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Slightly morbid question

Have you prepaid any of your funeral expenses?

Last night MH and I picked our burial plots.  I think we're picking our headstone today.  It's kind of weird.  BUT, like the guy told us, it's going to be so much cheaper to do it now (Where we're paying $2300 for our plots and vault now, if we had bought them 10 years ago, they would have been $800, so in 10 more years, they will probably be over $4000)...

After we pay for our plots, we're going to go prepay our funerals. 

Re: Slightly morbid question

  • No, we haven't.  We haven't even discussed this, truthfully.  I wouldn't know what to do since I can't decide if I want to be cremated or buried.  Plus... it's tough since we're not religious and I have this thing against being buried/placed in a "religious" cemetary since I didn't live that way.  I only know OF religious cemetaries in our area, so I think I'll end up on a shelf somewhere. LOL
  • No we haven't and haven't even discussed it.
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  • Nope, we're not certain we're staying in this area long term, so I'd hate to pay for funeral expenses and burial plots here only to not live here someday.
  • With the girls on the way, we've been discussing things like this and within the next 6 months will be doing the same.  You're right it is a little morbid, but I don't want anyone to have to worry about this. 
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  • No.  I want to be buried next to him, so I guess we need to do this.
  • I have such a fear of death that I don't think I'd be able to do that now.  Maybe in the future.
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  • imageMrs.Graves5*19*07:
    I have such a fear of death that I don't think I'd be able to do that now.  Maybe in the future.

    I used to think that doing that would be kind of a curse (like if I did it, then I would die because it was something that was taken care of).  BUT after FIL and BIL's death...when we had to pick where they would be buried (although FIL had already paid for his plot and marker) and pick out BIL's marker...I could never EVER let anyone in my family go through that.  It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.  So, to save my parents/my husband/my future children from having to do it, I was happy to take care of it.  And, this is kind of morbid, it was actually kind of fun to do.  And we made sure we got what we wanted. 

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    imageMrs.Graves5*19*07:
    I have such a fear of death that I don't think I'd be able to do that now.  Maybe in the future.

    I used to think that doing that would be kind of a curse (like if I did it, then I would die because it was something that was taken care of).  BUT after FIL and BIL's death...when we had to pick where they would be buried (although FIL had already paid for his plot and marker) and pick out BIL's marker...I could never EVER let anyone in my family go through that.  It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.  So, to save my parents/my husband/my future children from having to do it, I was happy to take care of it.  And, this is kind of morbid, it was actually kind of fun to do.  And we made sure we got what we wanted. 

    I know some people that have planned and some that haven't so I understand both sides.  I do have plenty of life insurance though that will cover the costs so I am happy with that for now.

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  • Well, having the money to pay for it and having someone who loves you pick it for you are totally different issues.  I don't mean to sound bossy or pushy but when we had to choose where my FIL and BIL were to be placed, it was so traumatizing.  Because we kept wondering "Would they want to be here?  Would they prefer somewhere else?"  The cost wasn't the issue when we chose where they went.  It was the actual chosing of the exact spot and of what went on the marker (because we didn't want to do something they wouldn't want and we couldn't ask them what they wanted).  We have the money for our loved ones to do it for us, but the emotional toll it would take on them...in my mind, there's nothing worse that you could make your family do for you.
  • imagefrench526:
    Well, having the money to pay for it and having someone who loves you pick it for you are totally different issues.  I don't mean to sound bossy or pushy but when we had to choose where my FIL and BIL were to be placed, it was so traumatizing.  Because we kept wondering "Would they want to be here?  Would they prefer somewhere else?"  The cost wasn't the issue when we chose where they went.  It was the actual chosing of the exact spot and of what went on the marker (because we didn't want to do something they wouldn't want and we couldn't ask them what they wanted).  We have the money for our loved ones to do it for us, but the emotional toll it would take on them...in my mind, there's nothing worse that you could make your family do for you.

    That's exactly what we were thinking as well. 

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