If I get banned tonight....

CuriousKiddosMama · January 2015

Being serious here, my BMB decided to jump ship with the new terms the bump came up with. I have been posting here a ton more than I have been over there, and I don't feel like I have done anything to get banned, but it has happened before to others on the board accidentally. So if I get banned I will appeal it to get back, but in the mean time behave yourselves. (Totally just kidding there, this is like the tamest board ever so far as drama goes) but I may miss some spam in the middle of all of this if I do get temp banned. I would hate to not be a part of this board anymore, you all hekp keep me motivated!

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

Oh no! Be careful out there!

vlagrl29 · January 2015

OMG - SAHM board jumped ship several months ago. Drama galore. Hope you don't get banned. You can always sign up with a new alias.

Wulfgar · January 2015

Our BMB was one of the crazier ones this time. We had at least one moderator totally leave the bump and I think a second one got demoted once the board settled down and it didn't need a second moderator.

Th e thing that drove most of us crazy including MW is the fact that they only wanted one post ever on any subject and wanted everyone to do searches. Also, some of them would go to the parent's board and bring over people from there.

I hope that you don't get caught up in similar BS.

mana8503 · January 2015

I just heard about the drama on Parenting. I hope you don't get banned!

@wulfgar - ours is like that too (S14).

lifeonthehill · January 2015

It looks like you made it though the night!

You have no reason to get banned so I really hope it doesn't happen! We need you on this board!

CuriousKiddosMama · January 2015

Still here this morning so that's a good thing. With the new terms it seemed like anyone who posted last night on the one thread could have been banned, so who knows. I've heard about parenting too, now July 13 has left and I've also heard a couple months ago SAHM left too. It's crazy, they are going to lose so many people, and it's sad because now when you go to a board you may not get an answer/help/whatever.
I don't know if the rule changes apply over here, it looked like it was just for the bump, but just in case being rude can get you instantly banned, spamming, and just commenting to get your post count up or something silly like that. Also abuse of the report button.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

Glad our fearless mod is still here!

These things seem to go in cycles. I remember there was a mass exodus on TK right before my wedding in 2013. I did agree with the frustrations but wasn't really a cool kid over there so didn't participate. When I went back a few months later to lurk all the regs had seemingly returned. Hopefully this will blow over too!

smbenevides1989 · January 2015

Wow, that's nuts. This is the reason I don't go over there. People are relentless!

Glad you're still here!

hoffse · January 2015

Xstatic3333 said:

Glad our fearless mod is still here! These things seem to go in cycles. I remember there was a mass exodus on TK right before my wedding in 2013. I did agree with the frustrations but wasn't really a cool kid over there so didn't participate. When I went back a few months later to lurk all the regs had seemingly returned. Hopefully this will blow over too!

Oh yeah I remember that too. I got married in April, everybody jumped ship in May or June, and then when I kind of started looking at TK again later that summer it seemed like everybody had disappeared.

Honestly I'm impressed with the way everybody conducts themselves on this board. Given that money is one of the "big 3" things you don't talk about in polite company (the other two being religion and politics), I'm amazed we've never had a major dramatic event in the last couple of years. I honestly dread the day the dramatic people find this board.

Every time a newb comes on here I sort of wait for the other shoe to drop - and so far, every new person has been great! Hopefully it continues that way. All we try to do on here is work out our various money issues. That's so much more important than whether your FMIL wore white to the wedding...

lifeonthehill · January 2015

hoffse said:

Xstatic3333 said:

Glad our fearless mod is still here! These things seem to go in cycles. I remember there was a mass exodus on TK right before my wedding in 2013. I did agree with the frustrations but wasn't really a cool kid over there so didn't participate. When I went back a few months later to lurk all the regs had seemingly returned. Hopefully this will blow over too!

Oh yeah I remember that too. I got married in April, everybody jumped ship in May or June, and then when I kind of started looking at TK again later that summer it seemed like everybody had disappeared.

Honestly I'm impressed with the way everybody conducts themselves on this board. Given that money is one of the "big 3" things you don't talk about in polite company (the other two being religion and politics), I'm amazed we've never had a major dramatic event in the last couple of years. I honestly dread the day the dramatic people find this board.

Every time a newb comes on here I sort of wait for the other shoe to drop - and so far, every new person has been great! Hopefully it continues that way. All we try to do on here is work out our various money issues. That's so much more important than whether your FMIL wore white to the wedding...

I think the reason the newbies here are always so great is because they feed off the already established vibe of the board.

