Can't stop crying

Futuremrssoll · May 2009

So, I have been crying for probably the past hour. ?I can't shake the whole moving out to CA thing. ?It makes me so sad to be leaving my family, especially when our baby is going to be one month old when we do that. ?I am trying to be supportive of my DH. ?Right now though, it feels really crappy and I can't stop crying. ?Plus he is going out there for the whole next week to go to a couple web conferences. ?We won't be able to talk about it face to face again until he gets home. ?Oh man, this sucks.

lindyanne · May 2009

I don't know what kind of job he has but is this a move he has to make? Have you talked to him about possibly looking for a different position? If you're worried about the economy, he could start now and try to find something proactively.

DH had the opportunity for a much better paying job in LA two summers ago. We always knew it would be a temporary move (we were thinking 3-5 years when we moved) but we didn't have kids at that point (we were planning to try there once we were settled in though). We have several good friends here locally but a lot of them live scattered around so we thought we'd be able to make it back to see them several times a year (not as often as we normally do but enough). We lived in Santa Monica and were close to Beverly Hills & the beach. It was definitely a great experience and it really put us ahead financially to be able to buy our dream home when we moved back. I don't think I'd do it again by choice but I don't regret it either.

I hope some sleep made you feel a little better. Just try to stay calm about it until you know it's really something you need to worry about.

Futuremrssoll · May 2009

Thanks! ?That makes me feel better. ?He definitely could not move, but the things he wants to accomplish with his career will not be as possible. ?He is part owner of a company that builds web applications for websites like Twitter, and they just received funding from a firm out in San Francisco, which is why they are moving the company out there. ?His two business partners are definitely moving, one with his wife and three kids, one is a single guy. ?We are just struggling because though we know its short term, I would be leaving with my almost 2 year old and a 1 month old. ?My husbands family is very supportive, and I have not talked to my family yet. ?I actually think it would be kind of neat, as long as we come back. ?I will keep everyone posted. ?I definitely feel better with a good night of sleep. ?Thanks for all of the encouragement!

lindyanne · May 2009

Is it something where he could work from home and travel out there like once a month? DH is currently working for a company out of Boca Raton, FL and that's what he does. He has staff there that work under him and he goes down around once a month (depending on the other conferences and stuff going on) and it works out great. He's executive level so it can be done. That might be something he could start feeling out with the other people involved to see if it would work.

jjenkins · May 2009

I think you'll feel better after you get to discuss things more with your DH. I understand it will be difficult for your families since your son is young and the baby is soon here but if its only a year that time will go by pretty quickly. I agree with lindyanne that maybe there's an opportunity to work from here and travel occasionally to CA but if it's web applications I could see the need to be based in CA closer to the Silicone Valley and the other web/computer companies. Good luck with everything!