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I say: "Don't spend any money"....
he says" I spent $60 at Bass Pro today"....uhm, what part of don't spend any money did he not understand is what i'm wondering?? DH took back a fishing reel & rod today that were broken and needed to be exchanged....he said he was just going to replace them w/ the same thing...apparently that did not happen...he says, "well i thought it was only going to be $30, but then she rang it up and it was $60..."...still, i'm not understanding where don't spend any money caused some confusion! i am so aggravated!!! ...and he didn't work today bc it rained and he works in the concrete industry, can't really do concrete in the rain so all the plants were down so no work.....so he's not working, not getting paid yet spending money.....i'm pissed. UGH...
thx.needed to vent bc he doesn't seem to get it!....and i try to talk to him but he pretty much ignores me and keeps on watchin King of Queens..pissed again!
Re: I say: "Don't spend any money"....
He does not do the finances, I do. I pay all the bills, i keep track of the check book. He has absolutely no freakin' idea how much money is in our checking acct.. i told him either sunday or yesterday, we need to try not to spend money this week,kinda tight..........uhm??? i'm really mad. if you can't tell.
i'm sorry i may be blowing this out of proportion, and i keep thinking about and keep thinking and thinking....
*hugs*
that sucks. Let him have some time to cool down and then you should sit down and talk with him some more about it. Explain your budget to him. show him the check book, and what the money is being spent on. Then he can see exactly where the money is going and why this $60 is such a big deal?
I totally understand why you are pissed, I would be too. I agree that you need to sit down with him and go over the bills and what you have to spend. If he is not involved in it then he isn?t going to care what he spends. However I?m sure now is not the time. Set up a time to really talk about this with him when you aren?t as mad and tell him you want him to be involved. I take care of the bills but I do tell DH to make sure he looks in the account and sees what I have set to pay out so he knows whats going on and doesn?t just spend frivolously. Its hard in the beginning of a marriage setting this stuff up and figuring out how to make it work. Don?t worry you will figure it out.
I am done being mad now. I'm cooled down. We talked a little bit. We have had a shared acct for almost 4 yrs. This is not something that commonly happens. I was just really upset bc I know for a fact if the roles had been reversed it would have been equally upset, especially if he had told me not to spend any money... In fact, 8 months ago i had my hair bleached blonde, well it wasn't good, my hair was really dry & jacked up (i wanted blonde but not THAT blonde)....so i went to to the beauty supply store and i bought some shampoo, conditioner & reconstructor - it cost me $57. I didn't tell DH (FI @ the time) bc I didn't think anything of it, it was something that I felt like I needed to have bc my hair was in such horrid shape....well DH heard through the grapevine of his brother , who heard from his mamaw, bc i had said something about it when i was at her house....He was mad at me. He said he thought that I should call him and ask him or whatever before I spend that kind of money on something.....
So I guess my anger was just bc we have been in the reverse situation and he was upset with me.
If DH looked in the acct he would think we have plenty of money , and 60 bucks wouldn't be noticed.....but there are bills that haven't cleared the bank yet....
Any how, thx for letting me vent.