October 2012 Weddings
mana8503
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Friendships
Ever feel friend less? I feel like whenever I plan something I feel like this. I'm down to 3 people coming today. Even the consultant had to bail due to sick kid. I just want to cancel. It's not even the 31 party, I just wanted to hang out with friends.
Then I had the surprise party tonight... The girl planning said the bday girl would be asking me to the bar to celebrate. That was the way to get her ready to go. Well, she never did and I talked to her this week. Makes me not want to go tonight. Like if she was planning it, I wouldn't be invited.
I have another friend who keeps saying she'll come see the baby, but never does... But I think she's dealing with infertility so I try not to take it to heart. Just sucks.
/pity party. Sorry I had to get that out to someone(s)
Then I had the surprise party tonight... The girl planning said the bday girl would be asking me to the bar to celebrate. That was the way to get her ready to go. Well, she never did and I talked to her this week. Makes me not want to go tonight. Like if she was planning it, I wouldn't be invited.
I have another friend who keeps saying she'll come see the baby, but never does... But I think she's dealing with infertility so I try not to take it to heart. Just sucks.
/pity party. Sorry I had to get that out to someone(s)
Re: Friendships
It does get more difficult as you get older to maintain and make new friendships, like @ramstein1027 said. I wish it were easier and we all lived closer to one another.
I wish things like this could be easy.
I think that's why I like our board. I do feel like I at least have a unique set of friends even though we're all miles away.
I think I'm just sad I'm losing older friendships, ones I vowed I wouldn't. My friend last night seemed happy to see us, but there were so many people we couldn't really talk. Her friend even asked if she invited me to the bar. I said no and she's like ugh! So maybe she doesn't want to bother me since I have the baby. I told her we need to get together soon. I'll text her soon to plan it.
I'll text my other friend soon too... If only to see how she's doing. I know when we were dress shopping for my wedding she said they were TTC. She was very open in the beginning but as it took longer and longer she shut down. I don't ask anymore. I still want to see her, even if I have to leave E with my parents.
@mana8503 You should definitely reach out to your friend that was/is TTC. When H and I were going through that, I really needed the support and wished someone would have taken the time to listen to me vent or be a shoulder to cry on. It can be hard to bring it up, but she'll let you know if it's a topic she does or doesn't want to discuss.
I hope that your friends get back with you & you get to hang out with them soon!
@DanaOcNy - I'll come visit with you. You aren't really that far from me.
Agreed!
@willyH19 - I also have never been good with the friends of the girl variety. My 2 "best" friends were also "one of the guys". I can't handle the catty drama.
@mrshall1027 - would you suggest me bringing it up to her when we do get together? I don't even know how to. I know I mentioned it about a year ago and she's like eh, we've been trying off and on. So I dropped it. She's about 2 hours away, and keeps saying they will come down to see us, but it doesn't happen. She also said she'd come down before the baby, and never did. I'm going to text her later today just to see how they are doing.
I've never been the type to have lots of friends, just a few close ones. Since I've broken my foot, my BFF pretty much ignored my texts about it. She did call me on Sat, to tell me about her neck pain?!?! My other close friend has texted me most days, I do appreciate that.
Lately I've reevaluated how much I bend over backwards for others. I had 2 close friends in grad school. They were so flaky every time we tried to plan something fun, we pretty much never actually followed through with the plans because they could never get it together. The one "friend" moved away after her defense and never said goodbye to me. That hurt a lot. A few days later I got a 1/2 hearted Facebook message, she never apologized. I never responded because at that point I was done.