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Time to look for another job - sadness - UPDATE

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edited August 2016 in Money Matters

Hey All--

I just need to vent a little and talk about my frustrations, so I appreciate your bearing with me.

Some of you may remember I was moved into a new position at my company a few months ago.  I thought it would be a positive change because I hadn't been very busy in my last position.  Instead, it is like de ja vous (sp?).

I'm just not that busy and it is driving me nuts, plus now I feel like I'm also more closely monitored.

The big boss just called me into his office to discuss my lunch time hours and to "double up my efforts" to stay busy and be doing company work on company time.  First off, the lunch time thing is totally unfair.  This is a pretty casual company.  I was 20 minutes late coming back from lunch a few weeks ago.  My immediate supervisor talked to me about it...fair enough.  Not a big meeting, just passed by and mentioned it.  But then she said something about noticing I was often late and to be more conscientious.  I was thinking, "WTF are you talking about?"  I usually stay in for lunch.  The only thing I can think of is sometimes I'll eat a little later, but while I'm working?  I don't even know.  Oh!  And he also said that he had talked to me about this before (um, no, he never has).

As for the staying busy, again, I don't know what they want.  There are just only so many times a week I can go back again and again to the same people offering my help.  Supposedly, there is a big project coming my way in the near future but, we'll see how long it lasts.  He seemed to have the impression that I am doing a lot of personal business on company time.  And, again, I don't know where that is coming from.  Especially since I am in a cube environment, I am extra careful to only use my phone during lunch time and very occasionally on breaks.  Which we are supposed to have two a day.

I haven't been happy in my new position anyway, though I like the work just fine when I have it, and the (above) conversation has just really upset me and put me over the edge.  I do like this company and most of my coworkers are great, but I just think the time has finally come to try and find something else.  Which I find really scary, because you just never know what kind of environment you'll end up in.  I'd hate to jump out of the pot and into the fryer, but I've just become so miserable here.

Thanks for reading my bummed out post!    

Re: Time to look for another job - sadness - UPDATE

  • That sucks...  I hate when you get blindsided by ridiculous comments that have little/no basis in reality.

    It sounds like you might have a tattle tale sitting near you who is reporting to the boss.  To keep the peace I would start making a quick announcement as you head to lunch to the people who sit next to you "Hey guys, i'm going to lunch, I'll be back in an hour (or whatever your lunch time is).  If anyone is looking for me I'll be in the lunch room".  This might be helpful on days where you eat later than normal so that someone doesn't think you started lunch at noon and didn't come back until 2:00.
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  • AprilZ81 said:
    That sucks...  I hate when you get blindsided by ridiculous comments that have little/no basis in reality.

    It sounds like you might have a tattle tale sitting near you who is reporting to the boss.  To keep the peace I would start making a quick announcement as you head to lunch to the people who sit next to you "Hey guys, i'm going to lunch, I'll be back in an hour (or whatever your lunch time is).  If anyone is looking for me I'll be in the lunch room".  This might be helpful on days where you eat later than normal so that someone doesn't think you started lunch at noon and didn't come back until 2:00.
    I agree with this.  How frustrating.  I know you mentioned your company has been having some layoffs; perhaps they are trying to get ahead of things.  In any case, it does sound like you can find a better fit for your goals and work style.  Best of luck with the search; I know it can be super frustrating.
  • ugh I hate office politics that's why I could never go back.  Sorry you are dealing with it.  There's nothing worse than a micro manager boss - I had one of those and I always felt I was being watched and it gave me anxiety.
  • labrolabro member
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    I also agree with @AprilZ81 regarding the tattle tale. I hate that some people are 1. Super nosy and 2. Over-report on situations that are totally not in touch with reality.

    I'm sorry, the whole situation sucks. I hope you can find a new job you love very soon!!
  • vlagrl35 said:
    ugh I hate office politics that's why I could never go back.  Sorry you are dealing with it.  There's nothing worse than a micro manager boss - I had one of those and I always felt I was being watched and it gave me anxiety.
    I have a micro-manager boss right now.  Drives me nuts, but the pay is good and I have a mortgage to pay. :(
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  • jtmh2012 said:
    vlagrl35 said:
    ugh I hate office politics that's why I could never go back.  Sorry you are dealing with it.  There's nothing worse than a micro manager boss - I had one of those and I always felt I was being watched and it gave me anxiety.
    I have a micro-manager boss right now.  Drives me nuts, but the pay is good and I have a mortgage to pay. :(
    I don't think I could ever be paid enough to deal with a micro-managing boss. I've changed jobs because of that kind of crap. 
  • Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

  • Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

    Yeah I would definitely start looking for a better job asap.  You spend at least 40 hours of your week at your job.  I remember thinking "there's more to life than this" - it really gave me a negative outlook on life and I got to the point where I would bring my iPod to work and just plug in those earphones and listen to music all day so I could tune it all out.
  • Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

    THIS! I had one micro-manager barge into my office without knocking and she was pleased as punch with herself because I had Facebook open. I'm a litigation paralegal - I was digging up dirt on the guy who sued our client and I had the email from the OWNER of our firm asking me to do exactly what I was doing to prove to her I wasn't screwing off. Who gets happy about "busting" someone? I got the last laugh in the end - they eventually demoted her and made me her boss instead lol
  • Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

    THIS! I had one micro-manager barge into my office without knocking and she was pleased as punch with herself because I had Facebook open. I'm a litigation paralegal - I was digging up dirt on the guy who sued our client and I had the email from the OWNER of our firm asking me to do exactly what I was doing to prove to her I wasn't screwing off. Who gets happy about "busting" someone? I got the last laugh in the end - they eventually demoted her and made me her boss instead lol
    I don't understand people who have the energy to do this.  Unless deadlines are being missed and work done poorly who cares if someone takes a few minutes to check facebook or send a text?  We are all humans, not robots, and sometimes we just need a break.
    Formerly AprilH81
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  • AprilZ81 said:

    Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

    THIS! I had one micro-manager barge into my office without knocking and she was pleased as punch with herself because I had Facebook open. I'm a litigation paralegal - I was digging up dirt on the guy who sued our client and I had the email from the OWNER of our firm asking me to do exactly what I was doing to prove to her I wasn't screwing off. Who gets happy about "busting" someone? I got the last laugh in the end - they eventually demoted her and made me her boss instead lol
    I don't understand people who have the energy to do this.  Unless deadlines are being missed and work done poorly who cares if someone takes a few minutes to check facebook or send a text?  We are all humans, not robots, and sometimes we just need a break.
    Did I miss your pregnancy announcement?  I saw your 8 week ticker - congrats!
  • vlagrl35 said:
    AprilZ81 said:

    Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

    THIS! I had one micro-manager barge into my office without knocking and she was pleased as punch with herself because I had Facebook open. I'm a litigation paralegal - I was digging up dirt on the guy who sued our client and I had the email from the OWNER of our firm asking me to do exactly what I was doing to prove to her I wasn't screwing off. Who gets happy about "busting" someone? I got the last laugh in the end - they eventually demoted her and made me her boss instead lol
    I don't understand people who have the energy to do this.  Unless deadlines are being missed and work done poorly who cares if someone takes a few minutes to check facebook or send a text?  We are all humans, not robots, and sometimes we just need a break.
    Did I miss your pregnancy announcement?  I saw your 8 week ticker - congrats!
    I never officially made an announcement, the ticker just showed up one day. :)  I actually need to adjust the date as my due date keeps moving, but this will do until I get a "final" due date.
    Formerly AprilH81
    photo composite_14153800476219jpg

  • edited June 2016
    AprilZ81 said:
    vlagrl35 said:
    AprilZ81 said:

    Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone!!!  The micro-managing boss comments a bit hit the nail on the head.  I've worked here for over 4 years and this is the FIRST time I've had any kind of negative meeting with the big boss about my work performance, so it definitely upset me and was jarring.

    I was even giving a second look to some of the work I was doing yesterday afternoon and thinking, "Could this look like personal business, even though it isn't, to someone just glancing at my computer screen."

    I felt a little bit like a crazy person but, what's that old joke?  "You're not being paranoid if someone is really out to get you."

    THIS! I had one micro-manager barge into my office without knocking and she was pleased as punch with herself because I had Facebook open. I'm a litigation paralegal - I was digging up dirt on the guy who sued our client and I had the email from the OWNER of our firm asking me to do exactly what I was doing to prove to her I wasn't screwing off. Who gets happy about "busting" someone? I got the last laugh in the end - they eventually demoted her and made me her boss instead lol
    I don't understand people who have the energy to do this.  Unless deadlines are being missed and work done poorly who cares if someone takes a few minutes to check facebook or send a text?  We are all humans, not robots, and sometimes we just need a break.
    Did I miss your pregnancy announcement?  I saw your 8 week ticker - congrats!
    I never officially made an announcement, the ticker just showed up one day. :)  I actually need to adjust the date as my due date keeps moving, but this will do until I get a "final" due date.

    SITB
    I was wondering this too! But Congrats anyway!!
  • Oh my goodness!!  So much has happened at my job since this last post.

    Sum-up of previous post - Had been moved to Doc Control (DC), hated it, had some issues with the DC manager, wasn't busy enough, so unhappy was ready to start job searching (despite loving working for this company the last 3 years), plus lots of layoffs going on.

    Had previously worked in both the Steel Management and the Procurement departments.

    About a month ago, the only person left in Steel Management (SM) put in his notice for greener pastures.  We used to share an office before I was moved to DC and I was very excited for him.  I was also VERY excited to be moved back to SM, back to my old office, and out of cube land and out of DC (though I still help out when time permits).  However, now I am doing my previous job, plus his.

    Then two weeks ago, another big layoff hit our project.  The only person left in Procurement...who has been working specifically in Procurement jobs for 30 years, ie substantially more experience than me, was laid off.  I was really bummed to see him go.  He is a great guy, only about 5 years from retirement.  We were both friends and coworkers.  And now everything he did falls on me also.

    My job has become extremely stressful, though I am at least managing the workload.  However, this is the first week where I don't have a mound of work to do for both departments.

    The other issue.  In the short term, I feel like my job is very secure until about Dec.-Jan.  But things are winding down.  I'm not actively looking for work at the moment, but I might start up again in Nov.

    It is miraculous I have survived this long.  I find it shocking, in fact, lol.  My only explanation is I have experience in three departments, so I can be multi-functional as the work starts to diminish.  And, I hate to say it, but I'm probably also cheap.  I don't know what my previous Procurement coworker was making, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was double what I make.

    Bottom line, at least I'm much happier at work than I was (despite the work overload), but long-term job security is nebulous at best.

  • edited August 2016
    Aww, that really sucks..instability in a job is scary, I feel your pain as I came close in March....but I'm glad things are looking up for you happiness wise! Just make sure your finances are where you want them to be
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