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Nervous Nelly
Ladies- I am a nervous wreck. If you read my blog this is a repeat, sorry :-(
We are supposed to bring our first foster child home tomorrow. She is already in care so we have to have a meeting with the current foster mom, the parents, social worker and us before she moves. We have never met the parents and are worried about their reaction to a SS couple.
We have been told that they won't cancel the placement even if they freak out but I am still scared to death. We have waited so long for this. We already know both girls and are 100% ready to love them and give them a safe place to live and heal.
I am just sitting here, ignoring all the chores I need to finish for her arrival, kind of holding my breath. I never thought I'd say this, but this is a thousand times harder than a failed cycle.
Re: Nervous Nelly
Thanks for answering my questions :-)
Your feelings are absolutely valid. We face the possibility of stigma every single day when meeting new people. Add to that the emotions of parenthood, taking care of children, having someone care for your children, etc and it can easily be overwhelming. I bet the parents may very well be having the same nerves - will they like us? will they be nice? what will they act like? You aren't alone in this. You and your DW are opening your hearts and home and I'm certain at the meeting everyone will clearly see you are coming from a place of love.
Good luck and let us know how it goes! :-)
You meet the actual birth parents? That seems odd to me. My best friend is doing foster to adopt and they don't want the birth mother to meet her at all to keep where the kids are living a mystery from the bm. Have parental rights been terminated?
I hope everything goes smoothly for you. You deserve it.
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Cymru- No, their rights have NOT been terminated. They still have time to get their kids back. They have visits with the girls every week. We are encouraged to have contact with parents when safe.
I have to stress that we are working towards reunification but are open to adoption/long-term placement. That is why they are coming to us from their current homes, those families are not interested in adoption/long-term placement, they were emergency/temporary placements.