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Small vent

Got home last night to find an invitation to a baby shower for our new niece.... which is being hosted out of town, next Saturday.  Nobody bothered to tell us earlier.  Nobody bothered to tell my MIL & FIL earlier either.  MIL & FIL are getting them the crib.  H and I are doing the mattress and sheets/crib skirt set.  We had decided this awhile ago and MIL still wants to stick to the plan.

We were planning on buying them our gift next month and had budgeted for it at that time.  Now we had to move that up and pay expedited shipping to boot in order to be sure our gift will arrive in time for the shower.  Oh, plus a totally unplanned trip to Atlanta next weekend.

It's whatever.  But not going to lie, getting 1 week's notice for a shower FOR OUR NIECE really rubbed me the wrong way.

Any other vents?

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  • Wow, that stinks! I wonder why it was so last minute...? I'd be really annoyed for sure so don't feel alone!


    My vent- One of the cable cords for our auto garage door snapped Thursday AM, so now we have to have someone come out to repair it next week. Ugh! We can still use is manually but it's a pain and something that wasn't planned! I have to transfer $ from our online house account which won't be in our checking account until Monday so we can't have it fixed sooner....we are now going to keep $1,000 in our BOA savings account just to have a large amount of cash on hand right away for emergencies like this!

  • labrolabro member
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    That's really frustrating! Expedited shipping really rubs salt in the wound too. Who's hosting the shower anyway? I can't believe they waited this long to send out invitations!

    I have a lot of venty work feelings right now but it's all too long and complicated to type out here so I won't get into it. Suffice to say...I really really need more vacation time!
  • csuavecsuave member
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    @hoffse that really sucks.  I just can't comprehend what you described. 

    It is Friday and I am happy so not much to vent about so I guess I'll go with my getting older health problems.  My back hurts, if it doesn't start feeling better it could slow me down on the chores I want to do this weekend.
  • That really stinks. I personally wouldn't do the expedited shipping and just have it shipped directly to their house instead. Then have her open a card with a picture of what she's getting from you guys inside it. This way you don't have to lug the crib to Atlanta and she doesn't have to lug it home either.

    My Vent is that H is possibly going to Wisconsin tomorrow. Every year for the past 10 years we've done this trip. It's the 3rd weekend of July every year with his online car group. It's always a blast. This year there has been zero planning. Nobody knows if they're going, who's going, etc. We didn't book a hotel because nobody said where we needed to nor would answer when it was asked. So now it's the day before the usual trip and none of the wives are going. The guys are all thinking about just driving up that morning and coming back that evening. Yet they have no clue where they're supposed to go.
    It's a great trip that we've done all these past years, but it's time to just let it die. Everyone has had kids, many have sold that car, and its fizzled out. The ones we're close to are ones we see outside this annual trip anyways. They're amazing friends and I'm so thankful for that online car group he got involved in, because I have one of my best friends from it. But just let it die.

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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    We did regular (free) shipping for the crib mattress, but we expedited the bedding so that we can wrap it and give it to them during the party.  That was the compromise H and I came to.  I couldn't bring myself to expedite both.

    I have no idea why this is so last minute.  One of their friends is hosting it, and she sent really nice printed invitations and stuff.  OK so this MUST have been planned at least 3 weeks ago in order to get invitations ordered, stuffed, and mailed.  FFS let people know it's coming!  Especially the grandparents!  I have a feeling my MIL is going to have the crib expedited so that it shows up in time.  I bet that's going to cost her a small fortune.

    I also wonder about H's little brother.  He lives in Madison, WI and is one of those really nice kids who makes a point to show up for family events even though he lives far away (I call him a kid, but he's only 4 years younger than H).  If I know Ben, he's probably going to be buying a very expensive, very last-minute plane ticket to Atlanta for this.  It's the first grandchild/niece/nephew in H's family so it's a big deal.

    Etiquette fail.

    I'm sorry to hear about the other vents too.  I hate it when these kinds of things all seem to happen at once!


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  • I was really hurt when a good friend of mine, who lives OOT from me in CA, sent a wedding invitation with only 3 weeks notice.  I didn't even know she was engaged!  As it turned out, they were having a low key wedding in her parent's backyard and were only having about a one month engagement.

    I still couldn't make it due to the short notice and the fact that my return flight would have been on the first weekend of the Mardi Gras parade season.  Which would have meant few seats available, ie high dollar cost.  But I was at least a little mollified.  At first I thought she had B-listed me.

    You and your H are troopers, @hoffse.  It does seem weird that, even if the invitations were sent late, your MIL and FIL weren't at least given a heads up phone call!

  • Not much of a vent due to anger, but more sadness. My grandfather isn't doing well and will likely pass away soon.  He's the last grandparent I have living. It marks the passing of time and how we're all getting older. His mortality makes me think of my parents' and how someday I'll be without them as well. Sad.

  • Not much of a vent due to anger, but more sadness. My grandfather isn't doing well and will likely pass away soon.  He's the last grandparent I have living. It marks the passing of time and how we're all getting older. His mortality makes me think of my parents' and how someday I'll be without them as well. Sad.
    I'm down to my last grandparent and she's having memory issues. :(  I've been having the same thoughts as far as getting older goes....
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  • wow that is super short notice on a baby shower - that would irk me too.

    I really don't have any vents at the moment which is pretty good 
  • csuave said:
    @hoffse that really sucks.  I just can't comprehend what you described. 

    It is Friday and I am happy so not much to vent about so I guess I'll go with my getting older health problems.  My back hurts, if it doesn't start feeling better it could slow me down on the chores I want to do this weekend.
    getting older?  Have you seen a chiro about it.  I have a small discomfort in the middle of my spine that I"m seeing one for now - it's from my yoga i'm sure.
  • I'm so sorry, @MommyLiberty5013. I mentioned my most recent MM vent in the weekly check-in, but mine was being made "point person" to make a deposit on a condo for a wedding in October without any notice to allow me to budget for it. So annoying!
  • csuavecsuave member
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    vlagrl35 said:
    csuave said:
    @hoffse that really sucks.  I just can't comprehend what you described. 

    It is Friday and I am happy so not much to vent about so I guess I'll go with my getting older health problems.  My back hurts, if it doesn't start feeling better it could slow me down on the chores I want to do this weekend.
    getting older?  Have you seen a chiro about it.  I have a small discomfort in the middle of my spine that I"m seeing one for now - it's from my yoga i'm sure.
    Yes, I am seeing my chiro for this one but he hasn't gotten it totally solved yet so I am going to see my DO when I can get in.  No yardwork is getting done this weekend :(
  • Not much of a vent due to anger, but more sadness. My grandfather isn't doing well and will likely pass away soon.  He's the last grandparent I have living. It marks the passing of time and how we're all getting older. His mortality makes me think of my parents' and how someday I'll be without them as well. Sad.
    Aw I'm so sorry to hear that....I think the very same thing as well....death is one of the hardest parts of life.....
  • Not much of a vent due to anger, but more sadness. My grandfather isn't doing well and will likely pass away soon.  He's the last grandparent I have living. It marks the passing of time and how we're all getting older. His mortality makes me think of my parents' and how someday I'll be without them as well. Sad.

    I'm so sorry to hear that!  Life is too short and time goes by way too fast.

    I really sympathize.  I only have my grandmother left.  She's 91 and, although there isn't anything immediately concerning, she is just in ill health all around and it would no longer be a surprise to get that dreaded phone call from my mom (her daughter).


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