Money Matters
Dear Community,

Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.

If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.

Thank you.

Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.

I have a job offer!!!!! (Need Advice Please)

I'm so excited that I have a job offer in hand!  It isn't a perfect offer, but it is pretty good and I need some advice since I'm also waiting on another offer to come in but it might be awhile.

Job Offer: 
-6 month contract with the ability to be hired full time
-$4,000 annual raise over what I was making at my last job
-No benefits until I am hired full time, possibly unpaid holidays since I'm working through a staff agency, I'm waiting on clarification.

I would normally jump all over this, the job sounds interesting, everyone I interviewed with seemed awesome and there is potential for growth in the department (which is rare for a corporate meeting planner).  Even though this is a contract position it is pretty stable because it is because the need more people to help with the work load, this isn't just until one project is done.

Here is where I hesitate.  My previous employer is doing a background check in preparation for making an offer.  I emailed the hiring manager today to let her know I had another offer and to get a status update.  She said there is a hold-up getting a dual role position approved (long story short is that they were hiring two positions, I'm qualified for both and they wanted to customize the role so I can do both at the same time) and she isn't sure when the approval would be finalized.

I have NO IDEA what the salary would be for that job, but it is a guaranteed work-from-home position and I would be able to restart my benefits right where I left off, including 401(k) vesting and FMLA eligibility.  I would be willing to take a small pay cut from what I was making before for the reinstatement of my benefits plus the ability to work from home full time.

Here are my options, what would you do?  I have to respond to the first offer by 5:00 on Monday and the anticipated start date is June 15th.

1) Take the first offer if I don't hear back from previous employer.

2) Take the first offer but be willing to leave if previous employer presents a compelling offer. (How horrible would this be career wise?  I don't want to burn bridges or appear flighty.)

3) Turn  down the first offer and wait for previous employer.  (Not really considering this since for many reasons, but it technically is an option).
Formerly AprilH81
photo composite_14153800476219jpg

Re: I have a job offer!!!!! (Need Advice Please)

  • smerkasmerka member
    Ancient Membership 250 Love Its 500 Comments Name Dropper
    Are you wanting to work from home in hopes of being able to care for future children? If that is the case, how much flexibility do you have with hours? Do you have to work 9-5 or can you work when baby is sleeping? From experience, I can tell you it is nearly impossible to work from home with kids running around without out child care. Either the kids or the work will suffer.
  • I agree that not taking the job isn't really an option (at least not a good one! haha)  I feel like taking the job and then possibly leaving if you get another compelling offer is the best choice.  

    H was in a similar situation last winter, job A was literally 3 hours away and he would have had to live in a hotel mon-fri since I wouldn't have been able to find work in that area.  Job B was feasible for me to keep my job and was obviously more appealing (plus paid a lot more.)  If he had got A first we had decided that he would take it. The plan was, if he then got the offer for B he would have given his notice and used the fact that we were living states apart as a way to leave without burning a bridge.  I guess it still could have burned a bridge, but it seems better than leaving for the company around the corner.  Luckily he got offer B first and none of it was an issue

    I think that you could do a similar thing, if you got offered the second job, saying "I am sorry to be leaving you however this was only a guaranteed six months & for the stability of my family I have choose to take an offer that is a permanent position"  

    tl;dr: take the job, if a new offer comes along use the fact that it is temporary as an out
  • Ditto @kmurphy2131 on "this was a guarantee for six months..." Ultimately, you have to do what makes you feel the most comfortable and gives you peace of mind. Is that the possibility of hired on FT, or the WFH option with the benefits. Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS on having a solid offer!!
  • I would probably do an option you didn't mention, which is ask for a small extension to accept the offer on the table. If you aren't comfortable with that, than 2 it is. 
  • Actually, my advice may change depending on whether or not you're currently employed. If not, than accept the job for sure, and then go with the other job after the fact if the offer is a good one.
  • AprilZ81 said:
    I'm so excited that I have a job offer in hand!  It isn't a perfect offer, but it is pretty good and I need some advice since I'm also waiting on another offer to come in but it might be awhile.

    Job Offer: 
    -6 month contract with the ability to be hired full time
    -$4,000 annual raise over what I was making at my last job
    -No benefits until I am hired full time, possibly unpaid holidays since I'm working through a staff agency, I'm waiting on clarification.

    I would normally jump all over this, the job sounds interesting, everyone I interviewed with seemed awesome and there is potential for growth in the department (which is rare for a corporate meeting planner).  Even though this is a contract position it is pretty stable because it is because the need more people to help with the work load, this isn't just until one project is done.

