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Marriage and Christmas politics

My H and I were raised very differ to regarding Xmas. Let me start with no judgement on what you do. As a matter of fact of love to hear opinions. I was raised knowing the meaning of Christmas was the celebration of Christ. My H was raised w Santa. The difference is I feel like it's a lie doing all this silly Santa business. I can go on with the myth until my H brings up Santa gifts. I am always frustrated w this. I feel like it's a waste and I want my kids to know that the loving mother gave them a wonderful gift not some jolly myth of a character.

Re: Marriage and Christmas politics

  • Hugs!!!  I didn't think P and I were raised too differently on all this but then we had a kid.  Now it definitely causes tension.  His family obviously put a lot more emphasis on the Santa stuff and mine was more Christ focused.  While I am not as religious as an adult as I was raised, we are still disagreeing on all the Santa stuff.  He even told me a few weeks ago that "Santa was half-a**ing it this year".  To that point he had done no shopping for anyone Santa related or otherwise so basically he was criticizing my gifts or what he thought was a lack of gifts.  And other little things.  I keep trying to point out that we can take what we grew up with but also make changes. I thought we had figured all this out last year but I guess not.

    While I enjoy playing Santa, I agree that I don't want all the focus on Santa. I want it on family and being together. 
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  • Well, I guess I'll be the oddball here. My family went to church every Sunday or at least most Sundays, but come Christmas day the presents were from Santa with a few from mom, dad, various relatives, etc. Eventually we hit the age where we stopped believing in Santa and there was an appreciation for all the stuff our parents had got us. So I don't see a problem with it.

    At this point Ryan is too young to know the difference, but as he gets older, there will be presents from Santa until which point he no longer believes.
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  • I grew up the same as Mark. I wrapped most presents in Santa wrapping paper and some with my wrapping paper. I told her Santa brought the ones with his wrapping paper but she didn't get it. Next year I think I will wrap less gifts with the santa wrapping paper.

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  • I grew up with both. Went to Sunday school, learned the meaning, yet still had presents from Santa. J's parents are still very religious, and we still have presents from Santa, even now. As adults. I think it's more important that not all the gifts are from Santa, and they see other people giving gifts to each other. Or if they give a gift to others. That way they see the generosity of Christmas.
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  • We still had gifts from Santa while growing up but only a few.  It was usually the bigger item and then a bunch of smaller stuff in the stocking.  Then we had some presents from parents and other relatives. 

    To clarify where P and I differ is in how much should be from Santa.  From him, I get the idea that the living room should be exploding with stuff from Santa.  While I feel like Santa should bring stuff but not everything.  Does it really matter in the end who brought what, no. 

    We also talked about whether the gifts from Santa should be wrapped.  His were, mine weren't.  That's not really a big deal.  I pointed out I wasn't going to wrap them because I didn't want to buy special paper just from Santa and then I'd have to keep that hidden so she wouldn't realize.  Obviously that's in later years not right now. 
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  • shellyamf said:
    We also talked about whether the gifts from Santa should be wrapped.  His were, mine weren't.  That's not really a big deal.  I pointed out I wasn't going to wrap them because I didn't want to buy special paper just from Santa and then I'd have to keep that hidden so she wouldn't realize.  Obviously that's in later years not right now. 
    We never had separate paper.  Who has time for that?
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  • But that reveals the secret. If you're paying attention.
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  • shellyamf said:
    But that reveals the secret. If you're paying attention.
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  • As a kid if I saw that Santa used the same wrapping paper as my parents, I'd wonder why.
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  • I was the same as Tara and Mark.  Santa didn't have any wrapped presents.  Just 1-2 from Santa, a few from parents, ect...  We still went to Church and learned that Christmas is about Christ but Santa stuff is just fun.  
  • Ours were all wrapped.  Just that they were all wrapped in different types of paper.

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