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Losing Faith in Husband
I feel like my respect and faith in my husband is fleeting.
For the past 5 years I have tried to support and encourage him. I've made excuses for him, tried therapy, medication, new hobbies, date nights and alone time for both of us. I feel exhausted and let down.
Job security - he has trouble holding down a job. I have supported him financially a lot over the years. However, he has a job now he has held 8 months.
Gambling - he promised to give up gambling dozens of times and does it behind my back and loses a lot of money.
Kids - we originally said we wanted 3, but after our first he said we were not having any more and he would not change his mind. He doesn't feel comfortable watching our daughter (even for a couple hours) and takes her to his parent's house when I have to work late or exercise. He hardly plays with her.
Chores - he almost never helps around the house, even when he says he will let the dog out or take out the trash (it doesn't get done).
Sex - he expects it most nights and his idea of foreplay is jacking off until he's ready. Fortunately, it's usually pretty good when we get going, but still...
Connection - I see him on his phone or computer a lot and it feels like he's not even around when he is home.
Sorry, long post but idk what to do anymore. He is very kind and affectionate. We have some great memories. But, we have discussed these issues and he has said he understands, then does nothing about it. I feel like I am stuck and maybe I'd be happier without him.
Re: Losing Faith in Husband
I hate ultimatums, but I think this might be the way to go as a last ditch effort. I'd tell him exactly what he needs to do and how
much time you'll give him or separation/divorce proceedings will
commence. Get your affairs in order and protect your assets-- he cannot
be trusted.
He sounds more like a child than a partner and that is not fair to you.