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Hi all, I used to post semi-regularly a few years ago. I am back now, because I need to stay straight with money issues! And this is a good place to do so
I do have one question.. we are saving for a bigger home, another kid, and a future car to replace my current one. But our retirement is SAD. I'm 31, DH is 34 and we don't have much. I will get a pension (if the state of CA doesn't crash). Would it be smart to just continue putting what we put into retirement, or put more? I feel like it makes more sense to be saving for the things we need now rather than taking away from that to stick more into retirement and then once we reach those goals start stocking away $ for retirement. But then all the money gurus seem to say otherwise, so I don't know!!
Re: Back again!
ETA: Also, when you say 'not much' how much does that really mean? Considering your answer, I might even suggest more than 15% as 35 is pretty late in the game to get started.
Mortgage (includes taxes and insurance)
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
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Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
On the pension, I'm not banking on my pension as part of my retirement plan. Since it's employer funded, I should be fine to contribute to my own plan at 10-15%. My pension is super safe and 98% pre-funded, so I do think it will be there once I vest, but I definitely wouldn't count on it in California to be honest.
I actually think $200 for fun is ok, provided you're meeting all your basic obligations. I'm also in a relatively HCOL area, and meeting a friend for drinks once burns through a huge chunk. H forgetting to pack lunch 2-3 times or buying batteries for something quickly knocks off most of the rest. A movie? Forget about it. We've found that cutting much below that gets us into trouble. I think I may put more items in the fun category than some other posters, however.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
The PPs make a good point about not counting on inheritances. Even sizable estates can be whittled way down by medical bills/nursing homes, etc.
Or skip a generation, like @hoffse mentioned. I know my H's parents were financially successful people and, while I don't really know what their estate was worth, the majority of it was split between the grandkids. They felt their children were already old enough to not need help and skipped them. I personally thought that was a bit odd, but their money...their business. They never made it a secret that was what they were doing, so at least none of their kids ever counted on the money.