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Would this bother you?

If you noticed that there was a friend listed on a family members facebook that was of your spouses ex? One can only assume that they have kept in touch. Would this bother you?

Re: Would this bother you?

  • It would bother me alot, mostly because of some history and things from the past. 

    Even if those things werent there, it might still bother me as well...just depends on alot-who the family member is, who the ex is (I mean every once in a blue moon its not a BAD breakup and they are a good person that someone in the family might have reason to still talk to I guess).  All depends on alot of factors to me. 

  • Your husband's ex's friend is a friend of your relative on FB?  Confused

    Not sure if I understood correctly ... 

  • imageGipper'sGirl:

    Your husband's ex's friend is a friend of your relative on FB?  Confused

    Not sure if I understood correctly ... 

    LOL! Example: My Mom has my ex listed on her page as a friend. <--- only for illustration purposes only. My Mom would never do that to me.

  • imageambrose:
    imageGipper'sGirl:

    Your husband's ex's friend is a friend of your relative on FB?  Confused

    Not sure if I understood correctly ... 

    LOL! Example: My Mom has my ex listed on her page as a friend. <--- only for illustration purposes only. My Mom would never do that to me.

    Got it Wink

    In that case, I agree with pp.  It would depend on the situation, the people involved and what the relationship was like, but as a general rule I try my hardest not to let stuff like that get to me.  People are going to be friends with who they want to be, regardless of what I think.  It's usually better just to ignore it because bringing it up can cause unnecessary drama.  JMO.

  • Yeah it depends on the breakup. My x still talks to my mother on occasion and my mom sends him a christmas/birthday cards. I can't prevent her from being friends with someone that was in my life for 5 years. While I think it's strange I don't let it bother me. The only thing that really gets on my nerves is in when my mom tries to push me into being friends with him. That makes me completely uncomfortable. I had to tell her in the past I will be cordial but not friends. Mainly because I have totally moved on .. as he has as well. There is no need for friendship in my humble opinion. Maybe that makes me a byotch.
  • HAHA! That was my exact response too... debating with a co-worker here in the office who swears its completely uncool to have a relative still in contact with an ex. I gather the relationship didn't end well. ?
  • It would totally depend on the ex. Most of them I wouldn't care about b/c we're still friends with them too and are friends on facebook lol. This goes for both DH and I and some of our exes (of course, these are just ex boyfriends/girlfriends... ex-spouses might be a whole different ballgame) Actually, it probably wouldn't bother me anyway b/c I could use that relative and "spy" on the exes and see what they're up to. Yeah, I admit it. :)

    Besides, with Facebook and Myspace and those type of things, just because they're "friends" doesn't mean they're really friends. I've had some random people add me as friends that I technically know, but NEVER talk to.

  • Not really. I am friends with a few ex boyfriends on facebook. Doesn't mean we really talk that much or at all. Like pp's said it might be different if it was a bad break up or it was an ex husband. Other than that I wouldn't think much of it.
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  • I have friends on my facebook that added me because I met them one time somewhere 5 years ago. I certainly can't imagine getting worked up about who someone is friends with on facebook, I don't think it necessarily means they "keep in touch"
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    Besides, with Facebook and Myspace and those type of things, just because they're "friends" doesn't mean they're really friends. I've had some random people add me as friends that I technically know, but NEVER talk to.

    Good point.  Being 'friends' on FB does not equal being friends in real life, necessarily.

  • imageGipper'sGirl:
    imageRJ31205:
      

    Besides, with Facebook and Myspace and those type of things, just because they're "friends" doesn't mean they're really friends. I've had some random people add me as friends that I technically know, but NEVER talk to.

    Good point.  Being 'friends' on FB does not equal being friends in real life, necessarily.

    Exactly.  It wouldn't bother me at all, but few things do.  

  • Nope it wouldn't bother me.  Being friends on fb doesn't really translate into real life. 
  • I am friends with an ex of mine on fb, and in real life. We talk, but it is casual and no big deal. We were just ex-bf/gf, and are friends now. DH knows about it and is totally ok with it. But again, we broke up on good terms, and have both way moved on. My ex-DH is another story. I can't stand him, and my friends and family all know how much of an asshat he is, so if someone were friends with him, that would bother me. But it is all circumstantial i guess.??

  • I don't think so... my family still keeps in touch with my uncle who is divorced from my aunt (dad's sister) - he was a part of our family for over 25 years.  Just because they got a divorce doesn't mean that we have to cut him out of our lives. Although it definitely depends on the situation.... I don't know I'm 'friends' with a lot of people on fb that I'm not great friends with - just people I know from the past or whatever.
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