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Got An Offer Curious for your feedback.

Background: Home is listed for $384,900. It's a seller's market here where we live. In our square footage and price range there are very few homes for sale in our highly desirable community. We wrote a few exclusions in our listing: washer, dryer, garage fridge, and a few rooms' drapery panels. We did this because we want those items to go with us BUT we also did that as ways to make negotiating concessions to buyers who asked for these things. We know any future buyer will likely do a home inspection with a radon test. And, we know that our reverse osmosis drinking water system is not working (it's not a major function of the house, so we never fixed it), and the furnace's humidifier is not working either (it wasn't working when we bough this home in 2012 from the previous owners and we never fixed it). We assume buyers may ask for these items to be fixed and/or there may be a few minor things that pop up on the inspection that need to be fixed since it's a 1993 house.

In about 2 weeks we have had 10 showings. 2 of which have been second showings. Three couples buying have expressed extreme interest in the home. All the people through, have said our price is right/good.

We received an offer this morning, from buyers who are not of the three couples mentioned above. Our REA is contacting those three previous REAs to see if their buyers want to make offers too.

This offer has no time limit for a response on it. They are doing a conventional loan with 3% down. The offered $375,000, wanting us to pay 3% of their closing costs (amounts to $11,250), and they want our washer, dryer, fridge, and curtains. If we accepted this offer (and we won't), we'd be forking over $26k roughly.

Our REA said it's a lowball. So, me being the passionate one between DH and me, I have gotten a bit feisty. DH and I agree that we are in the driver's seat and that we aren't going to give our home away in this market. But, we want to play ball and at least do a counter.

Our counter is: $384,900 (original asking price), $5,000 toward closing costs, washer, dryer, fridge, and curtains. We will run it past our REA and get her advice too. AND, we're sitting on this until we see if other offers come in from any of these three other buyers. Our thinking with staying at $384,900 is that they seem cash strapped (they want our appliances, and they are only putting 3% down, and want $11k in closing costs). So, we give them some cash and they do their mortgage for nearly the full amount of the sale price rolling that cost into 30 years. Note: It's odd in our market, and price range for sellers to pay ANY closing cots for buyers, so $5k we feel is fairly generous. 

Thoughts?

Re: Got An Offer Curious for your feedback.

  • I would do full asking price, $5k toward closing costs, no appliances or draperies. Understanding that they will likely counter back to you.

    Their low ball offer would offend me though.  Especially in a sellers market where you have had 10 showings and 2 repeat showings. It isn't like there's limited traffic coming into your home and this is the 1 and only person who has shown interest.

    They need to play ball, but they're not even in the batting cage. 

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  • julieanne912julieanne912 member
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    I think your thoughts on a counter are correct... full price with a bit of closing costs, and the inclusions you listed.  I would maybe wait through the weekend to respond though, since they didn't provide a deadline.  

    I'd like to see a buyer these days with 11 grand in closing costs that the seller can actually legally pay.  That's a huge # these days.  

    It's crazy to me in a sellers' market that buyers would even attempt this, but some buyers still have the mindset of "Well, the worst they can do is say no", and every smart listing agent will tell their sellers to at least counter, so they are probably expecting a counter.  Also, I wouldn't even call it a lowball.  Lowballs to me are like 50k under asking.  

    I would also take the emotion out if it... this is a business transaction, plain and simple.
  • I think your counter is pretty good and I would agree that if they are asking for appliances and curtains that their down payment is pretty much sucking all of the cash they have available.

    I find it interesting that you had to specifically state that the appliances and curtains are exclusions.  In Ohio those are automatically considered the owner's property (not counting stove, dishwasher installed microwaves and mechanicals).  A buyer has to ask if they want something else included.
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  • BostonLilly12BostonLilly12 member
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    edited April 2016
  • AprilZ81 said:
    I think your counter is pretty good and I would agree that if they are asking for appliances and curtains that their down payment is pretty much sucking all of the cash they have available.

    I find it interesting that you had to specifically state that the appliances and curtains are exclusions.  In Ohio those are automatically considered the owner's property (not counting stove, dishwasher installed microwaves and mechanicals).  A buyer has to ask if they want something else included.
    Same here, basically anything that's not attached (ie the rods or blinds stay, but curtains do not).  

