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Insensitive comments
I had a really bad day today work, and to top it off I got comments from a good family friend that are just harsh and hurtful. Gotta vent this out.....
So as most of you know, I know there are a lot of new people here my husband found out he has Huntingtons Disease in September. His father has it, so he had a 50/50 chance of having it. So this friend says, "You should have gotten tested before you got married, so when you found out you wouldnt have gotten married to him.' Also she said to my mother, 'You should have demanded her to get him tested, and not let her marry him." The last comment she said was, "She should have sex with another man and get pregnant that way." Those are just really insensitive comments. I knew him 6 years before getting married to him, and if I knew before he defiantly had it I would still get married to him. I knew those chances. But I think it is an insult to anyone with a disability. Your telling that person they dont deserve the right to be with someone else or to have children. That is just wrong.
Re: Insensitive comments
wow. I really hope that this woman was just not thinking before she spoke bc those comments are really hurtful and out of line. No one has the right to say what you "should have" done bc they are not in your shoes.
I am really sorry that you are having a crappy day and had to deal with those comments on top of it.
Vent away...
She deserves a philly style verbal lashing. Cut her loose, she isn't really a friend and doesn't deserve you in her life.
She's probably just jealous that you and your husband are happy.
That's really horrible. I can't believe that anyone would think something like that, let alone say it. WTF is wrong with her? I think I would have been too shocked to say something back. Sounds like she's not really a friend at all.
I've found that, most of the time, when people say really hurtful things like that it's because they're jealous. Like one of the other girls said, she's probably just jealous that the two of you have a strong enough bond to stick together through this. Love is love, and obviously she just doesn't understand that.
I'm pissed at this woman for you!
LOL
I honestly just winced when I read that womans comments. She is clearly an idiot. Im sorry you have to deal with her, and suggest if possible to cut all ties with her. Im offended by it, so I cant imagine how much those words must have hurt you.