    Here is where I hesitate.  My previous employer is doing a background check in preparation for making an offer.  I emailed the hiring manager today to let her know I had another offer and to get a status update.  She said there is a hold-up getting a dual role position approved (long story short is that they were hiring two positions, I'm qualified for both and they wanted to customize the role so I can do both at the same time) and she isn't sure when the approval would be finalized.

    I have NO IDEA what the salary would be for that job, but it is a guaranteed work-from-home position and I would be able to restart my benefits right where I left off, including 401(k) vesting and FMLA eligibility.  I would be willing to take a small pay cut from what I was making before for the reinstatement of my benefits plus the ability to work from home full time.

    Here are my options, what would you do?  I have to respond to the first offer by 5:00 on Monday and the anticipated start date is June 15th.

    1) Take the first offer if I don't hear back from previous employer.

    2) Take the first offer but be willing to leave if previous employer presents a compelling offer. (How horrible would this be career wise?  I don't want to burn bridges or appear flighty.)

    3) Turn  down the first offer and wait for previous employer.  (Not really considering this since for many reasons, but it technically is an option).
    Bolded. To clarify, you get the $4k raise IF you are hired FT at the end of the 6 month contract position?
  • @smerka I would not be parenting and working at the same time.  I would have some degree of flexibility, but I would either hire someone to watch the child(ren) in our home or put them in day care.  Having someone watch them in house (nanny, mother's helper type person) would give me the flexibility to still BE THERE but I know I can't be the primary caregiver and work at the same time.

    @bparkhur I am currently unemployed after a lay off in the middle of March.  I would ask for a longer extension if I thought the offer from my previous employer would  come sooner than later, but it sounds like this could be several days if not weeks.
    Formerly AprilH81
    photo composite_14153800476219jpg

  • AprilZ81 said:
    I'm so excited that I have a job offer in hand!  It isn't a perfect offer, but it is pretty good and I need some advice since I'm also waiting on another offer to come in but it might be awhile.

    Job Offer: 
    -6 month contract with the ability to be hired full time
    -$4,000 annual raise over what I was making at my last job
    -No benefits until I am hired full time, possibly unpaid holidays since I'm working through a staff agency, I'm waiting on clarification.

    I would normally jump all over this, the job sounds interesting, everyone I interviewed with seemed awesome and there is potential for growth in the department (which is rare for a corporate meeting planner).  Even though this is a contract position it is pretty stable because it is because the need more people to help with the work load, this isn't just until one project is done.

    Here is where I hesitate.  My previous employer is doing a background check in preparation for making an offer.  I emailed the hiring manager today to let her know I had another offer and to get a status update.  She said there is a hold-up getting a dual role position approved (long story short is that they were hiring two positions, I'm qualified for both and they wanted to customize the role so I can do both at the same time) and she isn't sure when the approval would be finalized.

    I have NO IDEA what the salary would be for that job, but it is a guaranteed work-from-home position and I would be able to restart my benefits right where I left off, including 401(k) vesting and FMLA eligibility.  I would be willing to take a small pay cut from what I was making before for the reinstatement of my benefits plus the ability to work from home full time.

    Here are my options, what would you do?  I have to respond to the first offer by 5:00 on Monday and the anticipated start date is June 15th.

    1) Take the first offer if I don't hear back from previous employer.

    2) Take the first offer but be willing to leave if previous employer presents a compelling offer. (How horrible would this be career wise?  I don't want to burn bridges or appear flighty.)

    3) Turn  down the first offer and wait for previous employer.  (Not really considering this since for many reasons, but it technically is an option).
    Bolded. To clarify, you get the $4k raise IF you are hired FT at the end of the 6 month contract position?

    No, the hourly rate I get as a contractor is equal to a $4,000 a raise over my last salary. This is without benefits, but I can't imagine they would ask me to take a pay cut to make me full time. I would expect the same take-home pay but salary instead of hourly and then paid vacation, health insurance, etc. They would probably be about the same cost to the employer as what they will be paying the staffing agency I'm working with.
    Formerly AprilH81
    photo composite_14153800476219jpg

  • bparkhur said:
    I would probably do an option you didn't mention, which is ask for a small extension to accept the offer on the table. If you aren't comfortable with that, than 2 it is. 


    I like this idea. You don't want to put them off too long. But, what about a, "My DH wasn't available this weekend to discuss this offer of employment with me in-depth. As it also affects him and our household finances, would you please consider allowing me until Wednesday morning to get back with you?"

    Or, you could do Tuesday at 5pm too.

    Whether or not #2 option is a viable choice depends on a few factors. First, how tight-knit is your industry community? Second, how would you feel in your gut about leaving (the on paper decision and the gut decision can sometimes feel different)? Third, what dos this 6 month contract position actually mean - legally. Are you bound to them legally for 6 months? If yes, than no you cannot leave for a better job. If no, then I would consider leaving - they are only guaranteeing you 6 months of work. This other place is FT indefinitely. While you have no offer from there yet, IF you got one and worked there, you would then have more job security.

