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Which card to pay first?

I'm trying to pay off my personal credit card debt (not shared with H).  I have all my store cards paid off (yey!) and now need to work on my two capital one cards.   I have one with $3, 070 on it and one with $668 on it, same interest rate. I get $500 a month in "allowance" that I can use to pay them off.  I'm debating on A) paying them both off $200/month equally or B) paying off one entirely (while meeting minimum payments for the other of course).  If I choose option B, which card should I do first? I think the lower card may be more motivating because it will disappear "faster", but the higher card will be gathering more interest.  Advice please?

Re: Which card to pay first?

  • option B. 

    Pay off the $688 card first. then apply your $500/month and your minimum payments from both cards to pay the one with the higher balance off faster. 

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  • I agree with PP, option B & pay off the small debt first so it shows a nice $0 balance & then knock out the big one.
  • Hi, I agree with PP's if your goal is just to eliminate your debt. That option is essentially a modified "snowball method" to clear your debt. However, if you're more interested in paying off your cards in order to raise your credit score then it might be better for you to pay down both balances at the same time so that you reduce your debt-to-credit ratios on both cards. This would depend on the limits associated with each card and therefore how much credit you're using. For example, if your limit on the second card is only $1,000, a $668 balance on that card would mean a high debt-to-credit ratio and be harmful to your credit score; whereas a $3070 balance on a card with a limit of $10,000 is not as harmful.

    I would consider your goals first (debt elimination, credit score boosting, etc.) then decide how to proceed.

    Good luck, hope this helps!

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  • Since the interest rates are the same, pay off the smaller card first.  It will be knocked out in a couple months.

    What is this $500 "allowance" you speak of?  Is it your fun money?  Or are we talking like an honest to goodness allowance?  Sorry, I'm being nosy.

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  • edited April 2015

    Thank you all!  I'll take your advice and knock out the smaller card first.  Credit score is one factor, but mostly I'm trying to clean house while my debt is still manageable.  I just finished a series of IPL treatments which were $1200, so that was a big splurge (but now all the dark spots on my face and chest are gone and I can be less self conscious). 

    If you can't tell by my debt, I suck money and am actively trying to be more restrained. Hence me wanting to pay every penny off this year and only charge what I can pay off that month after.  H is awesome with money and controls our accounts.  Sometimes he tells me we can't afford to go out for tacos, but we're buying a house this year so that's why he's in charge.  I hand over my paychecks to him every week and in turn I get $500/month I can spend or save as I like for whatever I want. So yes, I am a 30 year old Director in my company who still receives an allowance!

  • Thank you all!  I'll take your advice and knock out the smaller card first.  Credit score is one factor, but mostly I'm trying to clean house while my debt is still manageable.  I just finished a series of IPL treatments which were $1200, so that was a big splurge (but now all the dark spots on my face and chest are gone and I can be less self conscious). 

    If you can't tell by my debt, I suck money and am actively trying to be more restrained. Hence me wanting to pay every penny off this year and only charge what I can pay off that month after.  H is awesome with money and controls our accounts.  Sometimes he tells me we can't afford to go out for tacos, but we're buying a house this year so that's why he's in charge.  I hand over my paychecks to him every week and in turn I get $500/month I can spend or save as I like for whatever I want. So yes, I am a 30 year old Director in my company who still receives an allowance!

    I'm going to offer some unsolicited advice.  

    You and your husband need to have a series of honest discussions on financial planning and come up with a JOINT plan on how to handle the family income and expenses.  If I were in your shoes I would be extremely insulted at being treated in this manner.

    If you aren't good with money then LEARN, have your husband teach you, take a class, read stuff, take control of the situation.
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  • AprilZ81 said:

    Thank you all!  I'll take your advice and knock out the smaller card first.  Credit score is one factor, but mostly I'm trying to clean house while my debt is still manageable.  I just finished a series of IPL treatments which were $1200, so that was a big splurge (but now all the dark spots on my face and chest are gone and I can be less self conscious). 

