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Can't Agree on a House

To make a long story short, we were renting our condo which was 10 minutes from my work when the complex sold it last month.  We had to move with 30 days notice.  Luckily my in laws go to Florida for a few months in the winter and we're staying there. They'll be back late next month so we have until late March to move out of here.  Their house is 30 minutes from my work and the commute isn't fun.  I tutor a my friend's child for extra money two nights a week for 1 1/2 hours each night.  Since moving, I have had to stay at work(I teach) an hour after school and don't end up arriving home until after 7pm.  This makes for a really long day.  I found an adorable house that is 15 minutes from work and 2 minutes away from the child I tutor so I'd be able to come home, see my husband, maybe do a load of laundry, etc before leaving to tutor at 5pm.  The only downfall about the house is that the yard is partially fenced and that's what's holding my husband back.  He works from home and would rather move to a house his friend owns and rents out but it's 30 minutes from work for me and I wouldn't be able to come home between work and tutoring.  I feel like since I work outside the home, I should get more "say so" in the area where we live.  He just doesn't understand that this commute and long days are killing me.  I need advice on what to do.

Re: Can't Agree on a House

  • I forgot to add that we have two little dogs hence the fence issue but the homeowner said we can put a fence in. Our dogs are both under 11 lbs and the yard is huuuuuge and level:)
  • is this a house you would rent, because if not it's pretty dang easy to hire someone to put in a fence. I understand the importance of a fence because we have a dog too.  I'm sorry he doesn't understand your commute issues.  you have had a long talk with him about why it's important for you to be close to work right?
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  • Are you ready to buy? Do you have an emergency fund plus a good down payment in place (20% or so)? That would be something I would need to know before I could give advice.

    Assuming neighborhoods are relatively similar, I would buy the house close to your work and put in a fence. Commute time is huge, that is why we ended up moving.

    However if you aren't ready to buy that could just lead to a lot of headaches and make you wish you had rented from the friend.
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  • An electric fence is another option too for your dogs. If you don't want to add a fence you could always do that.
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  • als1982als1982 member
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    Personally, I don't mix business or money with friends or family, so if I were you I wouldn't rent from someone you have a relationship with  It could turn out okay of course, OR something could happen - like he or you doesn't maintain the home in a way that's acceptable to the other party - that could damage the friendship.  You could add that to your reasoning behind living elsewhere.
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  • Yeah, my parents bought a 3BR house in my college town and I lived there for 3 years (my sister was also there for 1 of those years) and I found the roommates. Then when I moved out, I found people for the next three years to fill the house. Mostly it was friends/acquaintances of mine and for the most part it worked out well. But it was awkward when these twins I was friends with complained about a bug problem and when my parents went to check it out, there were tons of dirty dishes and bits of food left out with fruit flies. One of them got into it with my dad and it was pretty awkward for my friendship with them. They had some late rent issues too, so it really did make things awkward.

    I think renting the house close to work makes the most sense. Is there any other problem your husband has with the house other than the fence? Are the rent payments comparable? Could you get a couple quotes on completing the fence to make him feel better about getting that done? It sounds like he's being unfairly stubborn TBH.
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