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momma said there'd be days like this..
Before we got married we had a situation arise with an ex of my husbands who claimed her 15 month old was his. And she was going to wait until after we got married to take us to court because she knew I would take care of it. well that was the first my husband had heard of it, and I was floored, but we got married, and are doing great .So she did what was promised and ordered a paternity test and we got the results today that it is his.
Nothing is going to change how much I love him. He made a mistake 2 some years ago and he feels bad for it. And its not the end of the world, the child deserves to be loved and we are going to do that. And we can be a good influence on him because his mom is NOT. She is actually pregnant again with another guys baby which is probably another reason she wants support. There is more to her story but I just wondered if anyone else has ever been in this situation or has any outsider advice. I dont really know what to do at this point besides love my husband.
Re: momma said there'd be days like this..
wow. i wish i had some really great advice. but it doesnt sound like you even need any. you have the right idea. you love DH and that wont change, and this child needs love too and it sounds like he will NEED you two with a mom like that. so good luck!
(you werent together when he got her PG right?)
Casey, thats a tough situation, I'm sorry you have to deal with it. I think you are doing the right thing by taking this so great and realizing that the child is the innocent one here and accepting this child into your life. I suggest you get a lawyer ASAP so that you and your husband can be protected when it comes time for child support. DO NOT try to work it out on your own, it will backfire. I also suggest maybe posting this on the family matters board or maybe even trouble in paradise (even if there isn't), as the ladies over on those boards give great advice. They will be very blunt and not cover everything with sugar, just fyi. I'm assuming that this child was conceived before you two were together, right?
Good luck, hope it all works out for you.
Casey, I agree with PP. It's a tough situation. I hope the best for you and your husband. Make sure that you get the legal help that you all need so this doesn't backfire on you all, etc. Good luck with this.
Oh we got a lawyer first thing. And they were together way before he and I met. And actually when they broke up he had to get a lawyer because they had a vehicle together so we are using the same lawyer because he knows how crazy she is.
So we started going to rummage sales and looking for some baby stuff. Although I have never been around small children so knowing what sizes, and what is he eating, and sleeping in. Theres alot to go over. But thanks for being supportive. Our next court date is on the 26th so we will start mediating custody and support and all that.