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DaniPhiSig
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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Getting Over Past Issues
Hi all!
It's been awhile since I have been on here...I hope everyone is well! :-).
Since the last time I was on here, I got married, turned 36, got divorced, and now I'm dating someone new.
I still have some insecurities about myself and relationships from my marriage, mostly that I was not enough for him to want me, and those are now starting to flow over in my current relationship. This man I am with, is absolutely wonderful. He is kind, loving, generous, a good heart, funny, treats me well, all the things a partner is supposed to be. But I am starting to get insecure about his friendships with other women, and I feel like I need to compete and that I am not good enough, even though he has never given me cause to feel that way.
Has anyone ever encountered feelings flowing over like this, and what did you do to make them go away?
Re: Getting Over Past Issues
First of all, have you talked to a therapist? If you have residual issues that you're having trouble moving past, it can be a HUGE help!
Beyond that, I find its most helpful to just be honest about it. Sometimes I tell my boyfriend something like, "I'm sorry, this has absolutely nothing to do with you, but I'm feeling ______ because of issues from my marriage. I'm trying to move past it, but I need your help, and I need you to be understanding while I work on it." If he truly cares about you, he should be willing to accept that you have things you want to work past and should be patient and sympathetic. After all, if you want this to be a long-term relationship, it's better to establish trust and communication early on!