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FutureMrsMerati
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Adult Child of Divorce?
My parents recently had a huge fight and my mom has moved out. They have been married for 38 years next month, and have had their issues but always worked through or dealt with them. This is by far the worst fight they've ever had, and neither parent has even thought of moving out. Both say they are done with the marriage. I live several states away and am struggling with this, although I am 26 years old. My heart breaks for them and I don't want them to be lonely, die alone or not have anyone helping them or taking care of them. Although they are only ~60 years old, I worry about one of my parents collapsing or having a heart attack and not having anyone to help them or call the ambulance.
I feel almost dumb being so upset over this. However, last spring my 26 year-old brother passed away of a brain tumor. At the end of October, my father in law passed away unexpectedly. The holidays and family time in general have been extremely difficult ever since. I was finally starting to think that life would get back to normal and we would start to establish new, happy family and holiday traditions. Then this happened, and it feels like it's almost too much. I am so grateful neither of them are passing away or coping with a horrible illness, but it still feels like it is re-breaking my already broken heart.
Is all of this irrational? If you are an adult child of divorce, how did you cope? What helped you to get through this stage and move towards acceptance?
Thank you.
Re: Adult Child of Divorce?
I am so sorry to hear this, @FutureMrsMerati! Although it is not something I have been through, I think it is almost more devastating as an adult because nobody ever expects such a long standing marriage to end. Reading your story, I also can't help but wonder if the death of your brother is a major contributing factor. That kind of deep sadness can really alter how people relate with each other.
I hope for everyone's sake they can find their way back to each other. But, either way, you will find a way to persevere. It is just especially hard right now because it is fresh and raw especially on top of the other tragedies your family has so recently been experiencing (internet hugs).