    However, I've learned it's best to spell out exactly what you plan on taking, because it saves huge headaches later when a buyer thinks something is included when it's not.  I've also seen the opposite, where the seller tries to leave behind, say, a fridge, and the buyer doesn't want it, and it becomes a hassle right before closing.
  • My parents once bought a house where the seller took all of the light bulbs. I also don't think this is a lowball offer so don't get your panties in a bunch. It sounds like a starting offer. I think your counter offer is solid.
  • AprilZ81 said:
    I think your counter is pretty good and I would agree that if they are asking for appliances and curtains that their down payment is pretty much sucking all of the cash they have available.

    I find it interesting that you had to specifically state that the appliances and curtains are exclusions.  In Ohio those are automatically considered the owner's property (not counting stove, dishwasher installed microwaves and mechanicals).  A buyer has to ask if they want something else included.
    Same here, basically anything that's not attached (ie the rods or blinds stay, but curtains do not).  

    However, I've learned it's best to spell out exactly what you plan on taking, because it saves huge headaches later when a buyer thinks something is included when it's not.  I've also seen the opposite, where the seller tries to leave behind, say, a fridge, and the buyer doesn't want it, and it becomes a hassle right before closing.


    In MN, washers and dryers are optional to include in a sale. All other major kitchen appliances stay. Our fridge referenced here is in the garage, it's a second fridge, so it's not considered in the "major appliances" that stay with the home. Also, we too have to leave anything affixed to the walls. We are going to leave the rods and clips, but take drapery panels from only 3 of the home's rooms (because they coordinate very well with our furniture and throw pillows I had made). The other panels, in other rooms, we were leaving behind.


  • I know lowballs are usually many tens of thousands lower than asking. But more context...homes are selling for at or even above asking right now in our area. Many sellers have multiple offer situations. So, conceding $26k roughly, to these buyers IS, in our market, a lowball.

    Anyway, we're still waiting to talk to our REA again and see what she says about our counter.

    I agree, waiting at least through Saturday makes sense. We are motivated but not desperate sellers, so we do feel that we can afford to take some time.

  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    edited April 2016
    I agree with others that I don't think it's a lowball.    I'd be curious to see what your REA hears from those other 3 that expressed interest - if you're in a desirable area with low inventory and generally a seller's market, I would think there wouldn't be much hesitation from buyers to get an offer in - I think they're feedback is going to be important.  Fingers crossed!
  • Again I'll agree, it's very much a starting offer but not a lowball.  I think your counter is quite reasonable, although I'd be tempted to hold back the appliances for further bargaining.  Hopefully, however, the news that offers are coming in will motivate one of the originally interested families to put in an even better offer soon.
  • In your seller's market I feel your counter is too generous especially since they'll likely ask for more credits after inspections. There's no reason with the interest you've had that you shouldn't also be expecting multiple offers over asking just like other homes in your area. If they're cash strapped they could have written the 3% for closing costs into the offer and offered over asking price ($397k) so you would still net your asking price. I'm a REA and in this case I'd let all 4 agents know about each other and the likelihood of multiple offers. The buyer's agent that submitted the offer knows that that her client's offer didn't stand a chance in your market. Knowing about the other offers will help her explain to her client's it's time to get real!
  • In your seller's market I feel your counter is too generous especially since they'll likely ask for more credits after inspections. There's no reason with the interest you've had that you shouldn't also be expecting multiple offers over asking just like other homes in your area. If they're cash strapped they could have written the 3% for closing costs into the offer and offered over asking price ($397k) so you would still net your asking price. I'm a REA and in this case I'd let all 4 agents know about each other and the likelihood of multiple offers. The buyer's agent that submitted the offer knows that that her client's offer didn't stand a chance in your market. Knowing about the other offers will help her explain to her client's it's time to get real!

    I think your counter offer sounds very reasonable, considering your market.  Seller concessions for closing costs almost always happen where I live, so I found it interesting to read that it is not the norm in your area.