  • If you think the full-time position could get back to you within a week, I would ask for an extra week to make your decision.  Most cases, companies understand if you are temporary and a full-time position opens up that they will lose you.  If you work there a few weeks and they really like you though, they could give you a full-time offer to keep you that matches or exceeds the offer you are being given at the other place.
  • bparkhur said:
    I would probably do an option you didn't mention, which is ask for a small extension to accept the offer on the table. If you aren't comfortable with that, than 2 it is. 


    I like this idea. You don't want to put them off too long. But, what about a, "My DH wasn't available this weekend to discuss this offer of employment with me in-depth. As it also affects him and our household finances, would you please consider allowing me until Wednesday morning to get back with you?"

    Or, you could do Tuesday at 5pm too.

    Whether or not #2 option is a viable choice depends on a few factors. First, how tight-knit is your industry community? Second, how would you feel in your gut about leaving (the on paper decision and the gut decision can sometimes feel different)? Third, what dos this 6 month contract position actually mean - legally. Are you bound to them legally for 6 months? If yes, than no you cannot leave for a better job. If no, then I would consider leaving - they are only guaranteeing you 6 months of work. This other place is FT indefinitely. While you have no offer from there yet, IF you got one and worked there, you would then have more job security.


    In theory I would love to ask for more time, but I know they have a second candidate that made it to the final round of interviews. I don't want to push it too hard in case they withdraw the offer.  If I knew with my previous employer would get their act straightened out I would feel better about asking for more time.

    Legally I don't think I'm bound to them for the full 6 months, but I will double check.  This "contract" could be ended at any time, for any reason from what I under stand.

    Regarding the bolded...

    This is what gets me.  I've never been in this position (possibility of two job offers) and the corporate meeting planning industry in this town is kind of small so I don't want to burn bridges or seem ungrateful for the opportunity.  I feel a little "icky" about accepting an offer knowing there is a chance a better offer will be coming along shortly.  That being said, no sane employer is going to fault me for leaving a temporary job without benefits for a full time job with benefits that start immediately.  If they do fault me for that I probably wouldn't be happy working there long term anyway.  I would serve out a notice period of at least two weeks if I leave after my first day of work.  In theory I could reject the offer/retract my acceptance before I actually start depending on the timing.

    If I turn in my notice it is always possible that they could offer to hire me on full time immediately instead of waiting 6 months.  That would make the decision even more difficult.
    And of course this worry could be for nothing and the second offer may never come.
    Formerly AprilH81
    photo composite_14153800476219jpg

  • AprilZ81 said:
    bparkhur said:
    I would probably do an option you didn't mention, which is ask for a small extension to accept the offer on the table. If you aren't comfortable with that, than 2 it is. 


    I like this idea. You don't want to put them off too long. But, what about a, "My DH wasn't available this weekend to discuss this offer of employment with me in-depth. As it also affects him and our household finances, would you please consider allowing me until Wednesday morning to get back with you?"

    Or, you could do Tuesday at 5pm too.

    Whether or not #2 option is a viable choice depends on a few factors. First, how tight-knit is your industry community? Second, how would you feel in your gut about leaving (the on paper decision and the gut decision can sometimes feel different)? Third, what dos this 6 month contract position actually mean - legally. Are you bound to them legally for 6 months? If yes, than no you cannot leave for a better job. If no, then I would consider leaving - they are only guaranteeing you 6 months of work. This other place is FT indefinitely. While you have no offer from there yet, IF you got one and worked there, you would then have more job security.


    In theory I would love to ask for more time, but I know they have a second candidate that made it to the final round of interviews. I don't want to push it too hard in case they withdraw the offer.  If I knew with my previous employer would get their act straightened out I would feel better about asking for more time.

    Legally I don't think I'm bound to them for the full 6 months, but I will double check.  This "contract" could be ended at any time, for any reason from what I under stand.

    Regarding the bolded...

    This is what gets me.  I've never been in this position (possibility of two job offers) and the corporate meeting planning industry in this town is kind of small so I don't want to burn bridges or seem ungrateful for the opportunity.  I feel a little "icky" about accepting an offer knowing there is a chance a better offer will be coming along shortly.  That being said, no sane employer is going to fault me for leaving a temporary job without benefits for a full time job with benefits that start immediately.  If they do fault me for that I probably wouldn't be happy working there long term anyway.  I would serve out a notice period of at least two weeks if I leave after my first day of work.  In theory I could reject the offer/retract my acceptance before I actually start depending on the timing.

