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Not enough hours
Does anyone else feel like there simply aren't enough hours in the day? ?For example, I got home last night at 6:15 (I had to go grocery shopping). ?As soon as I unloaded groceries, I cooked dinner. ?As soon as it was done, we ate. ?After we ate, I cleaned the kitchen (really cleaned it - including mopping). ?By that time it was 9 and I Had missed a lot of biggest loser (I was peeking my head in the den every so often to see what was going on). ?I needed to work on our bathroom but I was exhausted so I sat down for a second and realized...
MH hadn't moved the bookcase from the foyer like he was supposed to.
So I went to do it. ?He got onto me for trying to do it and said he would get it today....he got off at 2 yesterday. ?And took a nap. ?
I seriously am considering making a list of everything that needs to be done each week and putting it on the fridge so he might help me with some of it. ?Because between working 50+ hours every week and trying to cook, clean, do laundry, etc....I'm exhausted. ?And I feel like I haven't had any "me" time in forever!?
Re: Not enough hours
Don't feel bad. This is exactly why I am thinking of hiring a cleaning person too...we have this big house for just the two of us and it seems silly right now, but obviously we are planning on having children so we wanted this big of a house...well cleaning it sucks. I also don't have pictures hung and finally got things out of boxes and cleaned out the basement. Don't get too hard on yourself...it all takes time.
now try all of that with a couple of kids, you'll really feel like you don't have enough time. I seriously come home, feed the kids and then have 45 min of what I call "mommy time" where I work out and the kids are not allowed to talk to me, it sounds mean, but it is the only way I'm able to fit in my work out.
Mandy, you have to keep it all in some kind of balance. For instance,.. pictures not being hung? If you die tomorrow (sorry, this is a bit morbid) and you're standing at Heaven's gates, are you going to say "Hey, St. Peter, can you send me back for just a few more days? I have pictures to hang!" LOL
Yeah... didn't think so.
Life isn't about pictures being hung or rooms being decorated. It's not about who had the cleanest house, or nicest manicured yard. It's about things like spending time with your family, your friends, and the cutest little puppy in your profile picture (LOVE IT - I just want to squeeze him!!!)
We're the same way, Jen. ?Bought the big house for the future family and am having to keep it up and it's HARD! ?I'm trying not to be too hard on myself. ?I just...we had all this help lined up to take care of everything the week after we moved in (my mom and aunt were going to come help me hang things and finish the boxes) and then the accident happened, so that got put on hold and we haven't found the time for everyone to come help. ?So I've been slowly doing it but I'm so tired at night that I don't have the energy. ?Plus, I feel like I don't have a lot of help right now. ?MH has spurts where he does a ton, then times when he does nothing. ?We're in a nothing time right now (I even found his dirty socks on the kitchen counter yesterday...I was pretty mean when I found them).?
You're doing the best you can Mandy.
It might not be a bad idea to make a list of things you want to accomplish around the house each week. That way if Rich gets home from work he can take a look at the list and cross a few things off to help you out.
I know exactly what you mean. I think a list is a great idea. This way it is there for him to see too. And hopefully provide some motivation. I may do this myself.