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What is your opinion? (Kind of long)
This is kind of random, but DH and I got into an argument the other day about it, so I wanted to get your thoughts. So, I joined Facebook about two months ago and reconnected with a bunch of my friends. My one friend from college and I made plans to go visit another college friend that lives in NJ - just go down for the day, have lunch, some adult beverages and some good ol' girl talk. So, anyway, I was telling DH about these friends and our plans and he had like 20 questions all of the sudden. "Why didn't I ever hear about these friends?" "How can they be good friends if you haven't talked to them for so long?" "This seems shady....you better not be getting into a bad situation...you don't even know these people anymore"....and the list goes on.
So, I told him that we were really good friends in college, but then "life" happened. I met him and we dated, got married, had a kid, etc. and I had lost touch with those friends during that time.
Anyway, my question to you......is this something abnormal? I feel like with some friends, you can not talk to them for several years but then you can pick right back up where you left off. Is it maybe a girl thing? He kept saying to me, 'well, you know and/or have met all of my friends!"
Sorry, this was kind of long...
Re: What is your opinion? (Kind of long)
It's not like you were never going to tell your DH about your friends, you just stumbled across them and you're interested in picking up where it was left off. Besides it's not like they're 2 guy friends from college.
I understand he's being protective but there's nothing to worry about, you know where you're going, you've been friends before, everything is planned out.
If it makes him feel better bring up having a cook-out this summer and see if he would like to meet them and vice versa, and then he can get to know them, maybe he'll see why the connection was so easy to bring back up.
I don't really have that problem, since DH and I went to the same HS and he knows most of my friends from then. I've lost touch with a lot of them, but I can go for a year or so at a time without talking to my one friend. Then we'll have lunch and just pick right up where we left off. I don't think it's just a girl thing though, because my DH is like that with some of his friends too.
I think your DH might just be surprised to find out that he doesn't know everything about you, which may make him a little paranoid. I agree with the PP about having a GTG at your house, so DH might be more comfortable with your new "old" friends.