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Trying to decide on #2
Ok so, my husband and I had been planning on trying to conceive our second child this fall. We currently have one child who is seven years old. We're at the point we had planned to start trying and we're both panicking a little about it. Ok a ton. We never wanted kids close together and always assumed we'd have a second down the line, but we're at the point where its pretty much soon or never. This is due to age, and we don't want any bigger of an age gap really.
Our main anxieties focus mostly on our son. Both of us know we can care for another child, we know we can love another child, we are fine financially, etc. etc. We are worried about ruining the relationship and dynamic that we currently have with our son. The three of us are incredibly close. Our son is truly awesome. Especially myself and my son, who I stayed home with when he was not of school age yet, are incredibly close. While our son says he would like a sibling he is seven, so while he might think now it would be ok to share mom and dad we can't predict what he'll be like. Basically we're just scared to death of 'ruining' our relationship with him, pushing him away, making him feel less important, etc. I'm an only child so I am aware its not the worst thing in the world, but ideally I always wanted two as we don't have a lot of extended family. Also, I don't know the first thing about having a sibling. I just don't want to do it at the expense of losing a part of what we have right now as things are great right now.
In a perfect world we would welcome a new baby, we would go through an adjustment period, but we would end up staying just as close with our son as we are now, just welcome a new little one into our family.
Any advice or past experiences!!??
Our main anxieties focus mostly on our son. Both of us know we can care for another child, we know we can love another child, we are fine financially, etc. etc. We are worried about ruining the relationship and dynamic that we currently have with our son. The three of us are incredibly close. Our son is truly awesome. Especially myself and my son, who I stayed home with when he was not of school age yet, are incredibly close. While our son says he would like a sibling he is seven, so while he might think now it would be ok to share mom and dad we can't predict what he'll be like. Basically we're just scared to death of 'ruining' our relationship with him, pushing him away, making him feel less important, etc. I'm an only child so I am aware its not the worst thing in the world, but ideally I always wanted two as we don't have a lot of extended family. Also, I don't know the first thing about having a sibling. I just don't want to do it at the expense of losing a part of what we have right now as things are great right now.
In a perfect world we would welcome a new baby, we would go through an adjustment period, but we would end up staying just as close with our son as we are now, just welcome a new little one into our family.
Any advice or past experiences!!??
Re: Trying to decide on #2
The age distance was a bit steep and it was almost like each of them had the status of being an "only" child (the oldest was entering high school and the youngest was starting kindergarten --- but it worked out fine.
They even shared a room.
They had their little moments; I am sure it was due to an age difference thing but it all worked out fine for the both of them.