    I used the strategy @Melissa&mark mentioned when I bought my home.  I was fortunate (with a little help from mom) to have a 20% down payment, but it left me really cash strapped for closing costs.  Where I live (I think it's a state law), seller concessions are limited to 6% of the purchase price and I needed every penny of that.  The list price was $79K, which was a great price and below comps (foreclosure).

    I offered the list price $79K, with $4700 in closing costs.  They countered back at $79K, with $2K for closing.  I countered back with $81K, and $4K for closing...which, from their point of view, was exactly the same amount of money as their counter offer.  But, from my point of view, it was $2K less I had to bring to closing and would just get wrapped into the loan.  Win-win for everybody.

    At any rate, if they are truly cash strapped and need as much money at closing as possible, raising the purchase price in exchange for you all covering more closing costs might be a great strategy for everyone.  With the caveat that the house would need to appraise for the higher price and (hopefully) they aren't at the max of whatever they were preapproved for.

  • In your seller's market I feel your counter is too generous especially since they'll likely ask for more credits after inspections. There's no reason with the interest you've had that you shouldn't also be expecting multiple offers over asking just like other homes in your area. If they're cash strapped they could have written the 3% for closing costs into the offer and offered over asking price ($397k) so you would still net your asking price. I'm a REA and in this case I'd let all 4 agents know about each other and the likelihood of multiple offers. The buyer's agent that submitted the offer knows that that her client's offer didn't stand a chance in your market. Knowing about the other offers will help her explain to her client's it's time to get real!

    Thanks for your response. I seriously question the buyers' REA's abilities too. When he provided our REA/us with their preapproval letter their personal details were included - like that they get child support and how much they have been preapproved for in a mortgage amount. It majorly gave away their hand....their mortgage preapproval MORE than qualifies them to buy our home. By comparison, when our REA had our preapproval letter from our mortgage broker, it was just that we had excellent credit, solid work history, and that we were capable of carrying two mortgages (we were considering putting in an offer contingent on our sale of our home), and that we would be preapproved to buy the SPECIFIC property in question. It wasn't a generic one size fits all letter that gave away our hand.

    Now, these buyers are sitting on our counter offer. It's been over 36 hours since we gave it to them (we did not put a time stamp on it). Their agent says they are "mulling it over." And, I'm thinking "What's there to mull over? Either you want the home and you understand this is how negotiations work, or you don't want the home and you walk away. It's not rocket science." I have a gut instinct that I don't want to do business with them and I don't want them to buy this home. But right now they are the only offer we have, so we are just waiting them out (arms crossed kinda thing - first one who talks, looses). We are in no hurry right now. We have plenty of cash to do what we need to buy another home in the mean time. So, it's really only their time they are wasting. Maybe they think they are making us squirm by not responding, but they aren't - we don't care. We know another offer will come eventually. More and more buyers are popping up now that spring has sprung.


  • I wouldn't necessarily write them off because they are taking too long considering your counter offer.  You are certainly in the enviable position of having a hot house in a hot market.  If they accept your offer, whenever that might be, than great.  But if a similar/better offer comes in, in the meantime, well too bad so sad for them.  They just learned the hard way you need to "use the facilities" or get off the pot (to put it politely, lol) in a seller's market.  There is no time for dilly dallying.

    I had a recent strange experience in real estate also.  I answered a Craig's List ad for a company selling two townhomes, but only wanted cash sales.  I acknowledged they wanted cash sales, but told them I would possibly buy both if they would be willing to finance.  I also offered a few sentences regarding how I was more than qualified to obtain real estate loans and already had a strong relationship with a lender, so closing should go smoothly and shouldn't be longer than 30 days.  They told me financing was okay, especially since I might want both, and I went to a showing for one of the units.  I made them an offer a few days later.

    They took 10 days to respond back to me at all...guess they didn't find their cash buyers.  Then accepted my offer and would send me the purchase agreements (weird, but okay) once they received the preapproval letter from my bank.  A preapproval letter also sounded weird, because it's an investment purchase I'd buy under my LLC, but I asked my loan guy about it.  Sure enough, no, preapproval letters aren't done for commercial loans.  They're really more for owner-occupant buyers, but always have to be someone buying a property under their personal name.  But he did give me a letter outlining my loan terms for this specific purchase, including the interest rate and required down payment.

