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GTKY: What are some random facts about you that we wouldn't know from our MM discussions? Totally open-ended, I know.
Re: Not MM-related
Probably nothing exciting but:
I love my dog to death, he is my first dog ever and I'm so glad I have him. I used to have guinea pigs growing up but am allergic to their fur
My husband is the greatest guy I've ever met. It's hard to believe that he comes from the family he does because he is the total opposite of everyone else (financially). Even though they live 45 minutes away, we only see them a few times and year...but never on holidays because we spend them with my family...his choice. Hopefully things will change once we get a house and can host everyone together.
I have a very small family. Both my parents are from families of 3 kids but we have only have 1 cousin! I think that's why I have no desire for kids because I never grew up around babies.
I love to travel and want to do more of it
I used to have fainting spells growing up (until about age 23). Never found out why it happened but it was usually from being over heated.
Now that we are staying at my parents temporarily, we have black bears that come through the yard a few times a week....scary stuff!
He has since calmed down immensely and we made amends about 5 years ago. I am now very close to him and we talk at least twice a week. He is also an amazing grandpa and is very patient and gentle with my DD.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
So it is possible, and the thing that helps is constantly telling myself that I'm breaking the cycle. Both my mom and dads' side of the family grew up this way, and my grandparents did as well. So it's something I'm passionate about not continuing for the next generation. Which has made it a lot easier to do.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
@hoffse, every time my H or I talk to people from our hometowns...he is originally from OR, I'm from CA...they tell us, "Oh, you have a southern accent now!" I don't hear it at all either for myself or for him. My H is TERRIFIED of all birds, but he doesn't know why.
I found out a few years ago when I went to the eye doctor that I have a blank spot in my eye. The doc told me what basically happened is, in utero, my eye just didn't form at all in that spot. He told me it was pretty far to the side, but was still surprised I couldn't see it. A little more in and I would have had a small white dot in everything I saw.
@brij2006 and @jessica490, kudos to both of you for recognizing there could be a problem within your own families based on your upbringings and going to therapy to nip it in the bud.
I was the 3rd graduating class from Cal State University at San Marcos (north San Diego county). It was a new Cal State school at the time. I was also a founding member of the Alpha Chi Omega sorority chapter there.
If I do say so myself...I have a really good singing voice. Pure luck, no training involved. I've won two karaoke contests. Plus, I took a cruise a few years ago, and for the evening's entertainment, they were doing a "mock" American Idol where passengers were the singers. About 125 people tried out and I was one of five chosen to be in the event that night.
As it turned out, the event was in the main showroom! There were hundreds of passengers in attendance. I'm usually not nervous in front of a crowd, but had never been in front of one that big before. That was a bit nerve wracking, but I just pretended they weren't there. The ship gave me a bottle of champagne for my participation. For the rest of the cruise, I was like a mini celebrity and I ended up meeting a lot of other passengers because they would come up to me and talk to me about the show. It was fun!
My H initially came from an abusive family, though he doesn't remember it. His mother married young and had four sons. She realized she needed to get herself and her sons out of the situation, but felt the only way to do it was to put them all up for adoption. He was adopted when he was four, but has no memories before that age. In adulthood, he found one of his brothers and his mother. He has met them and sporadically keeps in contact with them.
My H is 10 years older than me and has a B.S. in Mathematics. It would have been in computer science...because he has been involved in computer tech jobs (programming, database admin., etc.) since the early 80s...except there were no degrees for that yet!
- I love to entertain and I love to feed people. At my last office (before we transferred out of state) I had staff meetings every Monday. For my first meeting, I made breakfast and just had a GTKY meeting. Everyone loved the breakfast, so it just became a thing; I made breakfast for my team every Monday morning for my whole tenure at that office. On my last day, my staff had a potluck breakfast farewell with all my favorite foods.
I can relate to what some are saying here.. My father was physically and verbally abusive growing up as well. Never towards me (or my sister), but my mother and his other wives. I think he knew my mom would (literally) kill him if he ever laid a finger on my sister and I. When I was 6 and my sister was 7 he kidnapped us to take us on vacation, but wouldn't tell anyone where we were going and wouldn't let us call our mom for 10 days. The cops searched for us but didn't find us, and somehow he never got in legal trouble for it. I just got home yesterday from my first trip with him since, 18 years later. It was a lot better than I expected! I can also see some similarities in my attitude towards my H at times, which needs to be addressed.
For a more fun fact-- I'm obsessed with 101 Dalmatians the movie and the animal. You would think at 24 I would have outgrown it by now, but nope. I even made my dog a fleece tie blanket when JoAnn Fabrics came out with 101 Dalmatian fleece. Growing up I had everything dalmatian-- shoes, blankets, curtains, clothes, toys, etc. I am super jealous of @formerlyGDaisy09 and her gorgeous pups!! When I finally get a house with a big yard I plan on getting one.
I also had a verbally abusive father. He wasn't physically abuse to us, but he did have an explosive temper, smashing holes in walls, throwing things, breaking dishes, cussing up a storm. This is now the reason why I never swear and hardly ever raise my voice, and if H does, I have to remind him that I can't communicate with him that way. He is very respectful of that and even in the middle of an argument, he will tone it down if I remind him that its freaking me out. I have a relationship with my dad now; I wouldn't call it great but it's okay. It will probably never be closer. I have way too many things about my family to talk about here, so that's all I'm gonna say about that
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I think I have OCD. I know a lot of people joke about that, but I really think I might have mild OCD. I probably wouldn't go to a therapist about it unless it ever interfered with my life, which it doesn't. There are just a lot of little things, such as--I hate when my sofa, coffee table, and area rug are not lined up with the lines on the hardwood floor. Once I notice it, I can't stop thinking about it until it's fixed. I am also obsessive about my office at work. Every day I come in and I have to fix the stuff that the cleaning crew has moved. Even if it is just an inch off, it bugs me. Everything goes in the same place, every day. I literally feel like I can't do any work until everything is in its place.
I'm not really a dog person. H is a huge dog person, which is why we have dogs. I absolutely love our dogs to pieces and they are like my children. However, I don't really care for most other dogs (ha!) and I probably wouldn't have a dog if I was single.
I feel like these are all negative things and I wish I could think of something nice to say about myself, but my brain is fried
Hhmmm very interesting.
My great grandfather was a famous magician. And, I grew up hearing my grandpa tell stories about birds and bunnies in their bathroom. My mom who is now a retired RN, went to a year of clown college with her good friend. After "school," which by the way had a formal graduation ceremony and was by far, probably the weirdest event I have ever attended in my life, they would go to events and parties for extra money on the side. Her name was "Hearts." Her friend's name was, "Skeeter." Hearts was silent. After the clown phase was over, my sister and I used parts of her costume over the years for various other things....the huge red shoes were a lot of fun.
As an elementary school-aged kid I loved doing book reports and school projects. Mine were very crafty and I always got A's. Teachers couldn't wait to see what I would bring in (and my classmates were always jealous). That was when stores like Michael's and JoAnn's got their fingers into me as a customer for life and I was bitten by the craft bug!
DH and I met on e-Harmony. He lived in Boulder, CO and I was in Richmond, VA. When we got married, e-Harmony sent us a Tiffany glass bowl as a wedding gift.
In 2009, I almost drown while white water rafting the New River in WV (Class 4 and 5 rapids). I fell out and was trapped under the raft. We have the whole thing on video. It's weird watching DH and my BFF and her DH scanning the water for me to pop back up. You can see the panic on their faces. Sometimes I have nightmares.
In first grade, we had to write a letter to a famous person asking them for a letter back and a pen. I wrote to Richard Nixon. He wrote back and also sent me a pen from when he was in the WH. This was in the mid to late 80's.
@dragonstarjk I do have a touch of OCD as well...It bugs me when things are crooked etc. I also remember when I was younger...maybe 10-12 yrs old, that I REALLY had OCD for a while. I would check light switches and the oven knobs multiple to make sure they were really off, I wouldn't step on cracks, I would count things....my parents never knew and I really had no idea it was a problem but thank god it went away on it's own somehow. The memories of it are very short and vague but I'm surprised I just stopped doing it....
I still have some OCD tendencies, which doesn't mesh well with with H's ADHD tendencies, lol. I really think H has undiagnosed ADHD, he's always moving, can't focus, etc. It's difficult for me to deal with because I'm completely opposite and it affects our communication/decision-making abilities. At this point, I don't think it's worth it to check it with a doctor, as H is one who would use the diagnosis label as an excuse instead of trying to overcome it.
Let's see...I grew up with my mom and grandparents for the most part, none of who spoke English, so I ended up speaking 3 languages before I went to kindergarten and learned English. I grew up with a dad who had a short temper and was verbally abusive and also very distant. He was always traveling for work and away on international business trips, so I only ever saw him for maybe one weekend a month (sometimes it was as long as a week), so it wasn't all that bad. But those few days when he was home were always intense.
Also, stray animals (mostly cats) somehow manage to find me. I have a family of 5 cats living in my backyard right now and I have woken up to stray dogs sleeping on my front porch. When we went on vacation a few months ago 2 random stray cats started following me around wherever I went. My MIL didn't believe me until we went out to lunch the other day and a random cat came out of nowhere and sat down on the patio under my chair. He then followed us out to my car and tried to get in with us. Like it's seriously really weird! DH calls me the cat whisperer, lol.
I've been a vegetarian since I was about 8 years old, and I love white water rafting, bungie jumping, and things like that. Kayaking, surfing, sailing, basically anything that gets me out on the water. I have a nasty scar on my shoulder and knees from where I fell off my surfboard when I was about 13. I took a tumble off my board and got flipped around by the current and got smacked up against some coral. I don't remember much of it aside from my mom freaking out, and me getting wrapped up like a mummy in gauze.
DH is terrified of geese. He is also currently working towards getting his pilot's license and would like to get his scuba certifiation. He grew up in a very small town up in the Colorado mountains (like it takes 5 minutes to drive to the other side of town!) and we always like to compare stories about how different life was for us when we were little.
Interesting to read all the OCD tics. I kind of wonder if we all have them to some extent or another. I sometimes have to check things in my purse over and over again. If I am especially stressed out, I can't help but focus on a group of items and have to count them a few times.
Another tic, that gets more frequent if I am stressed, is touching the windshield wiper lever. I don't turn it on. I don't actually hold onto it. I touch it, put my hand on the window, touch it, put my hand on the window. I usually don't even realize I am doing it.
If I'm rushing and forget to say the poem, I've been known to drive back home from as much as 20 minutes away, though usually I remember within 5. It's probably more of an anxiety issue than OCD-type thing, as I'm terrified of house fires.
I loved that show! He was so funny with all his little oddities and patterns.
Funny enough, I refused to watch it for the first few seasons it was on because I couldn't stand the character he played on Wings and just assumed I wouldn't like him in another show, but I was wrong.