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Moms...
I have a while yet, about 2 years actually, until DH and I want to start a family.
I really cannot wait to have children, but I am so afraid it's nuts. I was just commenting RaeAnt on her post and congratulating her and she said it best:
"I still feel like I'm a teenager finding out they are pregnant."
I am just paralyzed with worry that something is going to go terribly wrong with me or my baby. I know, pessimism is not a good way to go, but at the moment it's hard...
I know I wouldn't be able to go natural, yet I know unless it's an emergency due to breech, not dilating, etc... you will not be offered the C-section. Unless that's changed.
I pass out so easily for one thing and I can see myself freaking myself out and passing out quite often.
I also will have a hard time TTC since the last I had a period was birth control induced about 4-5 years ago.
Are there still "rules" for C-sections or do I have to search for a Doctor that will do it?
If there are exceptions anybody know a great place to start?
Re: Moms...
I don't really know the rules of whether or not you can just voluntarily have a C-section, but I did want to comment on your fears.
First of all, I always knew I wanted to have kids. Yes, I had fears too that something would be wrong with my baby. I had nightmares while I was pregnant that my baby was born blind. I think every normal person goes through that!
As far as passing out, my sister passes out very easily too, but she actually managed just fine when she was pregnant. She had to have the sugar test twice too (where they take blood) and she did just fine! I think when you know that there is a little person inside you, maybe it just makes you more brave and you don't think about what is actually going on. You think about what is to come - that you are there to prevent anything bad from happening to your baby.
When you do finally meet your baby, there is no better feeling in the world! For those that aren't moms, it is just indescribeable. It is amazing how much love you can feel for your baby! I really can not imagine my life without Rachel!
Anyway, I'll quit blabbing now. Best of luck to you whenever you do decide to start TTC!
1. It's definitely normal to be completely nervous/scared/worried!!
2. You'd need to talk to your ob on the elective c-section. Many would probably do it - the rates are already high in this area, so you might be surprised by how easily they might willing. I'd also say to look up some more info - that might help to ease your mind a bit. There are so many options for managing pain that it might help to ease your fears a bit!I'm not a mother and we haven't decided yet if we'll try for a baby. There's a high miscarriage rate in my family (my mom had 4 after I was born) and the entire labor part scares me to death to the point that I have always joked that I would be the patient that goes in for the elective c-section
Everyone always tells me yeah but the recovery takes longer, you don't get your abs back, blah blah blah.
I think it's normal to have those fears - every woman does, and even though I didn't have any scares after the first trimester, I worried that there was something wrong up until the day I went into labor.
If you find a doctor who will go for an elective C-section, unless he can find a reason why you need one, your insurance may not cover it.
I wound up having a C-section without having given any prior thought. I had an epi and was pushing but my DD just wasn't progressing. I don't regret having the C-section, but I would have preferred the vaginal delivery. I didn't get to hold my daughter until 2 hours after she was born. It took me two weeks to recover, and I'm a fast healer. Please consider all the pain involved. It hurts to sit, stand, lay down, cough, sneeze, laugh, etc. for several days after the C-section. I'm not trying to scare you, I'm just letting you know what the C-section experience (without complications) entails.
Two points, FWIW:
I know Hershey Med supports elective c-section; my friend thought she'd have to convince her doctor, but it turns out it's no big deal.
And as far as irregular cycles, I was the same way. Was on the pill for 13 years to regulate my cycles, so I thought it would take a while to get pregnant. But I quit the pill in July and got pregnant in late October, having never had a natural period. Obviously each situation is different, but I was pleasantly surprised with our luck, despite my history.
Just stay positive!
www.babycenter.com is a great resource. As for your fears, I don't think they ever go away I would ask other moms questions and do your research...it will help lessen some of the fears. Don't rule out a vaginal delivery, you'd be suprised how easily your body takes over and you forget the pain. You also don't have to have a med free birth and there is tons of techniques and drugs to get you through labor.
I still have time.....so I will take the advice of researching.