January 2012 Weddings
shellyamf
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just need to vent
It's probably partly my overdue hormonal person but ugh! I love my MIL. I got lucky and have a sweet MIL that I genuinely get along with. But of course there are things that bug me. Like the fact that we asked if she wanted to visit for Lily's birthday, she said maybe, two days later sends us her flight info. Without checking to see if the days and times worked for us. I feel like it's a bit rude.
But my main vent is about P. His mom texted him tonight asking if she could bring her boyfriend. (Happy she's asking). He said sure but also let her know that my mom and sister will be here. So now she's freaking out we won't have space for them. Which we do. I'm not seeing his texts to her so I'm not sure what all he's saying. But I told him to reassure her we have plenty of space. So he tells me he told her my family would only be here for one night. Umm, WTF? No they will be here longer. He's now trying to have my family stay in Cheyenne and just drive here for the party. Which it could be an option.
But: 1) my family made plans to visit first, so I'm not booting them out. 2) we have plenty of space - the only tight spot is one shower so we have to plan around that. But we have a futon, air mattress and couch for plenty of sleeping space. 3) Cheyenne is out of the way for my mom and sister since they will leave Sunday to go back to KS. Making them drive back to Cheyenne to sleep adds unnecessary gas and time to their drive.
So I'm super annoyed with him right now. I don't feel that the answer is to accommodate his mom who made her plans without asking what nights were good. My mom asked when she could stay before making her plans. He got super pissy with me when I told him flat out that I was not kicking my mom and sister out when we have plenty of sleeping space. In my opinion if she doesn't want to share her time here with my family she can rebook her time for a different weekend or for different nights. Or she can book a hotel if she's that uncomfortable staying here now.
It just makes me feel like she doesn't like my family. And I get that feeling from P too when he gets so freaking stressed he has digestive issues and such when we go to visit them or they come to visit us. My family may have some crazy in it but his does too. Doesn't every family?
But my main vent is about P. His mom texted him tonight asking if she could bring her boyfriend. (Happy she's asking). He said sure but also let her know that my mom and sister will be here. So now she's freaking out we won't have space for them. Which we do. I'm not seeing his texts to her so I'm not sure what all he's saying. But I told him to reassure her we have plenty of space. So he tells me he told her my family would only be here for one night. Umm, WTF? No they will be here longer. He's now trying to have my family stay in Cheyenne and just drive here for the party. Which it could be an option.
But: 1) my family made plans to visit first, so I'm not booting them out. 2) we have plenty of space - the only tight spot is one shower so we have to plan around that. But we have a futon, air mattress and couch for plenty of sleeping space. 3) Cheyenne is out of the way for my mom and sister since they will leave Sunday to go back to KS. Making them drive back to Cheyenne to sleep adds unnecessary gas and time to their drive.
So I'm super annoyed with him right now. I don't feel that the answer is to accommodate his mom who made her plans without asking what nights were good. My mom asked when she could stay before making her plans. He got super pissy with me when I told him flat out that I was not kicking my mom and sister out when we have plenty of sleeping space. In my opinion if she doesn't want to share her time here with my family she can rebook her time for a different weekend or for different nights. Or she can book a hotel if she's that uncomfortable staying here now.
It just makes me feel like she doesn't like my family. And I get that feeling from P too when he gets so freaking stressed he has digestive issues and such when we go to visit them or they come to visit us. My family may have some crazy in it but his does too. Doesn't every family?
Re: just need to vent
I think that if you have space and are willing to have everyone over, then go ahead. I agree with Jen: send her text. I would also try have a low key discussion with P too about your family visiting and why does he get so stressed out. Try not to stress yourself too much though!
Good luck = ).
01.21.2012---> I married a redhead I'm crazy about.
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