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Just need to vent....
I just need to vent!
Long story short, my SIL, who I usually love, is coming in from South Carolina this weekend to pick up her grandkids. They are going to live with her permanently. Some of you may remember DH and I had them in foster care before we got married.
SIL has commented many times that because she's going to be raising children it's like we're "pregnant together". Umm...Actually it's not.
SIL has said many times that she would like DH and I to bring the baby down there this summer. It's a 13 hour drive. I told her not this summer as I will be breastfeeding and feel the trip would be too difficult with an infant. Her rebuttle was that she did it with her 4 year old grandaughter and the baby will sleep the whole way anyway. Yeah....a 13 hour trip with a four year old is very different than with a 3 month old breastfeeding infant.
She used to be a labor and delivery nurse. She told DH that the only true way to induce labor is to have sex. DH told me she said that we better have a lot of sex this week because she would like for us to have the baby while she is here. Ughhh!
My hands are so swollen I can barely hold a pen. My feet are so swollen my flip flops don't fit. My lips are so swollen I have developed a lisp. I can't sleep. My ribs are killing me. I would like to meet my daughter! No one wants this baby to be born more than me...but I should have sex per her request so she can be here????
Perhaps I am just over reacting because I'm exhausted. Either way...I just needed to vent, so thanks for that opportunity! Don't feel like you need to respond, I just needed to get it out! I know that my daughter will be here soon and none of this will matter. But right now, it's a little irritating!
Re: Just need to vent....
I'm so sorry you are having to deal with your SIL right now. I'd find her remarks irritating even if I wasn't in your shoes at 39 weeks pregnant! Plus, riding in a car with a breastfeeding infant is not going to be a picnic like she said it was. I took Madeleine to Massachusetts at 6 weeks, and we were constantly stopping, feeding in the car, and it took us so much longer to get there!
I'm so sorry you're dealing with the bloat, too. That sounds awful, but in just a couple of days, you'll be meeting your little girl (and your body will slowly get back to normal!)
I wish you the best of luck for a smooth delivery very, very soon! I'm looking forward to seeing pics!
Like Jill said...I'm not 39 weeks pregnant (and have never been pg) and I still think her comments are annoying and irritating.
Hang in there...soon you'll be posting that your little girl is here and that's all that will matter
Did I already know the kids were going to live with her permanently or is this a new development? Seriously, I wish I could remember things! I'm sure you're going to miss them!
I'm sorry she's adding more stress. Easier said than done but try to brush off her comments... it's been HOW long since she was pregnant and remembers how uncomfortable those last few weeks are. All that matters is frocusing on the 3 of you.
We just drove to MD for Easter. It's an hour and 15 min drive but took us longer b/c we had to stop to feed Ethan. I wouldn't be driving 13 hours anytime soon.
I've been thinking about you and can't wait to hear when you have your little girl!!! Lots of Hugs!
TTC since Jan 07. Dx with PCOS Jan 08
Thank so much for your comments ladies! I'm feeling much better today, probably because of the sunshine.
I know she will be here soon and none of this will matter. I guess I should get used to people saying stupid things to me because I'm sure I'm going to get lots of unsolicited parenting advice! I should just view this as practice.
Thanks again for letting me vent and for your comments. I will keep you updated!