Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Bridal shower invite questions (long)
I posted a bit ago about the bridal shower that I was throwing asking if I was being a stinker about having it at my house when everyone else was pushing me to do it at the MOB's house in Plano. Well, I ended up securing a winery in McKinney because the only day that I can throw the shower is on a day I will be shooting in McKinney anyway. (The bride bought plane tickets without asking my schedule and I am booked solid for that weekend otherwise).
Anyway, so I ask her to send me a list of who to invite to the shower and she sends me the whole invite list. She's wanting a co-ed shower but I don't think I need to invite everyone all over again do I? His family is in Cali, her extended family is in Kansas/Missouri and her immediate family & some friends are here in Dallas.
So do I only invite the Dallas people, send a token invite to his immediate family & the family of hers that she thinks will come down from Kansas? Or do I just send out invites to everyone on her list?
Question part 2: her mother, a local teacher, wants to invite all of her friends to the shower. I suggested instead that she have a sip & see thing at her house since none of those people are invited to the wedding. Good idea or am I being a meanie?
Thanks!!
Re: Bridal shower invite questions (long)
Has any of the bridal party offered to help? That's what they are there for.
I've always thought it was rude to invite non-close family/friends who live far away - since they won't be able to come isn't it just asking for a gift?
Peronsonally, I would do as you suggested only inviting close family/friends who live out of driving distance. But you also don't want to get the bride upset so you'd need to get her buy in.
Is she only having one shower? I had a work shower, a couples shower (with our friends), and then my sisters gave me a small shower the Thursday before the wedding because none of them live here.
I would suggest having her mom host a shower if she wants to invite her friends. I would not feel comfortable asking people to come that were not invited to the wedding.
I would invite the close family from out of town (parents, siblings, grandparents) but that is it. I think it is odd to invite all of your oot guests to the shower.
But in the end, I guess it's all about the bride and you have to do what she wants.
James Sawyer 12.3.10
Leo Richard 9.20.12
It looks like I might be the only one throwing a shower.
Her mom initially wanted to throw the shower at her house with me just giving money and I wasn't interested in getting involved in that mess.