Work/home balance

kerrym86 · July 2015

My husband is not a workaholic but he is in his early career and trying to make an impression and land a good paying position. He has this dream of a lifestyle for us which I would hope for too but I'm not sure the struggle is worth the reward. He wants to work hard to provide for a future family but I keep reminding him I am comfortable right now and don't require much.
He is therefore putting a lot of time into work, little time into finding any local friends or hobbies and making me feel like I neglect him when I go socialize with all my friends. (Side note: He went to school out of state and has no local friends, only coworkers, and I went to school locally with lots of close friends)
The most incident was me booking a trip and him being unable to go so my best friend and I went and had a wonderful time. When I mentioned that she and I wanted to travel again together, he asked "with what money?"

How do I approach him about a work/home balance and remind him that he needs to step away once and awhile, but still encouraging his career?

TarponMonoxide · July 2015

He is entitled to personal days and vacation days, is he not?

Let him take them and even if you and he have a lock in weekend, make sure you spend that time together.

BlueBirdMB · July 2015

I'm self employed, so I do not get personal or vacation days and honestly, it's difficult for me logistically and often emotionally to take days off. Our first year of marriage, my business was at it's best and I literally didn't take any vacation time. I killed myself and was completely burned out, which wasn't healthy for me or my marriage.

It's about finding balance. That's incredibly difficult for me. I had tied my self-worth into how monetarily successful I was and how busy my life was. I had to adjust my attitude and outlook on life.

So here are some questions:

Does he take vacation time? Do you take the same days off? Do you spend time together on those days? Why couldn't he take off to go on the vacation you were suppose to go on together?

My husband is also very driven and understands the value of hard work, which was very important to me in finding a partner, but I brought it to another level. There is nothing wrong with your husband working to create a better life for himself and his family, but there needs to be balance.

Work/home balance

Re: Work/home balance

Choose Another Board

Search Boards