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:::MrsWifey::: How did MILs present go?
I was wondering what you ended up doing about a present for your MIL for Mother's Day?
I used an offshoot of the idea for my MIL. I had no idea what to do for her for Mother's Day so I blew up a photo of MrPokey holding BabyPokey and I put it in a frame. She loved it.
Re: :::MrsWifey::: How did MILs present go?
Pokeybear--your gift sounds perfect and must have turned your MIL into mush over your little guy!
You will be so disappointed in me but, I sent my MIL the card (along with one for Grandmother-In-Law) who is sweet, and after I first arrived to her house with DH and wished her a happy mother's day, I asked her if she by chance got the cards because I know the mail is slow for the holiday.
She replies simply "yes, I got them Saturday." There was no salutation of a quick "thank you" that followed suit! Now, maybe I'm over-reacting but that just rubbed me the wrong way because that's the second gift I've given her where she either didn't say thanks, or it was forced. But in good spirit, I was prepared to give her a small gift of foot products, as she works in a hospital and is on her feet a lot. But, Pokey, I was just so peeved, that the gift ended up staying in my purse the whole day!
But, this happened in between chaffeuring her to a dinner with a good friend of hers, (she opted for that instead of with the family), and afterwards while DH was cutting the lawn, he asked me to pick them up and of course I did. Her friend said thanks but nothing came from her as we got back to her house and spent the rest of the day.
You tell me the truth because I can always count on you to deliver--was my response juvenile?! I just had a moment where I felt tired of making all the effort. Should I have just given her the gift anyway?
No, you did the right thing. I don't think your response was juvenile, not at all. First off, why wouldn't she have said thank you for the card? That makes no sense.
And then, not thanking you for picking up her and her friend is just plain rude.
I would have kept the present in my bag, too.
She must still be really peeved at the whole 3 family house and you guys not living in it or something else is going on. Personally, it would bug the bejeesus out of me that I didn't know what it was, but in no way would I approach her to find out. I can get juvenile, too. If something is bugging her that much she should approach you. I don't see why you should have to investigate what is making her rude and angry.
I'm sorry she chose to be with friends rather than family for the day, that must have hurt DH and you.
My verdict is that you did nothing juvenile, you are totally in the clear.
Not to butt in but I agree. I sent a card. things are finacial strange right now, she should have been thrilled with your card. I sent a card to mother and Grandmother and my mother and that was it! DH recevied a free candle at work he will give to her later but since he didn't think it was necessary neither did I. I am also tired of putting in the extra extraness... so good for you and now you can save that gift for another pending celebration time..which will eventually come up!
Thanks for the empathy Pokeybear. I was surprised also that she opted to have a dinner with her friend instead of the family, but we all did end up spending the whole evening together at her house, where we cooked and the rest of us ate. I think she preferred it that way so DH could cut her lawn.
She can be nerving at moments, but once I understood where it's coming from: her mourning the loss of owning a big family home together, I was able to deal with it gracefully.
Thankfully, DH patiently deals and sees my efforts. It's understood that we had to live our own lives and aspire to own our own home. So, I just try to practice that cliche routine of killing em' with kindness. And sometimes, I swear it's working when she has to admit my random acts of kindness!
Thanks again for your thoughts
Brooklyn, thanks for your two cents because that's exactly how I also felt. Everyone's watching their spending, so receiving a nice card should have been expected. Fortunately, with my job in publishing I tend to receive bits of random free stuff I shamelessly re-gift and most people know that, so I will hold onto the spa foot bag until her birthday. And I hear you on that "extra, extraness!" But, that just keeps us in the best light with our DHs.