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House guests and other updates
Oh man, so much going on...
My aunt who's house burnt down, ended up in the ER Monday for kidney failure. They are trying to figure out what caused it. They are still looking for a temporary house until they can rebuilt. My other aunt, also on my mom's side, ended up in the ER last week, and got her gall bladder taken out. After reviewing her MRI they found a cyst in her kidney.
2 weeks ago, my boss told me I was going to train another cw to take my job. I will be trained in another area, so it's a lateral move, but will help me with my evaluations. Only the cw who I'm suppose to train is a lazy piece of crap. I don't want to give up the work I've been doing since 2008 to her! It's going to take 2-3 months to get her to my level... so I'm going to be in limbo for a while. Or work load is huge, on top of training and being trained. Oh and I use 1.5 hours to pump. Let's see how many balls I can drop!
Then yesterday one of my closest friends/cw found out his fiancée's little trip to FL was actually to meet some guy she met online. They just sent out invites this weekend, for their wedding in June. He was absolutely devastated. Rightly so. He just moved into my basement this morning. It's empty besides a tv cabinet and my old full sized bed. It's temporary until he figures out what he's going to do. My crazy family and home life should be a good distraction, but I'm pushing him to go home for while to clear his head.
And now my sister - she came to visit E the Sat before easter. It went really well. Nothing bad was said. Her and my mom even "talked" via facebook comments on a picture of E. It's a start! I might suggest they talk face to face the next time I see her. I'll probably invite her over soon. She also wrote a nice thing for siblings day and how we will always be sisters, and she'll always love me, and thanking me for not giving up on her.
Re: House guests and other updates
@ramstein1027 - thanks! I really want a bath tonight, but E is barely sleeping (haha add this to the list). I choose sleep over bath. She's sitting up now and does it when she wakes up, instead of rolling over and going back to sleep. I give her 10-15 mins then I go in and lay her back down. repeat 5-6 times. She's just excited to be doing something new.
Jeff was told to file in MD and she'd have to come here. So, he's talking to a friend who knows a lot of important people to see who to get for a lawyer. I'd like for him to sit down and write out what else he wants - weekly spyke time, phone calls, updates from school, etc. All the things I've been pushing him to do for 5 years.
With work, my boss wants me to be completely "divorced" of my project at the end. Everyone knows CW is a piece of crap, and I think they can prove it more with my job. Everything is time stamped in a data base.
Haha I think her pedi nurses think it's Elijah. I'm like E-LIZ-A! That would be awesome if you named your kid Elijah Mae!!!!! Eli is my favorite, it's my great grandfather, but we already have an Eli in the family, Eliza was close enough.
I wish you could help us too! I've read enough in the blended families on TB to kind know what could happen and some rights Jeff has. He just didn't want to cause issues. How can spelling out your rights causing issues!? I know she'll come back and want to recalculate CS, which is fine. I don't think we're paying enough now anyways. We've been buying clothes for them and offered to send more money this summer for her to buy their school clothes.
Sending lots of t&ps.
It sounds like I wouldn't be having a house guest for long. She's coming back up today, and they are going to talk. He's going to see if she'll go back to MI for a while and get some help. I think she's depressed, and still struggling with the death of her dad last year. That doesn't make what she did right, but I think he feels better it's not that he was so awful she found someone else. Wedding is still off, but I think they will try to work it out. He knows it's going to take a while.
Bio mom freaked out last night, but Jeff is going to try and talk to her after she calms down. I still think they need to agree on a parenting agreement... esp if her new SO stays military and moves around. She's going to have to do some of the traveling. She's met us twice in the 5 years... we go down 5-6 times a year.
I hope that everything turns out okay. You definitely need some comfort carbs with everything you are going thru.
PS I really want to punch bio mom in the face for you. Is that bad?
BioMom is an idiot. She needs consistency with the kids. Would your H consider taking the kids? Maybe they need time with a normal family. BioMom can have visitation like you have now.