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MIL...sigh, just...sigh.
So some family friends are throwing me a baby shower at the end of June. I just sent them my invite list last weekend. I e-mailed MIL asking if there was anyone (her friends) she would like to invite. DH gets an e-mail back saying how hurt sil is that she hasn't been invited, hasn't gotten an invite. MIL lays on the guilt about how sil is part of our family and it would mean a lot to her. That we will be invited to her shower in July. THERE ARE NO INVITES YET! and mil knows this, she hasn't gotten one either. Of course I invited my sil, I'm wasn't raised by wolves. Everytime she starts to look normal something like this happens. DH called and said how hurt we were by the assumption (if she can be manipulative, so can we), but somehow we still came away feeling like the bad guys! Garrrgh. My sil has no social skills, and my mil just encourages it. sigh...
Re: MIL...sigh, just...sigh.
I just gotta say, wow! Don't let anyone rain on your shower though (that sounds weird) but don't make them take away from it. Keep on planning your event and pay detractors no mind.
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I'm sorry that your SIL is acting up again and that MIL is fueling the fire. They suck.
You don't need this stress at such a happy (and nervewracking) time.
If it makes you feel any better, MIL didn't tell my SIL about the baby shower she threw for me at her house. SIL wouldn't have allowed it since technically it is her house (the deed is in her name.) MIL was afraid SIL would threaten to throw her out again, the way she threatend and harrassed after MIL threw our engagement party at the house.
SILs, imho, are a PITA!!
Pokeybear--thank goodness we can always count on you to tell it like it is-- so darn funny and entertaining.
Tovachava: this is your parade and you don't need it rained on with drama! I wouldn't let such foolishness irritate you because it's futile compared to the celebration at hand. If it continues, keep having DH put out the fire so you can relax!
They are all nuts. I just hate that you have to get upset over something so stupid. I'm glad that your DH called MIL. Keep giving him the job of "Protector of the Mommy to Be."
ILs can suck rocks.
Don't feel bad. My outlaw MIL was inviting people after I had asked her for her list of people she wanted invited to the shower. She used so many invitations for her friends that I had to swipe my mother's invitation as a keepsake for myself.?
Don't let anyone rain on your parade. You enjoy it and let someone & everyone else deal with the drama! It will make for a much more enjoyable shower.
And when all else fails, fake contractions. It makes everyone shut up & take notice. Trust me. ?;)
Yikes, that is really annoying. It sucks that they're being this way, especially during this time! And Pokey, I'm so aggravated with your MIL for her weird antics, and I've never even met the woman!
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Duuuude. That's nuts. I am so glad that I can listen to all your family dynamics drama and have very little of it firsthand.
I would have totally played up the hurt at the assumption that you wouldn't invite SIL. In fact, I might have thrown my own little tizzy about how my own SIL doesn't love me beacuse I am having a shower and she doesn't realize that she is invited.... yeah, you get the drift.
Three words: play it up. You can always blame it one hormones. I say, if the family you married into (or they married into) is nuts, you should not only join them in the insanity, but try to at least top it once or twice.
There has been something about this post that has been bugging me since I read it and I finally put my finger on it.
You requested MIL send a list of her friends for the invite list. And SIL gets her nose bent out of joint because of a non-existant snub. How the heck did SIL find out? You never contacted her about the list.
MIL must have called her other DIL (the aforementioned whackjob SIL) and talked about all of this. Why? Why would she call her and tell her that she hadn't been invited? Why would MIL assume that you wouldn't invite her?
MIL must know that you two don't get along. Someone needs to tell her that running back and forth between the two of you and telling stories that aren't true are only making things worse.
I agree with 315Bride, you need to really play up the preg hormones and be devasted by their assumption that you would do the wrong thing and how could they think that of you and why are they conspiring against you and just lay it on. Manipulate them even more, maybe MIL will see that she is causing a huge problem.