    If I turn in my notice it is always possible that they could offer to hire me on full time immediately instead of waiting 6 months.  That would make the decision even more difficult.
    And of course this worry could be for nothing and the second offer may never come.
    That is the key.  If you were currently employed or if this first position was a permanent position I would possibly feel differently.  Remember that you have to look out for yourself as number one and as long as you stay professional you should be fine.
  • Congrats on the offer! I would also vote Option 2. In my life, there was a time when I had a "which job to take dilemma" and went with Option 1, back when I was a preschool teacher. I really regretted not respectfully leaving for a position where I would have been happier for longer. I think in your case, since you'd be leaving a contract position, it will be much less awkward if it comes to that.
  • hoffsehoffse member
    Sixth Anniversary 2500 Comments 500 Love Its Name Dropper
    I think bridges get burned when employers are relying on you to fill a spot after a fairly lengthy search, and the person they hired then backs out.  This just happened to my dad - he hires for his department where he teaches (college), and they need somebody in a specific field by the fall to teach a certain kind of class.  They found a lady, she accepted, the candidate search ended, and 3 weeks later she backed out for a different job.  Now they have to start all over again, and the clock is ticking.  Searches for new professors often take months, so she left him in a really tight spot. 

    Since this first job is temporary anyway, you could probably manage a switch partway through without too much drama.  It might also be good to be honest with job 2 if they make you an offer - something to the effect of, "Yes I will accept, but I need x weeks to make sure I don't leave my current employer in a lurch."  They should be willing to work with you to enable you to provide two or three weeks' notice so that you can exit job 1 gracefully.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • I would accept the job. My reasoning is that based on what you have told me about your prior employer I would be concerned about stability. They laid you off a few months ago & now they are dragging their feet on this position. Like you said it could be weeks before they figure things out. They should understand that people need to work and can't be strung out for weeks in the unknown.
  • Congratulations!!! Burning bridges makes me uneasy, so I'd take the offer and go in with the mindset that you're shooting for a full time position there and not back with your former employer. And frankly, I'd be hesitant to go back to work for a company that had just fired me.
    HeartlandHustle | Personal Finance and Betterment Blog  
  • Erikan73 said:
    I would accept the job. My reasoning is that based on what you have told me about your prior employer I would be concerned about stability. They laid you off a few months ago & now they are dragging their feet on this position. Like you said it could be weeks before they figure things out. They should understand that people need to work and can't be strung out for weeks in the unknown.

    Erikan73 said:
    I would accept the job. My reasoning is that based on what you have told me about your prior employer I would be concerned about stability. They laid you off a few months ago & now they are dragging their feet on this position. Like you said it could be weeks before they figure things out. They should understand that people need to work and can't be strung out for weeks in the unknown.

    The company I used to work for makes money from providing services for clients. The company overall is doing well, but my salary was not being paid for by clients so I was "dead weight" in the eyes of HR. I was providing a good service, but I was not the only one capable of proving that service so they split up my job duties and laid me off. This new position is 100% client funded and the contract with the client is good for another 2-3 years with the option of a 2 year renewal so it is as stable as it gets for our industry.
    Formerly AprilH81
    photo composite_14153800476219jpg

  • Since the offer is temporary and has contingencies, I would accept it and start there.  Then if another offer comes from your previous employer and it is worth it, make the switch.  I wouldn't want to be out of work any longer because I was banking on the possibility of going back with my previous employer.  

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
    www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com 
                        Image and video hosting by TinyPic

  • I agree with most of the other PPs.  If the job you were being offered was permanent, my advice would be different.

    But it's not.  You are basically working for a staffing company as a "temp-to-perm employee" for their client.

    If I were in your position, I would take the current job offer...and then if your previous company comes through with the better job you want...then give the temp job two weeks notice and go back to your old company.

    That is the chance companies take when they choose to use a staffing agency instead of hiring permanent employees, and they know that.  I don't think there would be any bridges burned.

    I've actually been on all sides of this table, lol.  I've worked for a staffing agency where I placed people in jobs.  I've gone through a lengthy interview process for a "temp-to-perm" position, that I did end up being hired permanently after 4 months of working as a temp.  And I've also been the one who has hired and managed temps.

    You might be surprised how many companies do their hiring this way.  The downside is it is more expensive and it is more likely your employees will leave if they are offered a permanent position.  But the upside is they can "test drive" an employee before doing all the rigamarole to add them to payroll...to their health insurance...to their workman's comp insurance, etc.

    And it is a cautionary tale as well.  If they don't like you for any reason, even something totally insubstantial, all it takes is a phone call to the staffing agency and say, "We no longer require the services of Employee XYZ."  Boom. Done. 

Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards