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FutureMrsMerati
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
WWMM Do? Job-Related
Hi there! I've been super busy at work so not a lot of time to participate on boards recently but have a question that I'm hoping my fellow MM posters could advise on.
I was promoted in April and assumed a new position at my company, where I have been for 2.5 years. I am fairly happy here, but feel that the amount of responsibility and work I am given is well above my pay grade, despite my recent promotion/raise. A friend of mine works elsewhere and loves her job, but longed to be out of our industry and transition into fashion. Despite having significantly less responsibility and never receiving a promotion, she made the same base salary I do, but has an incremental annual 15% annual bonus that I do not receive! Almost every day I from 7AM-8PM with no opportunity to even sit in the cafeteria for lunch, let alone anything else. She works from 8:30AM-5PM every day and frequently takes breaks, goes shopping and still has plenty of time to accomplish her work during the day. I am always behind, and literally as I sit here, have 3 Post-It notes worth of “to-dos” sitting on my desk, only a few lines of which I’ve been able to cross off today because of other things that have popped up. My colleague (who’s position I would naturally assume after my next promotion) works from 7AM-10PM almost every day, and very rarely sees his wife and children. This has weighed on me greatly – as my husband and I talk more and more about having children, I know I could never sustain this lifestyle where work consumes me Monday through Friday, and sometimes even on the weekends.
My friend with the amazing job recently told me she is taking a position within the fashion industry and has since resigned from her position. She asked if I would like for her to pass my resume along, and I reluctantly agreed. Her manager contacted me that same day, and I am scheduled to go in to meet with him tomorrow. The trouble is, I am feeling EXTREMELY guilty at the idea of leaving my current position. Given the amount of work I do, I have no idea what my team would do without me and know for certain my leaving would be a huge blow to my already-overwhelmed team, and I like my colleagues very much. This is clearly weighing on me a lot, as I will now have to stay at least 20 minutes later tonight because I’ve decided to pose this issue to you all!
Have you ever been in this position? How did you overcome your guilt, and/or what do you suggest I do?
Thanks!
Re: WWMM Do? Job-Related
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You need to let go of the guilt. You are doing what is best for yourself and there is nothing wrong with that. I understand why you feel bad, but the fact that your current company overworks people is their problem...and currently, your problem.
Of course, this all might be premature. Maybe you won't like your friend's company or job after the interview. Maybe they won't offer you a position. But I would take this opportunity for the godsend it is and hope to wow their socks off and get a job with a much better work/life balance.
I'm sure it will be tougher on your colleagues. At least for a little while. But they will manage. They will make it work. Because that is what we, as humans, do. Especially in the workplace.