As for the whole "money shouldn't be discussed in polite company" thing. I hate that. I am so thankful I have this board. I try to be open with people when they ask about us being so MM but there just seems to be this weird stigma when it comes to us trying to be smart with money. People act like we are crazy.

hoffse · January 2015

alyssa32713 said:

hoffse said:

Xstatic3333 said:

Glad our fearless mod is still here! These things seem to go in cycles. I remember there was a mass exodus on TK right before my wedding in 2013. I did agree with the frustrations but wasn't really a cool kid over there so didn't participate. When I went back a few months later to lurk all the regs had seemingly returned. Hopefully this will blow over too!

Oh yeah I remember that too. I got married in April, everybody jumped ship in May or June, and then when I kind of started looking at TK again later that summer it seemed like everybody had disappeared.

Honestly I'm impressed with the way everybody conducts themselves on this board. Given that money is one of the "big 3" things you don't talk about in polite company (the other two being religion and politics), I'm amazed we've never had a major dramatic event in the last couple of years. I honestly dread the day the dramatic people find this board.

Every time a newb comes on here I sort of wait for the other shoe to drop - and so far, every new person has been great! Hopefully it continues that way. All we try to do on here is work out our various money issues. That's so much more important than whether your FMIL wore white to the wedding...

I think the reason the newbies here are always so great is because they feed off the already established vibe of the board.
As for the whole "money shouldn't be discussed in polite company" thing. I hate that. I am so thankful I have this board. I try to be open with people when they ask about us being so MM but there just seems to be this weird stigma when it comes to us trying to be smart with money. People act like we are crazy.

I hate it too. I think if it weren't so taboo, more people would be in a better financial position.

lifeonthehill · January 2015

hoffse said:

alyssa32713 said:

hoffse said:

Xstatic3333 said:

Glad our fearless mod is still here! These things seem to go in cycles. I remember there was a mass exodus on TK right before my wedding in 2013. I did agree with the frustrations but wasn't really a cool kid over there so didn't participate. When I went back a few months later to lurk all the regs had seemingly returned. Hopefully this will blow over too!

Oh yeah I remember that too. I got married in April, everybody jumped ship in May or June, and then when I kind of started looking at TK again later that summer it seemed like everybody had disappeared.

Honestly I'm impressed with the way everybody conducts themselves on this board. Given that money is one of the "big 3" things you don't talk about in polite company (the other two being religion and politics), I'm amazed we've never had a major dramatic event in the last couple of years. I honestly dread the day the dramatic people find this board.

Every time a newb comes on here I sort of wait for the other shoe to drop - and so far, every new person has been great! Hopefully it continues that way. All we try to do on here is work out our various money issues. That's so much more important than whether your FMIL wore white to the wedding...

I think the reason the newbies here are always so great is because they feed off the already established vibe of the board.
As for the whole "money shouldn't be discussed in polite company" thing. I hate that. I am so thankful I have this board. I try to be open with people when they ask about us being so MM but there just seems to be this weird stigma when it comes to us trying to be smart with money. People act like we are crazy.

I hate it too. I think if it weren't so taboo, more people would be in a better financial position.

Oh I agree 200%. I think I have helped a few friends get a little more on track but now my mom is so irritated we have been putting TTC and fun on hold because of finances she wont even invite me out because she thinks I will be a cheap wet blanket. She is 44 and has no retirement or health insurance. I don't want to be her.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

alyssa32713 said:

hoffse said:

alyssa32713 said:

hoffse said:

Xstatic3333 said:

Glad our fearless mod is still here!

These things seem to go in cycles. I remember there was a mass exodus on TK right before my wedding in 2013. I did agree with the frustrations but wasn't really a cool kid over there so didn't participate. When I went back a few months later to lurk all the regs had seemingly returned. Hopefully this will blow over too!

Oh yeah I remember that too. I got married in April, everybody jumped ship in May or June, and then when I kind of started looking at TK again later that summer it seemed like everybody had disappeared.

Honestly I'm impressed with the way everybody conducts themselves on this board. Given that money is one of the "big 3" things you don't talk about in polite company (the other two being religion and politics), I'm amazed we've never had a major dramatic event in the last couple of years. I honestly dread the day the dramatic people find this board.

Every time a newb comes on here I sort of wait for the other shoe to drop - and so far, every new person has been great! Hopefully it continues that way. All we try to do on here is work out our various money issues. That's so much more important than whether your FMIL wore white to the wedding...

I think the reason the newbies here are always so great is because they feed off the already established vibe of the board.
As for the whole "money shouldn't be discussed in polite company" thing. I hate that. I am so thankful I have this board. I try to be open with people when they ask about us being so MM but there just seems to be this weird stigma when it comes to us trying to be smart with money. People act like we are crazy.

I hate it too. I think if it weren't so taboo, more people would be in a better financial position.

Oh I agree 200%. I think I have helped a few friends get a little more on track but now my mom is so irritated we have been putting TTC and fun on hold because of finances she wont even invite me out because she thinks I will be a cheap wet blanket. She is 44 and has no retirement or health insurance. I don't want to be her.

