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Nicci615
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I'm posting again, 5 years later, as a couple of you requested.
One user said- "that whole THREE MONTHS of marriage and you're able to say that marrying at 20 was a good idea! Come back here in about 5 years." Maybe the lady who posted that comment assumed that I would be divorced by now and realizing that she was right. If anything, I wish I would have married my DH sooner. It was the best decision I have ever made. Has it been easy? Sometimes yes, and sometimes no. I am a firm believer that you get out of marriage what you put in. We now have 2 small children, which can add stress, but I feel like we have become even more of a team since becoming parents. We enjoy our date nights and pillow talk time even more these days. Our sex life is still amazing, 5 years and 2 kids later. I love him more now than I ever have. Has everything been sunshine and rainbows? Heck no! We have experienced many things that could have destroyed us, but that's why I'm so glad I married my best friend. Year 3 was pretty rough, when my husband was injured and became dependent on prescription pain medication. We lost a lot due to his addiction. Very few people thought I would stand by my husband and support him when the "crap" hit the fan, but I did without thinking twice. I vowed FOR BETTER OR WORSE, IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH. I kept believing in him, and now he is going through recovery and doing amazing. I could not be more proud! God has seen us through a great deal. He gave me my husband and my children, and I will be just as grateful and optimistic about my relationships with them in 10 years as I am now, and as I was 5 years ago.
PS- For the 20 somethings who are newly married: "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and
in purity." -1 Timothy 4:12
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I got married too young.
Dear Ladies Who Told Me I Was Too Young To Be Married,
I'm posting again, 5 years later, as a couple of you requested.
One user said- "that whole THREE MONTHS of marriage and you're able to say that marrying at 20 was a good idea! Come back here in about 5 years." Maybe the lady who posted that comment assumed that I would be divorced by now and realizing that she was right. If anything, I wish I would have married my DH sooner. It was the best decision I have ever made. Has it been easy? Sometimes yes, and sometimes no. I am a firm believer that you get out of marriage what you put in. We now have 2 small children, which can add stress, but I feel like we have become even more of a team since becoming parents. We enjoy our date nights and pillow talk time even more these days. Our sex life is still amazing, 5 years and 2 kids later. I love him more now than I ever have. Has everything been sunshine and rainbows? Heck no! We have experienced many things that could have destroyed us, but that's why I'm so glad I married my best friend. Year 3 was pretty rough, when my husband was injured and became dependent on prescription pain medication. We lost a lot due to his addiction. Very few people thought I would stand by my husband and support him when the "crap" hit the fan, but I did without thinking twice. I vowed FOR BETTER OR WORSE, IN SICKNESS AND HEALTH. I kept believing in him, and now he is going through recovery and doing amazing. I could not be more proud! God has seen us through a great deal. He gave me my husband and my children, and I will be just as grateful and optimistic about my relationships with them in 10 years as I am now, and as I was 5 years ago. PS- For the 20 somethings who are newly married: "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and
in purity." -1 Timothy 4:12
Re: I got married too young.
Well done to your DH for overcoming addiction
TTC since September 2012
Holding a grudge and coming back here 5 years later to say 'see....you were wrong' only shows the level of maturity - or rather immaturity you really have - I mean who does this?
The fact that you're young and still married 5 years later, girl, your married life is only just beginning. Come back in 10 years and see where you're at. It's great that you're in it for the long haul and willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, but don't let a forum of Internet strangers be your sole motivation for this. And again, remember that when it comes to marrying young, statistically, the odds are stacked against you. Doesn't mean it can't/won't work, but I'm pretty sure that's what was being pointed out to you before.
Holding a grudge and coming back here 5 years later to say 'see....you were wrong' only shows the level of maturity - or rather immaturity you really have - I mean who does this?
The fact that you're young and still married 5 years later, girl, your married life is only just beginning. Come back in 10 years and see where you're at. It's great that you're in it for the long haul and willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, but don't let a forum of Internet strangers be your sole motivation for this. And again, remember that when it comes to marrying young, statistically, the odds are stacked against you. Doesn't mean it can't/won't work, but I'm pretty sure that's what was being pointed out to you before.
Who does this? Little girls pretending to be women.
If words from randoms online hurt you that much, you have more issues than you care to admit.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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Giving marriage advice when you are in your early 20's and just growing up (as is your SO) and you've been married for only a year is like teaching someone to scuba dive over the phone when you've only seen it in movies.
And why is that such a horrible thing? When I'm not in a position to give advice I don't. I'm not a financial planner so I don't give financial advice. Just because I have a bank account does not mean I'm qualified to teach someone else how to use their money. So if you have only been married for a short while why not just give support? Ideas? Those are valuable as well.
But to hand out advice like a sage when you've only been married a very short while seems off, does it not?
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk