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Parents Divorcing 4 months before my wedding
Hello all,
I hope someone can help me get some insight. I have 2 sets of parents in my life, my mother and step father who have been married for over 10 years, and my father and step mother who have been married for over 20 years (I am 26 years old, so they have been together almost my whole life). My father called me this morning telling me that he and my step mother are getting divorced, and it seemed to have happened out of nowhere. I am in complete shock and I am so upset. I think about my father who is 65 years old, I do not want him to be alone. My wedding is in June and my brothers is in August, how is he supposed to deal with the 2 weddings without her? I am also nervous about this, I love my fiancé so much and he loves me, we have had some hard times recently, but are getting over it, it makes me think he may be scared about divorce, because its happened in my family multiple times and happening again which I never expected. My father and step mother were also paying for my entire wedding, which I didn't ask for, they insisted which I know I am very lucky to have, but now do I help pay for the wedding? I didn't save up enough for a wedding but I feel so guilty now about him pay even though they wanted to. I really don't know what to think or do right now. Has anyone else been through this or something like this? Thanks so much!
Re: Parents Divorcing 4 months before my wedding
Is this divorce NOT his choice? If that's the case, then I understand your concerns.
But if the divorce is mutual - why assume he's going to be lonely and unable to handle your wedding? If they weren't happy, he might ENJOY being alone. Don't place assumptions to his feelings or how he'll handle things w/o knowing.
As for your wedding and $$ - give it some time. A few days, a week. But let things settle down a little and then talk to your dad about it.