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Doctors' office vent (long)
I am having the hardest time finding good doctors here. I was spoiled in Illinois because I had the same primary doctor since I was born, and the same fabulous OB/GYN for years. Then I move here and it all changed. 
I had an appointment yesterday afternoon. The office was pretty slow and I was the only one sitting in the waiting room. Someone called and asked a question. The receptionist put the woman on hold and asked one of the midwives, who was standing right there. The midwife clearly thought the question was the stupidest thing she had ever heard and was making fun of the caller in front of the whole office staff--and me! This went on for a couple of minutes. The only thing I could think was "wow, I hope I never have to call and ask a question." From what I heard about the person's question, it wasn't all that stupid. It was clearly a strange thing to happen to her, and I don't think she deserved to be talked about like that behind her back.
I only wish I would have had the guts to say something to the midwife and office staff, but of course I never think of something good to say until much later.
When I finally got in to the see the doctor, it was the quickest appointment ever. I even had a question that I never got a chance to ask. I know doctors have quotas to meet and all sorts of pressue, but come on. I deserve just a little bit of compassion. We're dealing with my health here, and I walked out of that office feeling like no one cared. And that's a sad feeling to have in the one place we're supposed to go to get quality care.
Re: Doctors' office vent (long)
I have done that, plus I can see a detailed list on the web site. They have a service I can call and they give me the names and info for several doctors at a time. Then, I go to my insurance's web site to make sure the docs are covered, and then I go to various web sites to see if I can find any info on how the docs are rated or whether there's ever been any disciplinary action against them. Then my mom, who is in hospital HR and has connections in this area, calls those people and asks their opinions. It's all very exhausting.
This totally sucks. I know what you mean about finding a good doctor and staying there. I've been fortunate enough to find doctors that I love, and I'd be more that happy to recommend them, but they are in South Miami.
Hope you find a doctor that stops and listens to you, and the staff cares!
"If we couldn't laugh we would all go insane" -- Jimmy Buffett
It does suck. I know there are a lot of truly great doctors out there, but there are also a lot who go into medicine for the wrong reasons. Add to that the pressure to move people through and I think a lot of things get lost in the shuffle.
The other thing about OB/GYN offices is I have a hunch most of their focus is on the pregnant women (because I've had better luck with primary-care doctors). If you're not pregnant, they don't think you need much of anything and it's easier to move everything along. IDK. Maybe that's wishful thinking and I'm kidding myself by thinking it would be different when I'm pregnant.
i'm sorry your experience was so negative. i don't know many people that go into medicine for the wrong reasons (did you mean financial?) because the job certainly is not easy by any means and definitely is not worth the money if you don't like it. however, i think that doctors have their good days and bad days just like everyone else. patients don't really think about that and i think expectations are much higher for doctors to be 100% all the time but the reality is that its difficult to be that way for 10 hours a day. Who knows? Maybe your doctor just had to tell someone that their ovarian cancer is end stage or maybe they got out of a room where the person was asking entirely too many questions that sucked YOUR appointment time up. Every appointment is scheduled in 10 or 15 minute increments and some patients just don't really consider that there are people waiting for the doctor and take a lot of time.
As far as the office staff is concerned....totally unprofessional. I would have mentioned that to the doctor because I'm sure he/she isn't aware of that type of behavior. Not only is it against privacy laws to discuss someone's health in front of another patient but it reflects badly on the physician.