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family drama
Long story short..my sibling has cut ties with all of his family except for my father. My father has been in the middle, but has always favored my brother as he takes his word as "bible' and will agree with him regardless. I am the "scapegoat.." he is the "golden child." Yet, a lot of wrongs were done on his end and my dad is scared to say anything to not get cut from my brother's life. My dad has hurt me ALOT but I maintain a relationship as he is my dad.
They live in the same house, but it is a duplex. I found out today that my brother wants to sell the house and my dad went to look at an apt with him, which he put a deposit down. He moves in a week. My dad is old.. doesn't drive.. and has many resources available to him in this current town. Apparently he may in his new town, but he is in a town that is "out of the way" from his friends/family etc. He has no one there. I have also told my dad to please let me know should the house be put on the market, so I can help. He yes'd me.
I am hurt that I was blindsided as my dad told me nothing, but concerned for his well being. Any suggestions? Ive been crying all day as I cant believe that this was done because he is my dad too.. I wasn't given the opportunity to help him look for a place or move in with me. I feel like because my sibling cut me off, it's like well screw you.. This is the icing on the cake and I think I need time away from my dad.. right before father's day 
Re: family drama
You have to accept that this is your dad. You know what' he's like, you know he puts your brother first. Stop expecting him to be different. He will always disappoint you otherwise.
Yes, he's your dad, but you need to do some deep soul searching here and figure out what YOU want out of this relationship. Trying to force a relationship w/ someone who doesn't want the same thing as you rarely works out. even with family.
There is NOTHING wrong with taking a break. Really, there isn't. Give yourself some distance and with that, you might find perspective.
None at all.
This is not healthy for you, either.
Your bro sounds like he isn't even worth a wooden nickel.
Don't intervene or get intertwined in their unhealthy relationship.
Cool it with your dad and bro indefinitely.
I can identify with this: I have given my bro the boot, after a tenuous situation happened. It was the best thing I ever did.
Your dad to see the town social services department that's located in his new town. Your dad needs to look into what is available to him -- usually there is a bus for the seniors and others who do not drive and there are oodles of things available for seniors to do.
Your father would do himself a lot of good if he volunteered for something! There are hospitals, shut ins, house of worship groups (if he is Catholic he can look into the Knights of Columbus), fundraising groups, political groups and more. He's got a ton of time on his hands --- put the time to good use and help somebody in need.