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Kids
For those who are considering kids (or even those who may consider kids in the future) - - -?
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Have you ever considered adoption? ?Why or why not?
Do you think if you adopted a child you wouldn't love him/her as much as a biological child? ?Why or why not??
Re: Kids
We've talked about adoption. ?If we aren't able to get pregnant, that's probably what we will do (instead of fertility treatments). ?
I think that you can love an adopted child as much as your own "real" child. ?My MIL's neighbor lost his son in a car accident when son was 17. ?This was 5 years ago. ?Neighbor and his wife are adopting a child that they have had for the past 4 years. ?And he told us that he never thought he could love anyone like he loved Nick, but he was wrong. ?After hearing him I realized that it doesn't matter if you give birth to the child - what matters is that you give the child a life.?
Yes we've talked about adoption for our second child. There are so many children all over the world that need good homes and MH and I would like to help out and provide a loving home for one of them.
I definitely think you can love an adopted child as much as your own! One of my co-workers adopted a baby when she was 3 days old and she's now 13. I can just tell by the way he talks about her that he loves her just as much as his "real" daughter.
Have you ever considered adoption? Seriously, yes. I've always acknowledged that I might not be able to have kids, or at the very least it could be potentially VERY difficult for me. So yes, adoption has ALWAYS been an option and a very possible one (even if we did have kids I personally gave birth to.) My heart breaks when I think of all the kids out there who need someone to love them. Yes, I know they'll come with challenges, but challenges are nothing new to me thanks to my insane family.
Do you think if you adopted a child you wouldn't love him/her as much as a biological child? Why or why not? I think I missed out on the gene where people feel they can't love a child that didn't come from their womb as much as one they gave birth to. LOL Or maybe its the insane Mother Hen desire I have (I know someone's going to read that and laugh! LOL I genuinely do Mother those around me.)
We have talked about this intensively. Depending on how things continue with TTC most likely we would adopt as our next alternative. There are so many children that need good homes.
I think that you can love the adopted child just as much as your own. They become part of you and your family.
We have talked adoption very seriously. Especially since we are having such a hard time conceiving. Also because I don't know that I could handle IVF or IUI. This is something near and dear to our hearts. Derick was almost given up for adoption but his great-grandmother took him. Once she passed when he was 10 he floated from house to house with neither of his parents wanting him. (Didn't know his dad till he was 10) He felt so alone then and often times didn't know where he'd sleep at night. He'd really like to give another child a home because he knows what it's like to not be loved and it hurts him to see children have bad home lifes.
I do believe we would love them just as much as a biological child. If I didn't think we would I would never consider adopting. On the other hand I would only adopt once, maybe twice. My uncle does fostering and adopts. They had 4 biological children and adopted 6 children of the many he fostered. He fostered them first and if they came up for adoption he adopted them. I thought it was horrible and felt so bad for all the children not just he adopted ones. They were all starving for attention. There was definite favortism and many of them had disabilities, mental or physical. They couldn't get the care and attention they needed. So I'd never adopt that many kids.
we've discussed it. obviously I had my boys when I met my husband, we are almost finished with the first adoption!! (my husband will be a "legal" daddy in about a month) there is no doubt in my mind that my husband loves the boys the way he would love a biological child, and I feel confident that if we were to adopt we would feel the same way towards that child.