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Loss commemoration? (LR obviously)

FutureMrsWright2012FutureMrsWright2012 member
Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Name Dropper
in Getting Pregnant
Sadly, I know that there are several ladies on here who have been through this... 

I was planning to get a tattoo this weekend (Lincoln's little foot prints and a tiny heart), but I realized yesterday that I can't because I'm on Lovenox currently to get ready for round 2. DH and I want to do something this weekend to commemorate our lil guy's EDD, but we can't figure out what. We are thinking about going for a hike in Sedona that we love with the pups, but I would love to hear how others have memorialized their little one(s) on or around their EDD. 

TIA


TTC since 3/2012 
DH - 36; nml swimmers; Me - 36; almost no AMH (last 0.081), low AFC, nml FSH/LH
Clomid + IUI #1 (6/2013) - BFN; #2 (7/2013) - BFFN
IVF 1.0 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11/2014) - no frosties, but BFP 8dp5dt (EDD 3/1/2015) 
Lost our sweet baby boy, Lincoln Alexander 10/3/2014 (19w)
IVF 2.0 - ER 3/25/2015 - 3R ZERO mature.
Ovaries are done...
DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)
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Re: Loss commemoration? (LR obviously)

  • ILoveRedVinoILoveRedVino member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    I don't know why, but I never felt at attachment to mine's due date. I do feel it on his birthday though. On the one year anniversary, H and I spent the day at the coast. For the second anniversary, we went to lunch and then rented jet skis. I always want his birthday to be a day we celebrate him. It can be different every year, but I want/need the celebration.

    I did go see a tattoo artist and was going to get something, but never ended up doing it. Maybe someday but so far, there have been random obstacles that make me think it may not be the best decision for me.
    IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
    IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
    FET - BFN
    FET - BFN
    Switched clinics
    IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
    FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
    Baby Boy born July 2015

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  • islandmonkey8islandmonkey8 member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    I'm planning on getting a tattoo one day as well. This year, we just spent the day together really and did our best to remember how lucky we were. Really, I couldn't beat the sad.

    @brij2006 did something with her H back in June, releasing a lantern and got them photographed. It was beautiful. 
    image
    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
    image
    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

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  • brij2006brij2006 member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    We set off sky lanterns together and with our parents. We had a photographer capture the moment for us, and we love that we have those. If I wasn't on mobile, I would post a few. Our plan is that we will continue to set them off around the EDD each year.

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
    www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com 
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  • thecuddleeffectthecuddleeffect member
    Ninth Anniversary 2500 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    On J and Zs EDD (the original one) we went to dinner and sent off a blue and a pink balloon. This year, I took their birthday off from work and we spent time as a family. EDD makes me sad and in a funk, but like ILRV said, it hasnt had as much of an effect as their birthday.

    I love you tattoo idea, one day (when I'm brave) I want to get the same one of each of their footprints on my foot <3

    Lilypie - XkBoLilypie - WuYI
    Me(27) PCOS, Hypothyroidism & Incompetent Cervix  DH(29) Azoospermia
    4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
    Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
    TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
    IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
    IVF ICSI #2-  (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
    ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
    <312/9 Joshua David and Zoe Faith born too early at 19w4d due to incompetent cervix <3
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
      LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
    IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
    ER - 8/7  19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
    9/11/13 - U/S showed 1 baby HR 135bpm! EDD 4/30/14
    Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
    TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
    15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
    beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
    FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
    10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
    5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU



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  • ILoveRedVinoILoveRedVino member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    @FutureMrsWright2012 What did you end up doing?

    IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
    IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
    FET - BFN
    FET - BFN
    Switched clinics
    IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
    FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
    Baby Boy born July 2015

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  • FutureMrsWright2012FutureMrsWright2012 member
    Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Name Dropper
    Since we thought DH was going to have to work today, yesterday, we went for a beautiful hike in the rain with the pups. Then, we went to dinner. Last night and this morning were pretty rough, but we're going to be okay.

    DH ended up taking the day off, so it's been nice having him around unexpectedly. He actually made a little model airplane for Lincoln and "gave it to him" this morning when I went to pick up bagels for breakfast. We have a shelf that has a few momentos on it that he added to. <3

    Thanks for asking, ILRV. 


    TTC since 3/2012 
    DH - 36; nml swimmers; Me - 36; almost no AMH (last 0.081), low AFC, nml FSH/LH
    Clomid + IUI #1 (6/2013) - BFN; #2 (7/2013) - BFFN
    IVF 1.0 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11/2014) - no frosties, but BFP 8dp5dt (EDD 3/1/2015) 
    Lost our sweet baby boy, Lincoln Alexander 10/3/2014 (19w)
    IVF 2.0 - ER 3/25/2015 - 3R ZERO mature.
    Ovaries are done...
    DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)
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  • ILoveRedVinoILoveRedVino member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    It sounds like a perfect way of remembering him. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Be kind to yourself. ❤️
    IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
    IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
    FET - BFN
    FET - BFN
    Switched clinics
    IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
    FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
    Baby Boy born July 2015

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  • tesgirl123tesgirl123 newb
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    This is a little late for your comemoration, but a very close friend of mine lost 3 pregnancies (one was very close to the due date) and she found comfort in planting a tree for each of her angels.   I always thought that was a really beautiful way to memorialize them.  
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