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wedding guest list etiqutte?

I'm trying to cut back a little on my guest list and I'm trying to be good and proper....I have two male cousins who are 21 and 22 who are both single.  Do I have to invite them with a date b/c it's New Years eve?  I figured if my RSVP's came in and I had more no's then expected I would tell them to bring someone but I didn't know if it would be wrong to invite them without someone

Re: wedding guest list etiqutte?

  • It's your wedding do what you would like. 

    For our wedding if a person wasn't engaged, married, or had been dating someone they didn't get a guest.  If I never met them, I didn't really need them at my wedding.  Also if a family member won't come to your wedding just because they don't get to bring a random date, do you really want them there?

  • NJ789NJ789 member
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    I was invited to a NYE wedding, without a guest, before I met my fiance and I would've had a much better time had I had the option to bring a guest since I didn't know many people there.  Grant it, since its your cousins they'll know a lot more people at your wedding than I did at the one I went to.  I think at their ages, they should be given the option to bring a guest and it should be up to them to decide whether or not they want to. 
  • I think they'd understand if you told them before you sent out the invite, however, their girlfriend at the time might be a little po'd that they don't get to spend NYE with their bf.  If your cousins might not come because they can't bring a date and them coming is important to you, I'd start cutting elsewhere.
  • Hm...normally I would say if you are trying to cut back don't do "& guest" unless it is a serious sig. other, fiance, or spouse. 

    However, being that it is New Year's Eve, I really think they should be able to bring a guest. 

  • Will they be the only ones w/o the option to bring dates?  I think that's the line for me.  If everyone else were to have someone, it would suck to be a 20-something male alone on NYE with no prospects even.
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  • That's what I thought.....everyone else invited is engaged or married so that's their dates and then one guy is being invited with a date b/c he's in our bridal party.  I guess I'll see where they are right before I send them out...if they aren't with anyone then I may say "no guest" but if they are I'll allow it.   There will be a lot of guys their they know....all their older cousins who they hang out with a lot so they would have plenty of people to be with.

     Thanks for the opinions...I know normally it would be ok but the whole fact it was on New Years eve was making me question it

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