    I sent that to them the same day and gave a brief explanation that I'd be financing the loan commercially and these were the terms.  They took an entire week just to reply back that what I sent them didn't look like a preapproval letter and they needed a preapproval letter.  I went into a longer explanation as to why a preapproval letter was not possible. I also pointed out that while, sure it could blow up in underwriting (though not likely), that can happen with loans that had "preapproval letters" also.

    Over a week later, they are still "thinking about it".  And, of course, what is hilarious to me is...if they would have just accepted my offer over three weeks ago...we'd already be about to close on BOTH these properties they are trying to sell.  As for me, I've already written them off.  I've been more than patient and find their behavior bizarre...which sets off my gut reaction.      

  • I wouldn't necessarily write them off because they are taking too long considering your counter offer.  You are certainly in the enviable position of having a hot house in a hot market.  If they accept your offer, whenever that might be, than great.  But if a similar/better offer comes in, in the meantime, well too bad so sad for them.  They just learned the hard way you need to "use the facilities" or get off the pot (to put it politely, lol) in a seller's market.  There is no time for dilly dallying.

    I had a recent strange experience in real estate also.  I answered a Craig's List ad for a company selling two townhomes, but only wanted cash sales.  I acknowledged they wanted cash sales, but told them I would possibly buy both if they would be willing to finance.  I also offered a few sentences regarding how I was more than qualified to obtain real estate loans and already had a strong relationship with a lender, so closing should go smoothly and shouldn't be longer than 30 days.  They told me financing was okay, especially since I might want both, and I went to a showing for one of the units.  I made them an offer a few days later.

    They took 10 days to respond back to me at all...guess they didn't find their cash buyers.  Then accepted my offer and would send me the purchase agreements (weird, but okay) once they received the preapproval letter from my bank.  A preapproval letter also sounded weird, because it's an investment purchase I'd buy under my LLC, but I asked my loan guy about it.  Sure enough, no, preapproval letters aren't done for commercial loans.  They're really more for owner-occupant buyers, but always have to be someone buying a property under their personal name.  But he did give me a letter outlining my loan terms for this specific purchase, including the interest rate and required down payment.

    I sent that to them the same day and gave a brief explanation that I'd be financing the loan commercially and these were the terms.  They took an entire week just to reply back that what I sent them didn't look like a preapproval letter and they needed a preapproval letter.  I went into a longer explanation as to why a preapproval letter was not possible. I also pointed out that while, sure it could blow up in underwriting (though not likely), that can happen with loans that had "preapproval letters" also.

    Over a week later, they are still "thinking about it".  And, of course, what is hilarious to me is...if they would have just accepted my offer over three weeks ago...we'd already be about to close on BOTH these properties they are trying to sell.  As for me, I've already written them off.  I've been more than patient and find their behavior bizarre...which sets off my gut reaction.      

    Yes. Gut reaction. I get what you mean. I said to my DH yesterday about our prospective buyers, "They need to 'go' or get off the pot."
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    I think this is pretty ridiculous...and maybe my impatience is eeking out. I feel especially irked because IMHO as a previous banker/loan officer before SAHMhood, if you don't have enough cash to buy a $384,900 house and you're only putting 3% down on a mortgage, and you're mad that your prospective seller won't concede over $20k to you, you're buying TOO MUCH house. And, I quite frankly, don't want to "help" people who are making dumb decisions. THAT irks me!
  • Has your REA been able to contact the others that were interested to get feedback?  Our area is pretty desirable with low inventory, and we put in an offer the same night we saw the house.  We left our REA office at 10pm!  We didn't want to chance losing it.  I'd expect your other interested buyers must have the same understanding.....
  • Your intuition was telling you something was off, so it probably is for the better.  Everything happens for a reason!  Keep us posted!
  • Any update?
  • Wow, that's a crazy story! I hope the second buyers realize what a huge favor you did them. If they were that tight on money, they wouldn't have lasted a year. So glad you found a reasonable buyer to proceed with.
  • Glad to hear you got something reasonable. :)
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  • Sounds great so far!  Hopefully the buyers stay reasonable during the inspection process also.
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