Definitely agree as well! We turn down a lot of invites to things like concerts and beer festivals that don't fit our budget, and I always struggle with what reason to give.

vlagrl29 · January 2015

Yep, all the SAHM's (most of them) went to the "other" board so I lurk there sometimes as well and the news of your banning on the BMB has even gotten over there.

I don't know how anyone keeps up with the Parenting board - it's crazy busy with lots of GIFs

vlagrl29 · January 2015

well the gist I got was that The Bump put up new guidelines of no snark, no calling out or name calling, etc. which is pretty much what the bump is or was right? lol I'm sure everyone is jumping ship now.

CuriousKiddosMama · January 2015

vlagrl29 said:
well the gist I got was that The Bump put up new guidelines of no snark, no calling out or name calling, etc. which is pretty much what the bump is or was right? lol I'm sure everyone is jumping ship now.

What upset a lot of people is that they feel like they have gone too far. You can't call somebody out for being discriminatory or possibly even have a disagreement without getting banned. In the three years Ive been on here it had gone from a free for all to the point where I'm not sure what I can post over there anymore. If I disagree with someone will that be 'cyber bullying' and get me kicked off, or not? So they all left for somewhere without those rules.

Wulfgar · January 2015

Considering the BS that was going on in the December 14 board, Parenting, and some of the trouble conceiving boards they had to do something.

I mean, MW got flamed for posting during the 2 week window on the TTC after loss board. Some of the local rules were getting out of hand.

CuriousKiddosMama · January 2015

Yeah, that is getting crazy. I always thought most of the loss boards were supportive, but I haven't been on them in a while (since before DS was born), and that was with a different account.

vlagrl29 · January 2015

vikingsfan711 said:

well the gist I got was that The Bump put up new guidelines of no snark, no calling out or name calling, etc. which is pretty much what the bump is or was right? lol I'm sure everyone is jumping ship now.
What upset a lot of people is that they feel like they have gone too far. You can't call somebody out for being discriminatory or possibly even have a disagreement without getting banned. In the three years Ive been on here it had gone from a free for all to the point where I'm not sure what I can post over there anymore. If I disagree with someone will that be 'cyber bullying' and get me kicked off, or not? So they all left for somewhere without those rules.

I totally get that. I do feel TB went in the polar opposite direction of where it was which isn't the best decision. I myself had been not as active the last year or so because of the snark - I think it was getting out of hand. I remember one of my first posts in 1st trimester almost 4 years ago, it was about anxiety and several people were getting on my butt about not getting my anxiety fixed before I got pregnant. My BMB is dead (march 2011) everyone went to FB.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

I've been lurking on TB as we get closer and closer to TTC (considering accelerating the timeline) but have been on the fence about jumping over. I like snark, and was totally comfortable with the snark level on TK. It seems like on TB, however, even if the OP comes back and says "you guys are right, I phrased that poorly" they still don't let slip-ups go. I also like that they differentiate between sex and gender but think they're a little quick to jump on people who honestly don't know there's a difference at first. I never would have known if I didn't take sociology in college.

I'm sure not all the boards are like that. The TTGP board seems cool and less grudgy.

CuriousKiddosMama · January 2015

And I just asked for my content to be deleted. On the bump, which should be possible, because I tested it this morning. A friend wanted me to delete her content and it only let me delete the content on the nest, not both. Unless they issue an ip ban I will be back, but it may just be as a different screen name. We will have to see. They are so overwhelmed and trying to explain away why they banned people without cause who knows what will happen.

vlagrl29 · January 2015

vikingsfan711 said:

And I just asked for my content to be deleted. On the bump, which should be possible, because I tested it this morning. A friend wanted me to delete her content and it only let me delete the content on the nest, not both. Unless they issue an ip ban I will be back, but it may just be as a different screen name. We will have to see. They are so overwhelmed and trying to explain away why they banned people without cause who knows what will happen.

I was trying to delete my profile and didn't see how to do it - so I guess the bump has to do it? It's crazy over there and I don't see how it will ever get back.

CuriousKiddosMama · January 2015

I can delete your posts from here if you want me to, but I have no power over there. I already tried for another friend. I can delete, and I can ban, but that's it. So if you want either of those two done for privacy concerns of course, I can do that for you @vlagrl29

vlagrl29 · January 2015

vikingsfan711 said:

I can delete your posts from here if you want me to, but I have no power over there. I already tried for another friend. I can delete, and I can ban, but that's it. So if you want either of those two done for privacy concerns of course, I can do that for you @vlagrl29

I'm totally fine with this website - I just would like to delete from the bump. I will figure it out.

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