    If you can't tell by my debt, I suck money and am actively trying to be more restrained. Hence me wanting to pay every penny off this year and only charge what I can pay off that month after.  H is awesome with money and controls our accounts.  Sometimes he tells me we can't afford to go out for tacos, but we're buying a house this year so that's why he's in charge.  I hand over my paychecks to him every week and in turn I get $500/month I can spend or save as I like for whatever I want. So yes, I am a 30 year old Director in my company who still receives an allowance!

    I'm going to offer some unsolicited advice.  

    You and your husband need to have a series of honest discussions on financial planning and come up with a JOINT plan on how to handle the family income and expenses.  If I were in your shoes I would be extremely insulted at being treated in this manner.

    If you aren't good with money then LEARN, have your husband teach you, take a class, read stuff, take control of the situation.
    This. Also, your financial priorities seem really immaturish. In addition to the above, I've seen past posts about your elaborate and expensive daily skincare routine, and then just today you mentioned elsewhere that your H finally 'splurged' on a crockpot. This seems pretty off, IMO. While everyone prioritizes their wants and personal spending differently, from the debt you've incurred, you really can't afford this lifestyle.
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  • I have to agree with April and als1982.  It's very common (and reasonable) for one person to be the primary money person in a relationship.  I serve that roll in my relationship simply because I'm more compulsive about it than H is, and I enjoy it more than he does. 

    But there are no handing over of paychecks or allocations of a true allowance in our relationship.  H and I keep a google doc with a joint budget that I update every day and he checks every couple of days.  We both know exactly where we are with joint goals and joint spending. We each have access to all of the accounts - including personal retirement accounts in one name only.  So while I actively monitor the day to day cash flow of our household, H has every right and opportunity to do some of that himself if he wants to.  And he can spend our money in exactly the same capacity that I can. 

    I would not continue using credit cards after you pay this debt off.  Credit cards are great for working points, but only if you have the self control to pay them off in full each month.  With the amount of credit card debt you have - which is NOT interest-free, by the way - I would go cold turkey with the cards.  While I personally prefer the safety net of a credit card compared to debit cards and cash, they aren't right for everybody.
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  • I'll second PPs about getting on the same page with money. It takes some time; my H and I were getting a good system down for our whole first year of marriage! But, we don't ever see debts as mine vs. his. We use one CC so there are no secrets, and discuss big purchases (over $20). Sometimes we mess up! I just greenlit a Nintendo DS purchase I shouldn't have mainly due to H's puppy dog eyes. I'm probably one of the weakest willpower people who hangs out on this board, so I don't judge. But being on the same page has been so worth the effort for us.

    Now I know there are some couples who call their fun budget "allowance," but I think it's beyond that if it's the only money you are allowed to spend on "your" CCs.

    I second hoffse also on stopping CCs. I am moving towards this myself. I haven't paid interest in years, but I definitely overspend when I use them and have developed a bad habit of borrowing from future pay checks. In two months I have a bonus paycheck that will allow me to break the cycle and I'm leaning towards putting it in a drawer for emergencies only. H can keep using his.
  • We have since changed our system to work better for us, but I think an allowance is OK. The only way I can see this though is if you BOTH have an allowance. A lot of people call this your fun money, spending money, pocket change, what not. You will resent him, and he will resent you inevitably if you only have an allowance for one person. 
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  • Agree with PPs. I also agree with noffgurl about resentment. I think that there could end up being a lot of resentment on both of your parts if you aren't sitting down together and creating a budget/talking about what you BOTH think is the best use of your money. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like if I were giving my husband an allowance each week and he spent it all on video games, or whatever, while I was actually trying to save some money I would probably be upset. And I think also If I were the one receiving the allowance each week and my husband was telling me how much I could spend I would get pretty angry pretty quickly. This might work for you guys, but I am a huge believer that people can get out of debt so much more quickly (and save their relationship in the process) if they work together as a team! 

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