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Tofumonkey
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Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Dramaaaaaa with my Mother the Kracken
Those of you that remember me from here before may recall that my mother is basically the Kracken. She destroys everything in her path, but rationalizes it all away to make her look like Mother Freaking Teresa. For years I slobbered up her mind-fuckwittery like a lapdog, desperate for her approval and affection. The ladies here pointed me toward Narcissistic Personality Disorders, and a fantastic forum / blog type something about daughters of narcissistic mothers and it was the thing I needed to finally beat that demon back and cut her off completely.
It's been 2.5 glorious years since I was last in contact with her or my half sister. I miss my step-father, but he wasn't allowed to contact me or his other daughters so he was cut off too. Fine, happy days.
Anyway -
Yesterday my husband got a FB message from my half-sister, something about her parents officially separating and she thought I should know.
Whaaaaa?
As it turns out, she up and left my step-father for his rich friend.
25 years of marriage. Left my 22 year old highly dependent half-sister (that she still does things like holds hands with and calls 'boo boo') with my step-father as well (which shocked people the most) and just left them both for a richer life with his friend that also recently left his wife.
I don't know what to think. I honestly think I'm looking for high-fives more than advice here. My step-father is devastated, but I cannot help but be so incredibly happy for him. He's free! He couldn't watch the shows he wanted to watch, eat the food he wanted to eat, go where he wanted, talk to who he wanted, communicate with his own daughters.... his opinions (like mine) were always wrong and the man (and all of us) were living on eggshells with her - but now he is free.
I'm also thrilled in a way because this is so.. I don't know. Validating? I was always second guessing myself because of her. Maybe she didn't really say that. Maybe I didn't hear that correctly. Nobody else seemed to hear that. Maybe I really am too sensitive. Maybe she's right and that didn't really happen... all of her sisters seem to think that I'm crazy and horrible... maybe the problem really is me...
NOPE! Now everyone can see that no, the problem wasn't me! She just left her husband, the world's nicest guy that completely financially supported her while she traveled the world and was a stay at home mom for the last 10 years (from her kids age of 12 to 22) because she was too aggressive to hold down a job, stood by her through all of her crap and drama and she just up and unilaterally said she wanted a different life and ran off with his rich friend.
It's now very, publicly clear that she always and only ever looked out for number 1.
Wow. I feel so free. I don't know why, as this has nothing to do with me. I just feel like I no longer have her and her 'family' hanging over me - she disbanded it and fecked off.
I probably need to see a therapist or something.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
Re: Dramaaaaaa with my Mother the Kracken
Love the phrase, "the Kracken", lol. Though I'm so sorry for what you had to go through.
On the bright side, now you can get back in touch with your stepfather, if you haven't already. It sounds like you have a lot of love and respect for him. And it sounds like he could use all the support he can get right now. I'm sure with time he will feel the same sense of freedom that you now have but, for the time being, I'm sure it is devastating for him.
The whole thing is still a bit painful, but very freeing.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk