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Warning: Bratty Vent
My MIL, who I love dearly, is finally booking the trip to Ireland she wants to take us all (DH, BIL, myself) on.
While I realize this is an amazing opportunity, and people don't usually drop coin to take thier family on an international trip, it would be awesome if she could just lock in the dates!
I do not have the most rational of work places, and taking a solid 2 weeks off is pretty much like asking for a gold plated baby, slathered in diamonds, topped off with an ancient Mayan relic. In other words: rare.
I gave dates I could go, making her aware that if a project comes up and I get locked into it, I won't be allowed to go. But weeks later, no plans. No dates. She saw a travel agent so we're moving up in the world.
And guess what happens today? There is a project I got put on that overlaps the dates. So I need to get my vacation in before the dates for this project are final or I'm screwed.
This is turning out to be way more stressful than it should be. I love my MIL to death, but dear heavens to Wetsy Betsy could she please just make a decision? Ugh.
Re: Warning: Bratty Vent
I would probably just tell her that you are getting assigned a new project and that you really need to know the dates now or else it's really looking like you wouldn't be able to go.
Maybe it will be the kick in the butt she needs to get things moving. Good luck.
I just ballparked the dates and turned in my vacation request so I could at least get it in. Hopefully I won't get the shaft.
We told the ILs we weren't going to really start "trying" until after the trip. We wanted at least one trip under our belt before kids. We weren't playing the grandkid card, but those are our plans. So either sooner or later. We're fine either way, but magically after that bit of news, a month was nailed down.
DH's family will research things to death and take seemingly forever to decide things. My family is like, "Weigh options. Boom. Decision. Done. Moving on." Striking a balance of the two is tough.I do have to laugh at their reason. Sorry it's making things difficult for you at work.
Wow, funny - I had the EXACT same experience (a 2 week European trip) with my ILs BEFORE they were my ILs... which made me feel even worse for being frustrated, and also like I was not able to speak up...
Taking 2 weeks at that time at my job in NYC was like asking for a million dollar raise, and MIL wouldn't nail down the dates.
GL! I feel your pain!
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I'm sure DH knows about how you feel.
Since she is MIL maybe see if he could give her that nip in the butt to get her to make something official so you can join them. After all, he's her son, he may know what makes her kick it in gear and without offending her.
That's certainly the last thing you need, more stress for fear of it coming out wrong/taken in the wrong context.
I hope everything works out for you! You deserve to take a vacation just from that, my golly!