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y'all would be proud of me - work update (sorry long)
So most of you know how I've had a hard time getting along w/my manager, pleasing him, etc. I can't seem to do right and I'm walking on eggshells (not the norm for me in a work environment).
So today I go in to do my goals/plan for the year (we have 3 step process that takes the entire year and is part of your review) and I see he's filled out my part already and checked off the "team member" portion along w/his. The norm is for me to fill it out, then he fills it out, we meet to discuss and then both submit a summary - this is to be used/updated for the mid year and end of year reviews.
I was like WTH?!!?!?!? So I IM him to find out that he says "well you can still update". Ok, not cool. He did this at my end of year review where he closed it out and I couldn't provide a rebuttal.
So I'm pissed and fuming (but not too bad!!!!) and decide I've had enough, I need to talk to our Sr Dir (his manager). I was VERY calm, very nice about it and he's going to meet with me soon regarding this. I told him I have changed my ways, my personality, etc to try to work through this and there's still a problem. I've tried talking to him and he changes the subject (my mngr that is). I told him about the review step and what he did - Sr Dir said "that's not how it works, he can't do that". OMG, thank you. I indicated to him that I did NOT want to make things worse or feel as if I am "throwing someone under the bus" but that I'm trying hard here.
I'm to the point where we would move, I want to find a new job and apparently that's not what needs to be done. Still, I don't know if it can get better, but hopefully after talking to my Sr Dir it will help.
There's been SEVERAL things where we've had probs, I've documented them and am going to ensure I have what I need when I meet w/Sr Dir.
Wish me luck but I'm proud of myself that I finally went to talk to him (Sr Dir) about this. Enough is enough, seriously. I feel like I'm the one being thrown under the bus!!!!
Sorry so long, feels good to get that all out.
Re: y'all would be proud of me - work update (sorry long)
Good for you! It sounds like you're taking the right steps to do something about your ongoing work problems and for that I am proud of you.
I'll send good vibes/prayers your way!
Agreed...and maybe when your boss finds out that you can stand up for yourself in a professional manner he will stop being such a bully.
Katie, I am so proud of you! Hopefully talking to your SR. mgr will help the situation. I know how frustrated this whole situation has made you. I'm so glad you talked to them. At least you can get some of this off your chest and hopefully things will get better after you are able to talk to the sr. manager. Congrats! I'm proud of you!!!!!
Thanks so much y'all. All of you are the best. It definitely has been a long time coming but I'm one to try try try and try again before resorting to something like this. Not that it's a bad thing, I think it's the right thing.
I did go in this morning and print out my beg year review stuff as it sites that he did this. I'm taking an hour or so out of my day today to document everything. I am also going to put together some "pain points" and ensure I discuss those with my Sr Dir when we meet. That way I'll stay on track.
My mother also suggested that I ensure that I discuss this in a manner of a complaint and not criticize my manager - I think that's wise too.
Again, I appreciate all the support and prayers. I need it and am grateful to have a job, but right now it's one I dread and want to try to get it better.
Thanks Jaime.
I'm working on documenting everything now. Wow, I didn't realize how much I had or all that had happened over the last year +
Hopefully it will help - I don't want to make things worse or appear as if I'm throwing him under the bus but obviously since I've tried to work with him on it before and it's not any better, I needed to go to plan B.