just venting. I think my biggest problem is that I feel guilty for being able to stay home while P works. So normally I try to do everything. Then when I hit my overload point, every little thing starts to get on my nerves. Like not doing the dishes.
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  • I think you are right to want to wait until things settle down with Lily and you are more comfortable in your new budget. I really hope things get better for the two of you soon and he helps you out more. It is definitely not easy being the default parent as you brought up in another post. I do pretty much everything in the house when it comes to chores and taking care of Abby. DH will usually take out the trash if I ask and vacuum upstairs. Hang in there.
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