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dutchgirl76
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2 showers, same day, different states
Hi ladies,
I'm not sure if this is the right board, and it's hopefully really silly so please bear with me. I've been invited to 2 different showers on the same day, in different states. 1 wedding shower (A) is from 10am to 2pm and the other is a baby shower (B) from 1pm to 4pm, with 90 miles in between. In my area that means at least 1.5 hours to get from A to B if traffic cooperates. We received the invitation for shower B first. Both of these showers are for my husband's family, 1 is his aunt's daughter (first marriage), the 2nd is for his cousin (1st baby.) Normally I would probably just skip shower A since we got B's invitation first, however we can't make the wedding in Sept because we'll be away on vacation (out of state.) I feel guilty missing shower A since we never see his aunt or cousin (Aunt lives over an hour away in one direction, her daughter's over an hour away in the other direction and neither of them drive too far. To make both happen I'd probably have to leave shower A early just to arrive late at shower B which seems rude to both groups. Long story short, as long as I send a gift to 1 of these ladies am I ok to miss the shower without guilt? I would hope the family would understand we were invited to a different shower before we got the other invitation.
Thanks for your help.
Re: 2 showers, same day, different states
Have you already accepted the invitation to Shower B? If so, than that is the one you need to go to. If not, and you would prefer to go to Shower A for the reasons you listed, than accept that invitation and send a gift to Shower B.
I personally would never try to go to both showers, unless one of them was already close to my home. Otherwise, I'd just be on the road driving half the day.
But, if you feel differently and don't mind the drive, I don't think there is anything wrong with leaving Shower A early and arriving to Shower B late. I'd just explain it to both hostesses ahead of time. For example, one of my wedding guests came over to me halfway through the reception and gracefully made their exit because their daughter's birthday (adult) was that day and she was having a party. Not a big deal, I was just thrilled they had come.
And I really don't think it's a big deal to miss the shower AND the wedding. I can guarantee you that the bride probably isn't all THAT concerned about specifics like this.