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So I hate this but I have a very high balance on a Gap Visa credit card, $6600 with an interest rate of 24%. I am paying $250/month and thats hardly touching the balance. I am unfortunately in a position that I can't afford to put much more towards it. Anyone have suggestions or advise on what to do with it, other than just keep paying what I can? I feel like the interest is killing me. I have cut it up and am never looking back!!!!!!
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You also need to look at getting your income up. If you can babysit from home in the evenings, or take your child with you, or do something like that any extra $ can really start moving the needle in a situation like this.
Can you post your balances/interest rate on your other debts? I think a snowball might be best in your situation even thou the Gap card is eating at you the most.
I am also going to agree with @lbonga1 about getting rid of the car, if possible. That would free up a lot of room for you to pay off your other debts.
Also, with so few payments left, you might actually be in a good place with enough equity to sell and buy a beater.
Not to sound harsh, but your debt is from stuff, likely things and clothes you've bought to impress others or make yourself feel better temporarily. You have to snap out of that mindset. Stop valuing yourself on what you wear, own or what you think others think. Life will feel so much better when you have financial and emotional freedom from that.
I continue to not understand separate finances for married couples. Is it a trust or control issue? Allowing for one or both partners to be dishonest or not completely truthful? Because all of the reasons make for an unhealthy marriage.
Ok with these totals I would tackle the capital one card first. Put the minimum plus any additional money you have left over at the end of the month towards that balance, while still paying the minimum on the others. Then move to the JCP card and put the money you were putting towards the capital one plus the minimum payment you were already paying on it... and keep moving down the list smallest to largest.
I would seriously consider if you have not already (and not necessarily in this order):
1. Discuss this situation with your H. Be completely honest with him and let him know what debt you have. In fact if you haven't already you and your H should come together and list all the debts, interest payments, minimum payments, etc. that you both have. Once you know those numbers you need to come up with a budget that you'll stick to (you can create a joint budget even if you don't combine finances). You might be able to find additional money here that you can throw towards this debt.
2. Check out Dave Ramsey Total Money Makeover. Not everyone on this board agrees on all of his practices, but he is great at helping people get out of a consumer debt and get a handle on their finances
3. Consider selling your vehicle. Although you are only 11 months away from it being paid off, there is some equity there that you can use.
4. Keep the $600 you have, don't put it towards debt. Only use this in an emergency! Do not use it for clothes, entertainment, eating out, gifts, etc.
5. Cut up ALL of your cards!! I am like you, if I have credit cards I will use them so to resist temptation I don't carry them.
I am sure others will have good advice too. Bottom line is it's going to a lot work, communication and discipline to get rid of this debt, but you can do it! Stick around this board and you'll get a lot of good tips and motivation. Check in on the weekly accountability posts too. When I first came on here I had $4000 in CC debt, $5000 on my car, and $11,000 on student loans. Since coming here I've paid off $11,000 in debt along with having a wedding and doing a light DIY remodel on my house.
ETA: 6. You need to find out the balance on the 0% interest card. Even though it's set up for auto-payment it's a good idea to keep track of the payments and making sure they're being applied to the account and to ensure that it is paid off before the promo period ends. You do not want to pay back interest on it. Create an online account that you check in monthly to make sure.
I would start by just going in and talking to them/explain your situation and go from there. I wouldn't apply at multiple banks. I would just find out if they require collateral on personal loans, their rates, etc. Once you gather the information and talk it over with H then I would apply at one bank to start (preferrably one you think will approve you without collateral and a decent interest rate) and see whether you're approved or not.
*This is how I would handle it, others might have more experience with this type of stuff than me and might be able to give better advice.
The collateral requirement is highly dependent on your credit score, the amount you are borrowing, etc. At least that is how it is for my bank (I am a personal banker/consumer lender). So yes, you can definitely go and ask what some different banks' policies are to at least get an idea, but you should definitely think of a back up plan and take some of the other advice you have been given as well, because you may not qualify for an unsecured loan. If you don't qualify after a couple of tries, I wouldn't keep having multiple banks check your credit.
Also--it is fine to keep your finances separate but you should still have a joint budget and a joint discussion about money and debt. H and I have separate accounts but we budget and pay for things together.
Like usual, I agree with @hoffse. To add to that--banks are required by law to NOT discourage any applicant from applying, so just know that they won't be able to give you a for sure answer on whether or not you qualify until you actually apply. You may need to just be brutally honest with yourself and try to analyze whether what they are telling you is really an indication that you should proceed with that bank or try somewhere else.
And yes, be honest--I can't tell you how many times I've heard that a person has good or great credit and then I had to turn them down. It's not fun. Also, be open-minded. Debt consolidation loans (which really is what we are talking about here) are some of the most complex loans but also make for some good discussion about how to help you. Make sure you find a bank that seems invested in the process and truly wants to help your situation, not just make money from you. Banks in general get a bad rap, but there are some good ones out there.
Something else to try is calling each credit card company and requesting a lower interest rate. I would probably tell them something like, "I've been considering opening a credit card with a 0% interest rate for 12 months and transferring this balance, because the interest rate is currently so high on this card. But I would prefer to work with you and not open another account. What can we lower my interest rate to? As you can see, I have been a customer for X years and always make a timely payment."
Generally speaking, you'll need to be current on your payments with no late payments within the last 6-12 months. And it probably won't work with the two store cards you have, though it doesn't hurt to ask. Store cards are vultures and always have horrible interest rates.