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I'm also leaving my job! ....with a rant
Hey MM nesties! Sorry, I've been MIA for a couple of months. Things have been a little crazy! Seems like lots of people are leaving their jobs on here, and I'm one of them! I got a great new job, which I will be starting next week. I've already put in my two weeks notice, so I'm leaving my current job next week as well.
I'm really excited about my new job, but I'm leaving my current job with very hard feelings. To give you some background, I started looking for a new job because of several "cultural reasons". My current coworkers are primarily a group of women around my age, who gossip non-stop about each other and other departments. There is constant drama between them, and I just try to stay away from it the best I can while doing my job the best I can. Unfortuantely, my job started to suffer because of it. For example, I have been left out of important work meetings because I'm not part of their "in crowd" clique. Anyway... won't have to deal with that anymore!
The problem is that I have noticed that they really rev up the gossip and negativity when someone leaves. One time I even heard one of the girls suggest that they make a "burn book" (like in the movie Mean Girls) about former employees who have left. As a result, I know that my name and reputation is going to be drug through the dirt, as soon as I leave. I've worked hard and done a great job at my job, but I feel like all of that was for nothing. When I leave here, I think I should probably avoid putting anyone from here as a reference, because I know I'll be talked about so badly that my boss will forget that I did a good job. Any advice on what to do here to protect my reputation and possible reference? Is there even anything I can do? My boss is part of the clique, but one of the nicer ones....
Also, this is just a little rant., maybe even a little silly.. but I'm also a little hurt because no one is throwing me a going away lunch or anything like that. Everyone who has left (even interns) have been given a party or at least a "hey..let's all go out to lunch to wish Johnny farewell". But nothing at all is being planned for me. As a result, I think "Man.... they must really hate me, if they hated the other people so badly yet still through them a party." I also feel used, because I really did try to contribute to the farewell parties, baby/wedding showers, even birthday acknowledgements... but nobody has even had the decency to tell me "Thanks for doing such a good job around here; we'll miss you around here"
I really need to shake all this negativity before I start my new job. Any suggestions? Being around here has really destroyed my confidence. For the first time since 6th grade, I feel like a socially awkward weirdo creeper kid that doesn't belong. I know I'm not, but it just gets in your head, after being treated like one for a year and a half....
Re: I'm also leaving my job! ....with a rant
Congrats on the new job! And I'm glad your leaving that place...I know how you've feel as I've been in situations like that before and it's definitely hard and awkward.
I agree with Hoffse in that you should throw your own party to celebrate...do something special for yourself or with your family. But you never know, they could be doing something for you next week you just may not know about it...that would be really rude if they didn't in my opinion.
I would also ignore ALL of their childish behavior (ie.the burn book), seriously these people are acting like fools and you are way better than that. I would still leave the company on a good note and be polite on your way out. Thank your boss and the other b*tches even if your middle finger is up behind your back lol.
Maybe once you leave that place you will feel a lot better right away, if not, try some counseling, I've always found that to be a big help to boost my spirit and turn the negatives into positives....just know that it's not you!
Good luck!
@strickland8052, Congratulations!!! So wonderful you are getting out of such a bad situation. I've been there in two other jobs I've had, though not quite as bad as your situation.
I'm normally a pretty confident person but, I noticed in the last job I had like that, my confidence was slowly being eroded away by the negative environment and I was so unhappy there.
I am sorry no one is planning anything for your leaving. But I promise, as soon as you walk out the door from that toxic environment, that won't bother you in the least and you will feel like you are walking on air. Does your DH or any good friends work nearby? If so, plan a lunch out with them. If not, plan an after work dinner or drinks or (like the other PPs suggested) do something fun for yourself.
As for future references, I wouldn't worry about it. Just do a great job at your current job and stay there at least a year. I've worked in human resources and it was rare I ever called anyone past a potential employees' most recent employer. Plus, like @Wulfgar said, most companies nowadays have "just the facts" attitude when it comes to references. As in, they will only verify title, salary, length of time employed, and job duties.