October 2012 Weddings
mrshall1027
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Baby shower vent
I mentioned in Fridays post that some girlfriends were going to come over to help my mom work on baby shower decorations yesterday. I had told my mom I was going to work on some other projects and visit occasionally while they were here. Well, the day before, my mom told me she wants me to be there and didn't feel comfortable making the decorations without my approval.
Originally, my mom offered to host the shower and my two friends offered their help, so I figured they'd all work on it together. H and I told them that we'd like to fund the shower so they wouldn't have to worry about it. I figured that would be as involved as I got.
Well, she's basically made it clear that she wants me to plan the whole thing with her and no matter how much I try to stay out of it, she keeps pulling me back in. I know it's because she wants to make sure it comes out exactly how I want it and I also think she doesn't feel comfortable having my friends help without me there.
In a way, I don't mind because (not to toot my own horn) I know how to throw a great party. So if I have a say, the shower will be everything I want it to be. But, I also have so many other things to take care of before Aria gets here that it's kinda stressing me out to have this in my plate too. I know I'm going to have to help cook, set up, decorate, etc when I really just want to show up and relax.
I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I'm literally helping throw my own shower and I'm a little bummed about that. I'm also worried that my friends think I'm being too controlling. They were really surprised that I was helping yesterday and seemed a little thrown off.
I don't know what to do.
Originally, my mom offered to host the shower and my two friends offered their help, so I figured they'd all work on it together. H and I told them that we'd like to fund the shower so they wouldn't have to worry about it. I figured that would be as involved as I got.
Well, she's basically made it clear that she wants me to plan the whole thing with her and no matter how much I try to stay out of it, she keeps pulling me back in. I know it's because she wants to make sure it comes out exactly how I want it and I also think she doesn't feel comfortable having my friends help without me there.
In a way, I don't mind because (not to toot my own horn) I know how to throw a great party. So if I have a say, the shower will be everything I want it to be. But, I also have so many other things to take care of before Aria gets here that it's kinda stressing me out to have this in my plate too. I know I'm going to have to help cook, set up, decorate, etc when I really just want to show up and relax.
I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I'm literally helping throw my own shower and I'm a little bummed about that. I'm also worried that my friends think I'm being too controlling. They were really surprised that I was helping yesterday and seemed a little thrown off.
I don't know what to do.
Re: Baby shower vent
Definitely don't help set up. I did because my sister never showed up (we know she's a winner). My mom has heart issues, so I helped. I was beyond tired afterwards and couldn't move the next day.
Glad you have friends to help out.
I am sorry your mom is being so stubborn. It sounds like she really wants everything perfect and thinks that you need to be involved to make is that way. Is this her first grandchild?
I wouldn't worry too much about people side eyeing you. If you hear someone talking you could just say that you had very little input in it but enjoyed the time helping your mom.
As Mana said though, I would not set up the day of. You should make an appointment to go get your hair done or something. Make sure to do something that requires an appointment though because it's will be harder for her to guilt trip you into helping.