QOTD 3/26

minionlover · March 2015

Is DH friends with an ex or someone he had a fling with? Are/would you okay with it? Are you friends with ex? How does DH feel about it?

ramstein1027 · March 2015

I don't think he is super friendly with any because he lives so far from everyone now, but the long-term boyfriend I had before DH (for 6 years) and I are friends. We don't text or talk often, but we sent each other congratulations cards when we got married. When we run into each other it's friendly and we catch up, but we're not like making plans to hang out with each other. DH doesn't mind a bit, the other guy was the only reason I got out of a very scary abusive relationship as a teenager, he really saved my life. DH is actually grateful to him for helping me out of such a dark place. Plus, my ex's little brother and my little brother are best friends, so our families are kind of still familiar with each other because of that. There's no jealousy bc we really were just very good buddies, we didn't have that romantic/physical spark. But like I said, it's not like we're texting each other or chatting away on fb, lol.

If DH was friendly with an ex I wouldn't mind, I have nothing to worry about with him.

(ETA my ex and I never slept together, so that's probably contributing to the fact that DH doesn't mind. We were waiting until we got married, and then we never got married! haha)

mrshall1027 · March 2015

Neither of us are friends with any of our ex's. I honestly wouldn't like it if he was. Not that I have trust issues with him, but I'd have a hard time seeing them together knowing they were intimate at some point. It's something that bugs me with his ex wife and although I'm glad they have an amicable relationship, I wish she didn't have to be in the picture.

mana8503 · March 2015

I have a rule - I don't care as long as there's no drama. There's been a few that started drama in the beginning, and asked him to cut ties and he did. Usually that ones that moved from fling/ex to friend are the ones that ask how we are, how's the baby, etc.

And then there's his exwife...

I'm friends on FB with a few exs, none of the more serious ones. We really don't talk, maybe like a post/picture here and there. Maybe the most is my neighbor, but we were really close friends before we drunkenly crossed the line and quickly jumped back over to friendship. If it bothered H I'd respect that. it's not like we talk much, but our parents still live next door. He came to our wedding...

minionlover · March 2015

We aren't friends with any exs. I wouldn't really like it if he was although I guess it depends on the situation too. I do think there is a difference between being friends with someone DH dated in high school for a month and being friends with his ex wife.

mpjf1001 · March 2015

We aren't friends with any exes. I don't know if he would have a problem with it, but im pretty sure a part of me would be bothered by it.

I tried when I first met H to be ok with him still being friends with his HS girlfriend of 4 years but she started doing shady stuff and my woman instincts kicked in and realized she was trying to get him back and he is very passive and oblivious to what was happening so I had to put my foot up his butt to get him to see what she was trying to do and he stopped talking to her bc she flat out said it was me or her....um buh bye!

pockysquirrel · March 2015

H is not friends with any of his exes. I'm still in touch with a couple of people I've dated - I work with two of them - but I wouldn't call it a friendship.

islandmonkey8 · March 2015

We're both friends with one of H's exes. She's super fun. We don't see her a lot, but at least a few times a year.

That's it though, but it's nothing bad really. We just don't talk to any of the rest.

xxjen015 · March 2015

We don't have any serious ex's. I'm FB friends with one of mine, but we never talk. H didn't really date anyone before me. There was a girl he was practically in love with in high school, we're both friends with her on FB. They haven't talked in years. I used to be really jealous because they'd talk and she'd say stuff like "You're not her david, you're MY David" and I was like helllllll naw.

consciousdear88 · March 2015

I'm technically the only girl H has ever seriously dated. He has had a few that fell in the "fling" category however. He doesn't speak to any of them due to how crazy most of them turned out to be. (In a very it's a small world moment--one of his fling girls decided to stop hanging out with him because she met a guy--my at that time boyfriend)

I only really speak to one of my exes and even then, it's maybe once a month. I don't think H cares as long as I wouldn't actually hang out with him in person. To be totally honest, most of the exes seemed to come groveling as soon as I announced my engagement. Weird. Didn't want them then. Why would I all of a sudden change my mind now?

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